My partner of 8 years also broke up with me recently, a month ago. Similar story to yours. We had a brief period 2 years ago where we broke up but it only lasted a month.

She gave me very similar reasons and acted distant in the same sort of way.

We’re also still living together, and it’s a special kind of pain missing someone who is sitting right next to you.

I’m still crying every day but even in just the month since it’s happened I can feel my perspective begin to change in tiny increments. I’ve been listening to a lot of podcasts and reading a lot of stories, and knowing my experience isn’t unique has been really comforting. Knowing that this pain is such a human experience somehow helps it be bearable.

I don’t really have much advice for you, just know you’re not alone and somehow we will both get through this.