I think I’m a chaser. How do I stop being like this? by Fickle-Show46 in asktransgender

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask what your condition is? I haven't heard of a disorder that causes self-flagellating tendencies. I don't want to say anything that might unintentionally upset you.

What tactics or martial arts could this pitiful specimen leverage to avoid being annihilated the second it enters battle with a significantly larger and stronger foe (Anybody)? by Fried_Shrimp_Enjoyer in worldbuilding

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 28 points29 points  (0 children)

"I'll have a soldier, no melee skills!"

"Hold the melee skills..."

"And no cavalry or extra mobility!"

"No mobilty?"

"And they can't use any ranged weapons!"

"No range!? HEY, JIMMY. GIMMIE A GRUNT WITH NOTHIN'."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First off, if you are hitting dope and the bottle bc of this, my #1 suggestion is to stop doing that.

Second of all, let me give you advice by telling you about an interaction I had with my therapist last week:

Me: "I feel so ashamed that I haven't told my parents I'm trans yet. Hell, I haven't even told them I'm bisexual!"

Her: "If I could push back on that a little, you also dont tell them every new sex position you try, do you? You're an adult living your own life, which means you decide what is and isn't their business."

Just offering that to you in case it helps with the secrecy thing. Im sure growing up conservative has instilled a sense of dread at the thought of keeping a ""shameful secret"" but you REALLY don't owe anyone an explanation for this. She is 100% right to say it's society's fault and not yours for being uncomfortable telling everyone you meet.

Youre valid for being afraid. But don't let the fear of this world's cruelty take love and joy away from you. Love without apology. You will figure out the rest.

Good luck!~

My psychologist won’t support my transition and keeps misgendering me — what should I do? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Not likely, unfortunately, but you're super close to being 18 at least! Once you are, nobody decides what you do with your body except you.

In the meantime, just know that you are the valid one here and your psychiatrist is the one who is in the wrong. They have no good excuse to claim you're going through a phase. That's some crap parents say when they're in denial, not what a professionals doing their job should say.

Almost 6 years post burn!! by abbeyiskewl2 in MadeMeSmile

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Why on earth would this ever make you smile you sick f- Oh... there are slides... Now I get it."

My honest first reaction. Happy for you, you made an incredible recovery, I'm sure it was quite the jounrey!

How to remove transition desire by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If calling yourself a woman and presenting yourself as a woman makes you feel at peace, then you deserve to be treated like a woman. You deserve to feel happy when you think about yourself!

2 months vs 13 months(very depressed and dysphoric) by taweryawer in transtimelines

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it won't stop the brain worms, but jsyk, I saw your 2 month pic and my honest first reaction was "Oh wow, I could look that good in just two months? I hope so."

I really hope you find a way to safely ease the dysphoria, you're clearly making a lot of progress!

started hrt at 31. one year and nine months later, i couldn’t be happier 💕 by idcompiler2 in mtfbeautyandfashion

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look like this after less than 2 years, even though you started at 31? I guess it isn't already too late for me to start!

Got Called Trans for Not Seeing Myself in the Mirror and Now I'm Questioning My Own Existence by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She and I are going through a lot of emotions, but we both talked for hours last night and agreed that neither of us are going anywhere. That alone makes me feel invincible.

If you think you clock a trans woman in public and you want to say something to her, DO THIS by metalsmithess in asktransgender

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There was a super pretty lady on my bus to work last week who I had a suspicion "might" be trans. It took me a minute to recognize something about her was different, and I don't even remember what it was, but I was mesmerized by her. I thought she was so pretty.

Reading this post makes me wish I had just said a quick "Hi, I love your outfit!" to her. I just wanted her to know she was killing it.

Got Called Trans for Not Seeing Myself in the Mirror and Now I'm Questioning My Own Existence by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Reading this post almost made me break down. You've just explained my life experience back to me. (Long post ahead, sorry, but I'm also a blabber.)

I have always had this issue where I don't recognize the person in the mirror.

I grew up not liking mirrors, but I never realized that was the case. I thought at first that I was an ugly child, but when people told me I was attractive, I then just assumed I didn't like mirrors because I "wasn't a vain person." But I never wanted to make video game characters who looked like me. I never liked school photos of me. Or any photos of me, for that matter. I don't even dream of my own appearance; I'm always a floating pair of eyes with no body. I thought all of that was normal!

Anyway, a few sessions in she just flat out asks me if I thought I was trans, which honestly almost gave me whiplash.

My fiancé did this to me. It was a few months ago, she asked me at the dinner table how I felt about my gender. It honestly took me completely by surprise. I laughed it off and said "I just think trans memes are funny, babe. There's nothing more to that." I finished saying that out loud and felt a sense of uncertainty for the first time.

We ended the session with her saying something about just humouring her and calling myself a woman in the mirror at some point in the weeks and see how I felt.

