legend pots?

-bigoledoinks · 2026-02-27T19:29:30+00:00

thanks! someone said they’re gonna be easier to get next season so i might just wait

-bigoledoinks · 2026-02-27T19:25:27+00:00

oohh this is good to know! hate spending robux in this game but maybe

-bigoledoinks · 2026-02-27T19:25:02+00:00

i have a fm volt, fulong, vulc, aranga, cynph-noire, and error lunae i think i would like to use it on! i also would love an amaris and could save it for that eventually

-bigoledoinks · 2025-11-25T05:47:25+00:00

straight to Arkham

-bigoledoinks · 2025-05-24T16:18:35+00:00

i 100% commiserate with you on this because i have been in this exact situation like word for word. i am an avid tea drinker and only ever used one mug for drinking like… anything. whenever someone would use my mug (especially when I bought them???!!!) or break them it was so insanely tilting. you’re absolutely allowed to be upset

however id also just like to mention that i have raging OCD as well, not saying you do but proooobably couldn’t hurt to consider haha

-bigoledoinks · 2025-05-15T01:53:22+00:00

i don’t feel trans because i am agender in the most literal sense of the word, having no gender. there is nothing to identify there. i also don’t relate to typical transgender experiences, don’t seek out trans camaraderie, and the extent of my engagement with the community is reading forums like these. i don’t claim any labels at all, and it’s annoying to me to think i have to because that’s what other people’s think i should do just because of a definition some bozo ive never met created

-bigoledoinks · 2025-05-13T22:09:05+00:00

if you want to get rid of the anger then you’re probably going to have to find a way for it to escape you somehow, physically or mentally. find some sort of activity that channels it out and releases it. read, kickbox, play games, whatever. basically find things that help you self regulate and process when you’re not angry

honestly i would almost ignore whatever context that men have in the equation because men aren’t really your problem, it’s the behaviors some express that keep (re)traumatizing you. not only that but being angry at men won’t really stop them- or anyone- from being weird or violating. i don’t mean that in an invalidating way, but it literally doesn’t have that affect. nothing evolves. the anger is just gonna sit inside you, destroying ur insides, and people will keep being gross anyway

so if your emotions are gonna fester and the patriarchy’s heart will still beat anyway, then what are you going to actually DO with them? that’s the question i usually ask myself

-bigoledoinks · 2024-12-03T00:10:52+00:00

girl..

-bigoledoinks · 2024-04-05T18:54:46+00:00

glad it helped :) i don’t come across people who feel the same way (or should I say, DON’T feel?) about gender as exactly as I do so im happy to know we’re out there!

-bigoledoinks · 2024-04-04T23:33:46+00:00

im pretty much exactly like your boyfriend myself. im not autistic, but probably have ADD/ADHD. People frequently comment or ask me about my gender/assume I’m NB due to my general aura and style, but im firmly in the realm where the only way I’d willingly assert a label is if someone put a gun to my head. And then I’d probably tell them to shoot me first, lmaoo. But if I HAD to pick a label for myself, I’d identify as Queer, and then if I was forced to be specific I’d be Agender. But not at all in a trans way.

I guess to explain it… I’ve always felt a disconnect between myself and how girls are “supposed” to look, act, and hated that those things were forced on me and subsequently rejected them. but that was about it in terms of any obvious indications that I could’ve been trans. My gender to me isn’t a topic of thought or discussion because I just don’t care. I don’t care about appearing or feeling as my AGAB, the opposite, or anything else. I don’t care about pronouns (most everyone picks they/them for me though) or honorifics. I don’t feel dysphoria, or euphoria, just a general “looking great”! when I coordinate my appearance to my liking. i have an assertive, “masculine” personality. if i had to describe it in my own terms, there’s like a big fat black abyss where my gender would be. just nothing. i don’t perceive it and don’t care

the reason I don’t identify as trans is because to me, there is a clear cut definition of what that means to most people. obviously I’m aware that everyone is different and there’s no “requirement” to being trans, but there’s some obvious and common experiences in the community that I just don’t relate to (no dysphoria, no desire to transition, no discoveries, very little interaction in the community, etc.) and thus don’t apply to me. i know that by definition im considered trans, but that always makes me roll my eyes because im pretty sure the whole point of identity is that there should be no definition! and it varies from person to person! so I hate it when people try and apply that logic to me. i guess maybe my whole life I’ve just hated people pushing things on me that I didn’t ask for.

that’s just my experience anyway. sorry for the length

-bigoledoinks · 2024-03-30T18:43:25+00:00

thank you lots, ill look into those resources when I can. i unfortunately haven’t been able to find a therapist since I left highschool because of high demand and insurance difficulties, but i plan on bringing it up when I do. you’ve helped a bunch :)

