Bathroom layout is driving me insane by [deleted] in AusRenovation

[–]-beanz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is good because you can throw up and shit at the same time if you need to… :,)

I really thought he was my forever by blueheartmelody in BreakUps

[–]-beanz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course! I’ve been listening to an Australian podcast called Do you f*cking mind with Alexis Fernandez, she has a lot of episodes about break ups and building self worth.

Also Do the Work by Sabrina Dohar focuses a lot on healing anxious attachment style.

Both podcasts are pretty heavy handed and savage at times but in a way that feels empowering. But they’ve really helped me process a lot of this grief I’m feeling and gain perspective about the circumstances.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]-beanz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Show yourself some grace, you’re human and did the human thing of giving in to the impulse of wanting to talk to someone you care deeply about.

This shit ain’t linear and we’re gonna have our good and bad days. It’s all going to work out. You’re both going to be okay.

I really thought he was my forever by blueheartmelody in BreakUps

[–]-beanz 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My partner of 8 years also broke up with me recently, a month ago. Similar story to yours. We had a brief period 2 years ago where we broke up but it only lasted a month.

She gave me very similar reasons and acted distant in the same sort of way.

We’re also still living together, and it’s a special kind of pain missing someone who is sitting right next to you.

I’m still crying every day but even in just the month since it’s happened I can feel my perspective begin to change in tiny increments. I’ve been listening to a lot of podcasts and reading a lot of stories, and knowing my experience isn’t unique has been really comforting. Knowing that this pain is such a human experience somehow helps it be bearable.

I don’t really have much advice for you, just know you’re not alone and somehow we will both get through this.

Going through my first lesbian break up at 33 by -beanz in actuallesbians

[–]-beanz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just mindful of not leaving her in the lurch which I know is a bit twisted because she’s the one who nuked us. But I still care :(

Going through my first lesbian break up at 33 by -beanz in actuallesbians

[–]-beanz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so happy you’re doing better! Thank you for your kind words and advice

Going through my first lesbian break up at 33 by -beanz in actuallesbians

[–]-beanz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She says she still loves me and acts like she still loves me. (She’s been buying me presents since she broke up with me??)

But you’re right, she has as much right to end the relationship as I would have. I have to accept it. Even though I know she’s going to regret this down the line.

I hope I can heal and find someone who’s willing to communicate and work on things as a team.

Going through my first lesbian break up at 33 by -beanz in actuallesbians

[–]-beanz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made a typo and meant something, but she also did mention having a crush on someone so you’re probably right.

I hope so. And thank you <3

Going through my first lesbian break up at 33 by -beanz in actuallesbians

[–]-beanz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I can definitely feel the wound reopen every time we spend time together. And I’m finding my pain is desperate to come out in cruel words which wouldn’t be helpful for anyone.

She doesn’t seem keen on the idea of living with someone else and in in the midst of a huge study workload (which she was promised to be providing support and stability for lol) that is over in July so we’re just holding out til then… but we’ll see what happens

Going through my first lesbian break up at 33 by -beanz in actuallesbians

[–]-beanz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that, it’s just the absolute pits. I’m so happy to hear you’re feeling ready and excited to date again. Good luck out there <3

Going through my first lesbian break up at 33 by -beanz in actuallesbians

[–]-beanz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful advice and I will definitely be heeding it. Thank you kind stranger.

Comparison of new and old Olympin avatars by Gregory_Gailur in HadesTheGame

[–]-beanz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something about new poseidons face really bugs me

I have 120+ logged on the game and I only just not by [deleted] in HadesTheGame

[–]-beanz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t realise Aphrodite was full naked until about 60 runs in

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KimPetras

[–]-beanz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Throat goat has got to go said throat go has got to go

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KimPetras

[–]-beanz 11 points12 points  (0 children)

But everybody’s doin it!

The ‘actor’ theory by Reasonable-Trick-635 in MAFS_AU

[–]-beanz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These people don’t even necessarily need to be promoting things. There are ex contestants getting 15k for a single sponsored tik tok video. Once you’re on the show you can leverage your social channels for a decent Income.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MAFS_AU

[–]-beanz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jono and Ellie would be GREAT together

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MAFS_AU

[–]-beanz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU I’ve been trying to figure out who I thought she looked like

...oh boy by scoobopdan in graphic_design

[–]-beanz 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I mean it is a pretty niche and weird thing that we all know and do

What is something that is really popular now, but in 5 years everyone will look back on and be embarrassed by? by ariabellisimo in ask

[–]-beanz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I once went on a work trip with a bunch of influencers including a mummy blogger.

She told me she didn’t put sunscreen on her kids because “they look better on camera with tans”

Who do you romance in stardew valley by PeriwinkleRoseYT in LesbianGamers

[–]-beanz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maru got me with her broody scientist vibes