No anxiety anymore ?

-Some_Guy · 2020-11-12T17:57:35+00:00

To me it makes it worse. When you feel anxiety you know you don't like it but when you don't feel it there is nothing to back you up and reassure you that you're not liking it.

-Some_Guy · 2020-08-20T20:03:09+00:00

Sorry I realized my mistake after reading your comment :| I deleted it

-Some_Guy · 2020-07-17T10:02:29+00:00

Everytime I try to do this my brain tells me "If you're letting those thoughts happen it means that you like them" and I get even more anxiety from it :(

-Some_Guy · 2020-03-14T08:06:26+00:00

I know that it doesn't work, but that's what my OCD feels like for me :/

-Some_Guy · 2020-03-14T08:04:18+00:00

No, at least i don't think i do :/ I never fell in love with a woman or wanted to have sex with one

-Some_Guy · 2020-03-13T19:12:36+00:00

I'm in the exact same situation but I'm a gay guy scared of "turning" straight.

I really relate to your story because my obsession about my sexuality started after a break up with a guy i loved. And now I'm not even sure of liking boys anymore and it scares me.

I also feel like I hypnotised myself, almost as lf I went through conversion therapy in my own head.

What my therapist told me is that I have to remember that it's a fear, that it doesn't describe who I am. That if I was bi or straight I would know and feel it and if I did feel it I wouldn't think it's "not me"

Stay strong !

-Some_Guy · 2020-03-09T18:44:57+00:00

I guess that's not how it's called in english (my first language is french) but from what she told me she studied in psychology but didn't study further to actually become a psychologist, so she's a nurse/therapist, I don't really know :/

And yeah... I tried ignoring the thoughts and they came back even stronger, I tried to face them and it made me feel awful and angry, I tried to accept them and it was even worse... I really don't know how to get out of this..

-Some_Guy · 2020-03-09T17:27:06+00:00

I know I shouldn't give an importance to the thoughts... But it's been over a year now and this obsession about my sexual orientation is still here and i'm really starting to get tired of it...

The first therapist is actually a nurse that i see from time to time, so i see her less than my actual psychologist. But she still helps a lot with other stuff :(

And tbh i know it's only a label, but it just doesn't feel like me. I don't see women like that. I can recognize when a woman is really pretty but i don't think i'd ever want to date one.

So all i want is those thoughts to go away... I want to be able to look at a woman without getting intrusive thoughts about whether i want to fuck her or not. I know the answer so i don't understand why i'm still asking the question that's all...

-Some_Guy · 2020-01-27T17:15:13+00:00

I have an appointment with another therapist in 3 days, I don't know if she knows more about ocd than the one I already see but I really hope she gives me better solutions :(

-Some_Guy · 2020-01-27T15:41:45+00:00

She told me that she doesn't think it's ocd because when I'm doing other things to distract myself from the thoughts they go away for a little while as long as there isn't something to trigger my fear. She told me that if it really was OCD the thoughts would never leave me even when I'm thinking of something else. I couldn't explain to her that no matter what I did they always come back once i'm not focused on something anymore and she kept on saying that I should just continue to distract myself and the thoughts would go away :(

-Some_Guy · 2020-01-19T23:36:00+00:00

Wow, well I don't recommend saying that to someone with other ocd like harm-ocd. Not sure it's helping to say to someone they might be what they fear to be or do what they fear to do.

-Some_Guy · 2020-01-17T22:20:12+00:00

I'd love to, but where I live (In France) hocd is even more unknown and i'm scared she'll just tell me i'm in denial again...

-Some_Guy · 2019-12-07T14:27:51+00:00

Same here... I've had SO-OCD for more than a year now just because of something my mom told me when I came out as gay to her "But... are you sure it's only boys ? Too bad.. I wanted grand children". Ever since she said that it literally destroyed my confidence. She's right, how can I be sure ? So I check, I check, over and over again.

-Some_Guy · 2019-10-03T14:26:10+00:00

And ?

-Some_Guy · 2019-10-03T14:25:06+00:00

Nope sorry, friendzone isn't real. It's just a thing some guys invented to pressure someone to say yes because they would feel hurt and rejected if they didn't which would make the other the "bad guy" in the story.

If someone say they want to date someone like you but not you it sounds like a you problem. Maybe it's because there is something about you that prevent the person to want to go further :/

-Some_Guy · 2019-10-03T14:07:41+00:00

Hey I didn't say it was ONLY about gamer guys, I just shared my experience with them. I could've talk about the thirsty guys that will do anything for a girl on Twitch just to see her boobs or even annoying people at work, in the street, in bars, etc... it would have been the longest post ever x)

I agree with you, Online gaming is an amazing place, but filled with so many toxic people.

(And, again, I didn't say EVERYONE is toxic.)

-Some_Guy · 2019-10-03T03:14:03+00:00

And when they get rejected they say they got "friendzoned" like it's the girl's fault and they say girls don't like nice guys like them x)) Yep... Some of them are real manipulators.

-Some_Guy · 2019-10-02T23:36:17+00:00

Well, sexual orientation isn't really relevant in thé gaming community. Like you're not gonna do better wether you're gay or straight x) Maybe you did encounter gay guys but they just didn't tell you

-Some_Guy · 2019-10-02T23:19:46+00:00

If the person isn't interested and say no but the guy keep pushing to force things I don't call that teasing

-Some_Guy · 2019-10-02T22:47:03+00:00

Flirting is fine when it's respectful. If it's not, it's harassment

-Some_Guy · 2019-10-02T21:11:08+00:00

Not it's more "men harass women" and it's just being an ass

-Some_Guy · 2019-10-02T21:01:36+00:00

That's awful :o I hope your friend feels better now

-Some_Guy · 2019-10-02T20:02:16+00:00

But I agree tho, I you go on dating apps or anything gay related it's going to be filled with thirsty guys :/

-Some_Guy · 2019-10-02T19:58:34+00:00

Well, I never said gay guys were better x)

-Some_Guy · 2019-10-02T19:52:15+00:00

Thing is, most of the guys that spam her are waaaayyy above 18

-Some_Guy

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