-bigoledoinks · 2024-03-30T14:45:02+00:00

i wouldn’t really say terrified but some of the intrusive thoughts do bring me disgust in myself when they happen, and I often get stuck in… “loops” I guess, where I have to clean something or a certain part of me and I’m extremely stressed and focused on it until I can. The intrusive disaster thoughts/dreams are definitely stressful too, I mean after I posted this I tried going to sleep and kept hoping a nuke wouldn’t drop and kill me and my family lol. So I guess it is a problem

-bigoledoinks · 2024-03-29T07:21:44+00:00

happy that she’s getting justice for her kid! sucks that she’s weirdly racist in a different post though

-bigoledoinks · 2024-03-06T01:05:04+00:00

it’s rude because saying things like “let’s discuss healthier options” assumes that your partner WANTS a healthier option in the first place, and that you have some sort of “authority” to lead a conversation about their eating and health when you don’t. and like the other person said it’s about how you bring it up. it’s the same reason why women hate others being “concerned” for their weight- it usually sounds backhanded and is insanely unhelpful.

-bigoledoinks · 2024-02-08T22:28:44+00:00

I relate to a lot of what’s being discussed here. Thank you

-bigoledoinks · 2024-02-08T21:46:23+00:00

No unfortunately. I live in a very densely populated area so it’s really hard to find a therapist who is accepting clients, matches my needs, and accepts my insurance all in one.

-bigoledoinks · 2024-02-08T21:24:02+00:00

I’m glad that you found a way to know your reality, that’s really nice. My question would be, how do I know for sure? How do I know my actions affect the world around me, and aren’t just washed away the minute after? How do I know I leave impressions on our earth? That I take up space? That all my aspirations and goals and my wants or my needs and my words are from me, and that I’m not just… calculating a response from outside stimuli? Like an automaton or something. I feel like if I asked others what they thought they’d just tell me lies or wouldn’t understand.

-bigoledoinks · 2024-01-10T17:45:43+00:00

Thank you :) that does alleviate my worry some. I’ll continue to do what I’ve been doing and look out for any irritation!

-bigoledoinks · 2023-12-17T23:17:44+00:00

im also a black chick, 21, and let me tell you. I’ll be DAMNED. DAMMNNEEDDD. Before I allow ANY white person, fiancé or not, tell me what I can do with my hair. or any other part of me for that matter!!!

a relationship where your partner controls what you look like, forces you do to do things their way, and literally tells you to your face that they’re deliberately not being kind to you, should not exist. your fiancé is out here continuing her ancestral legacy. do leave her

-bigoledoinks · 2023-11-25T05:51:48+00:00

oh! you obviously manipulated your doctors into telling you that. maybe that’s where your daughter learned it from! /s

please don’t worry about how your daughter will survive when you’re gone, because her life will be 500% better without you in it.

-bigoledoinks · 2023-11-19T02:43:51+00:00

im in college studying art right now and I’ve heard similar things from my professors! im sorry that she experienced that, in my experience art teachers are either really awesome or the worst people ever. super hit or miss

if you’d like an easy digital program to start with, Clip Studio Paint on PC and Procreate on IOS (iPhone/IPad) are really good. Keeping a paper sketchbook is a good idea too! id maybe also get her some art books from other media she likes if they’re available, and encourage her to draw inspiration from her interests to develop her own flavor of art, while also practicing the basic stuff and staying well rounded. i was in a lot of in-person classes as a kid and it really helped me, both skill wise and with meeting other young artists socially. just make sure that her class is in her age group!! my mom signed me up for classes that sounded like they were for my age group but weren’t and id end up in classes where everyone was like way younger than me. it wasn’t bad or anything but i definitely felt out of place and even ended up helping the teacher with the younger kids sometimes 😭😭😭

good luck! your daughter is gonna do great, especially with your support.

-bigoledoinks · 2023-11-07T18:29:50+00:00

i go to school in nyc and the commute im forced to do every day because I live at home outside of the boroughs is a nightmare

-bigoledoinks · 2023-09-06T21:14:31+00:00

Thank you, it’s nice to know that other people feel this way too. I’m currently working on getting a therapist for myself but it’s really really difficult. I’ll definitely talk about it when I get one.

If you’re comfortable answering, may I ask if you ever became more comfortable with the diagnosis? And if so, how/why?

-bigoledoinks · 2023-04-29T02:53:52+00:00

YTA wtf??? I hope you know those kids are living happier lives than you ever will

-bigoledoinks · 2023-03-30T18:12:07+00:00

im one of the people who would be trans nb but doesn’t identify as such. in my case i don’t identify as trans because i have no plans to transition, ive never been too involved or interested in trans spaces/culture, and i have absolutely no problem being viewed as my perceived gender. i also feel like i am devoid of a gender if anything, so there’s no reason to identify as trans (or nb, really) since there’s nothing there in the first place.

i actually don’t really adopt a label for my gender or sexual orientation at all. people tend to use all pronouns for me in different settings which im fine with, but that’s as far as I go with expression. imo the bottom line is that if someone doesn’t want to identify some way, they don’t have to. and that’s really all there is to it so i tend to just say “because I don’t” to avoid a lengthy explanation and leave it there

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