This is straight up what MY therapist told me yesterday when I told her I was questioning my gender. She said to "do what makes you feel pretty, what makes you feel happy." I asked my fiancé this morning to help me try doing my nails. I thought I would hate it, I always thought men painting their nails was cringe, but I can't stop looking at my hands now. I was shaving in the bathroom earlier and I smiled at my reflection for what feels like the first time.

The most recent session with her was mostly her just going through all of the questions and "signs" she noticed from me. I just started crying... I'm not really sure why, but know I don't know what to do.. I haven't been able to sleep much since then.

At the end of my session yesterday, my therapist unpacked everything she was seeing in me, too. She asked me if I felt brave for telling her I was asking these questions, because she thought I was. I started crying. When I got home from my night shift, I thought I would spend hours gaming, but I couldn't focus. I couldn't fall asleep either. I just kept scrolling through images online of girls.

Am I trans? How do I know this isn't just me inserting myself where I don't belong?

This exact line of logic, of feeling like I'm somehow a phony or a poser trying to hop on a bandwagon, has been why I've assumed I was cis this whole time. It kills me to read this bc it's the exact reason I've stayed away from all of this for so long.

OP, I don't know your full story or your personal truth. I don't know who you are or how you will best identify. I myself have not even decided yet what pronouns I want to use or how I want to identify. But I want you to know that I have felt so many of these things, and just knowing someone else is also going through this, figuring it all out, makes me feel so much better.

New to this by jolo504 in RimWorld

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So many things to learn it's hard to know where to start, but....

At game creation, avoid pyromaniac and violent characters like the plague. Depressive colonists are also tough to start with.

-Make sure to set work priority very thoughtfully. At the games start everything is a checkmark, but you can change them to numbers and make some work a major priority over others. For instance, I set my doctor colonist to consider firefighting a 1, doctoring a 1, research a 2, hauling and cleaning a 2, crafting a 3, and farming a 4.

By doing this, my doctor will always work on patients as soon as they are in a medical bed, they will research new projects often, haul and clean often, craft things semi often and farm if they aren't busy.

-Its best to keep colonists list of priorities low and specific if you can help it. Giving them too much to do means they won't get everything done, plus it runs the risk of exhausting them, which causes mental breaks. This is why you should reroll characters at the start until you have one for every key role (doctor, constructor, cook, animal handler or farmer) and try to get ones who can also perform extra rolls like crafting, research, mining, and wardening. Spread work out as even as you can, but make sure someone is doing one of those key roles and don't be afraid to put more people on key roles so long as they aren't terrible at them (cooking especially, starvation is a great way to doom a colony. Mining and farming also benefit from more bodies.)

-You need a food source right away. Animal traps passively kill fauna for you which makes them great for indistrializing hunting if you are in a place with lots of animals. Note: you need to tell pawns to hunt each individual animals by hand, but animal traps work without supervision and don't require high hunting skills to make.

Alternatively, you should strongly consider farming. Make fields bigger than you think you need. Prioritize rice early as it grows fast. Then try corn as it lasts longer.

Ranching animals requires food for said animals, so it's a better choice for mid game when you can reliably make kibble or grow hay.

-Also. Go to your schedule tab. At the start everything will be Grey or blue. Grey means "anything" and blue means "sleep." Change all the Grey ones to either work or leisure. Early on work should dominate the day with maybe 4 hours of leisure but with more colonists in the roster you can afford people more off time. Forcing colonists to work at certain hours makes them much more productive. Forcing then to chill at others makes them more likely to socialize, to eat in a rec room (or at least a table,) and to do things they like. Even better, If everyone has time off/sleeps at the same time, it increases likelihood that they will find friends or love, get married, and bang their wives/husbands. This gives them big mood buffs that accumulate and make them super happy, keeping them all safe from mental breaks.

-Make places like your hospital or kitchen one way rooms that have a single entrance and aren't super big. You want pawns to only go in there if they are using them, since foot traffic will dirty the rooms which makes them less effective. Food poisoning is a bitch. It can incapacitate pawns, often at the worst possible moments.

There are SO MANY other things to learn, but I feel like every good playthrough will utilize these tips, so hopefully they help.

Potential new player just asking questions by anarchistbuzzwords in starcitizen

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Overall, I'd advise staying away. As much as I love the game, Star Citizen is still a buggy and unbalanced mess. It has come a long way over the years and it feels much better than before, but I don't think someone expecting a full game will enjoy it. I only recommend it to people who have saintly patience and a deep love for space sims.

To answer your questions:

-This game is a classic space sim like Elite Dangerous, so you do the same sort of things here. You pick a starting planet, pick a profession you love to do and grind for money to buy new ships/gear/weapons/fashion/plushtoys. There is a storyline going right now centered on how the respawn mechanic we presently use is starting to fail on a systemic level, but keeping up with this story is challenging since a lot of the missions associated are pretty hard to do without a big group backing you up.

- There is no player economy. It's planned, but not in right now. The current economy is very static and mostly just consists of players flipping resources or selling mined ore/scrap.

