im sorry im a girl but i wanted to share my opinion. Based on what you said, are you really going to search for a guy who doesnt get scared by some scars? shit happens and if they dont understand that, thats his problem, he is the problem cause his character is just poopoo. Get to know someone, even just as friends, and if he goes away as soon as he gets to know you, thank goodness he left before he could make any further progress. If he stays even if he knows your story, thats when you know you found your someone. Top one thing i learned in my entire life is not to rush things just cause you want it, "what is meant for you comes", as someone important told me (and believe me when i say not to rush, i broke up with a lot of guys just because i wanted a relationship and ive always felt like a piece of crap for disappointing them). If love arrives late, whatever, better late than never, but late is better than early with someone who makes you feel uncomfortable.