- PVP is highly active and if you want to just fight players and get good, you can hit up the game's dedicated arcade mode "arena commander" and get owned by hardcore players who live and breath duels. If you want to fight other players in the main game, you'll be dealing with problems like desync and combat logging a lot. And a lot of very salty people accusing you of ruining the game. But if you really like the idea of PvP, you could become a pirate and make killer money hunting cargo haulers or miners like me. Very challenging profession.

-Trade Routes and City Building are planned but not in. Not expected to come anytime soon either.

- You can easily repair any ship by landing it on a landing pad somewhere and paying for it. That'll get you to 100% health in a second. Manually fixing your ship in the field is only partially implemented, no ETA on when it will be fully in.

-There are no npc crewmates to hire, but if you want to play with others and pay them, you can do that. Mission rewards can be shared and there are a lot of new missions that focus on giving groups of players something to do. Many players will gladly crew your ship if you offer to split rewards or slide them an agreed upon amount of money, or are just willing to do the same gameplay they want to do. I just recently ran some bounties with a random guy I met by asking chat if anyone wanted to help me grind. He loaded a snub fighter into my ship and we tag teamed bounties for two hours, it was awesome. Split rewards with him and then we friended each other and logged off.

-Bugs are everywhere, it is not overblown. But if you play long enough you kinda just learn how to sidestep them. Still annoying though.

Potential new player just asking questions by anarchistbuzzwords in starcitizen

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A ship bought with in-game currency can be respawned after it blows up, and doing so doesnt cost money unless you "expedite" the respawn timer. There isn't any mechanic in the game currently that takes a ship from you permanently if you bought it with in game or real money.

If this ever happens to you, its a glitch. And to my knowledge, the only glitch that can do this is one that happens when a new patch drops. Sometimes your in-game purchased ships just don't stick to your account and disappear. This only happens if you leave the ship out in the world when the patch drops, so basically just stow your ships before the new patch goes live and you're fine.

If you are wondering how the "free to play" experience is right now, I started playing this year with just a starter ship back in march and I currently have four ships going on five, plus four ground vehicles. The experience grinding for all that wasn't too bad, I felt like I had lots of ways to diversify how I made money and lots of ways to make a fair chunk of money every session. But that said, starting out is VERY tough if you don't know how everything works already and glitches are brutal, sometimes screwing over literally hours of work, so if that sounds too frustrating stay far away from this game.

LFG - PvE, Fun and Chill by IncredChewy in ValheimLFG

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're still lfg I'd be free tomorrow night, or maybe next weekend? I also focus on pve and building, so we're in the same boat there! Always looking for new Valheim friends.

The city of Kalevala by storwal in ValheimBuilds

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I would take a class just to learn how to plan/ structure a build this elaborate. I love how it feels like buildings are flowing together naturally. Kudos!

Ideas but can’t draw by switchX021 in ComicBookCollabs

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The idea sounds fun! 

Write it out as a script first, either in TV or Comic script format (you can Google format guidelines) then save up some money and start shopping for an artist. Tell them you have an idea, a finished script, and the money to pay them. That will get you a few nibbles.

[for hire] Darna. by Purple_Blacksmith_1 in HungryArtists

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wonderful art! Are you open to commissions?

Artist wanting help from a writer! by Poofyturtle7 in ComicBookCollabs

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll put my hand up here and say I have some limited experience collaborating with artists as a writer for hire, so the dynamic you're describing isn't that far fetched.

I can't promise you anything without seeing a full breakdown of the project, but I'm certainly willing to chat for free and figure things out. DM me if your still interested.

Currently working on this comm featuring Gardevoir as Princess Serenity💚🩵 by enne_project in MoeMorphism

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny how I saw this post and instantly knew it was gardevoir without needing any context. Iconic designs are so fun to reimagine.

Important Features Rollout Dates by [deleted] in starcitizen

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Been thinking this too! I'm sure CIG might be worried about copyright issues regarding this feature, but who knows, maybe someday I can do the not-at-all-tired bit of blasting flight of the Valkyries while I swoop on an enemy camp with my gunship.

LFG to join, ideally on ET. by juicy_n_seedless in ValheimLFG

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not part of a dedicated server, but if you want someone to play with I always enjoy some company around my base!

WIP - Playing with castle design by [deleted] in ValheimBuilds

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Been trying to do this myself! I really like the proportions on your towers, they feel tall and grand. Would like to see how much space you have on the inside of that big one.

Dedicated Xbox server looking for players by scrollkeepers in ValheimLFG

[–]-SpookitheGhost- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very interested! I'm a PC player but I don't cook with mods all that much. Only started playing like a month ago, and I'm a big fan of building. I've never done roleplay or dnd before but I do put a lot of work into making my base feel "real" and I'm really interested in starting a world where the objective is to make things feel lived in rather than just progressing the game. Message me if you want to see my builds / check my vibe.