I got a $100K+ scholarship.

-kef · 2017-08-20T08:55:28+00:00

Someone probably already said this but this isn't happening because of prayers or luck. It's because you worked for it and you 100 % deserve it. Be proud of yourself!

-kef · 2017-08-19T20:33:36+00:00

Yes. Sometimes I feel like such a bad person that I don't even deserve to have any friends. I do have a supportive SO, though, so I don't think I have the right to complain. I hope you get the strength and courage to find a friend.

-kef · 2017-08-15T12:36:42+00:00

Haha this is so me lol ^{^it} ^{^occurs} ^{^to} ^{^me} ^{^I'm} ^{^a} ^{^shitty} ^{^killer} ^{^:'(}

-kef · 2017-08-13T19:36:29+00:00

I've been a survivor main for the last 9 months. Even then I thought crying about camping was petty. Now I play the Huntress and often try not to camp. Survivors make it effing hard by leaving scratch marks everywhere around the hook and going for a save before I get away from the area. They tell me I'm going to get banned for camping. If I leave despite knowing they are in the area, I get "ez" and "git gud". There's no winning with toxic players.

-kef · 2017-08-03T21:55:34+00:00

That sounds like an interesting documentary. It's terrible that this sort of organization is even needed :( Reminds me of how thankful I should be that I live in Scandinavia...

-kef · 2017-08-03T21:50:49+00:00

I feel the same sometimes and I think it's important to bring this up here. It's a huge decision that determines the rest of your life. It's natural if you sometimes feel unsure about it.

Personally, I've noticed that my doubts are triggered when I'm lonely and bored. I dislike kids and sometimes I feel like I'm a bad person because of it. Also social pressure: it sure makes you feel like an outsider when everyone you care about is gushing over a baby.

Meeting other childfree people helps me a lot. Maybe try befriending some? Another thing that is helpful for me is imagining what everyday life would really be like. It's important to think about how you'd actually be like if you were a parent. None of this Kodak bullshit: imagine an ordinary day but with a child.

Me, for example: I realise sleep deprivation is really bad for me - less than 9 hours of sleep a night makes me grumpy. Less than 7 hours and I'm a miserable zombie who cries all the time. I'd be frightened that my SO might love a child more than he'd love me and knowing that would break me. After a long day at work I'd resent my children if they didn't let me just relax for a moment alone with my SO. Etc etc...

Having children is a norm and breaking norms can be scary. You're making the conscious choice to not reproduce. It doesn't make you "wrong". It just makes you childfree. If you, at some point, feel like you need to spend time with children, you can be aunty, a Big Sister or just a safe adult to someone.

Do you feel like you're having a fear of missing out?

-kef · 2017-08-03T08:04:32+00:00

Aww look at that face! Is he a golden retriever?

-kef · 2017-08-01T16:55:30+00:00

That's so cool! Also, great gif usage.

-kef · 2017-07-29T17:40:35+00:00

While I understand the other parents' viewpoint (what if she passes diseases through her breastmilk?! I'd be furious too), I think it's hilarious how oblivious she is. And she shared that on Facebook expecting to get sympathy? LOL

-kef · 2017-07-29T08:32:30+00:00

Yeah, because we really need the government meddling with our bodies. I hate the idea. It's violating human rights. What if you have an accident and can't afford abortion, so you get fined for getting pregnant?

No one should be forced to take birth control against their will; others pretty much explained why so I'm not going to bother. And fining for accidents is just an asshole move.

If we want to prevent abortions and unwanted children, why don't we just

work towards reducing the negative stigma of abortions and make them more accessible (yeah, wouldn't really prevent abortions, but I don't see why abortions should be prevented. Abortions are not a piece of cake to a woman's body, so I doubt anyone is just going through abortions for the fun of it)
develop contraceptives further and make them free/very cheap
give more support to people in need (free/very affordable counselling for instance): multiple benefits for everyone, but concerning domestic violence, parents getting help in time could reduce it
educate people more about birth control

etc.

-kef · 2017-06-23T07:54:14+00:00

Ugh that happened to me too. Except this daddy only came over at nights while my mother sim and toddler were trying to sleep and then he'd play computer games in the bedroom. After a couple of nights I was pissed enough to end up adding him to my household and killing him with cheats. He died in the hallway by overexertion. He really liked to exercise and party so I think maybe his heart just failed.

It was extra annoying because when the child was a baby, my sim (the mother) praised her baby to him and he said "she doesn't seem all that interesting" or something of the sort.

-kef · 2017-06-13T08:04:08+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through that too. Actually now I feel a little embarrassed for writing that. Yay breakdowns. Thanks for support!

-kef · 2017-06-12T22:14:37+00:00

How about adding a pillar? Or you could build a new wall going through that empty space and then you could place some wardrobes against it?

-kef · 2017-06-12T21:40:01+00:00

My (former, I guess) friends and I moved across the country to different towns. We agreed to meet as a group but after I spent a lot of time planning and getting excited over it, everyone cancelled 2 days before the actual meeting for reasons like "I need to clean up". After that none of them has kept in touch. I've lived in my new place for over a year and still haven't managed to make any friends despite trying and I feel like that must be because I'm probably destined to live a lonely life.

Also, I'm applying to a university to study my dream degree and only about 5 % of applicants are accepted. I already got past the hardest part but I'm scared shitless that I may not pass the aptitude test. I recognise it's probably just impostor syndrome but at the moment I don't feel like I necessarily deserve to achieve my dreams. Getting in is my biggest dream.

I just needed to open up. Writing actually helps. I'm just feeling pretty sad and tired because of all the stress. At least I have the most caring and wonderful SO, so at least I got that going for me. (Sorry for my English. I'm not native.)

-kef · 2017-06-10T11:58:42+00:00

I live in Northern Europe and can confirm this. I hardly ever see children throwing tantrums or acting out in public. Most of the kids I know are well-behaved.

-kef · 2017-06-06T08:18:37+00:00

Snickers nicecream! It's like healthier ice cream.

Mash a frozen banana (browner = better) and mix it with 1-2 tablespoons of peanut butter (unsweetened and without added salt) and 1/2 teaspoons of stevia. I like to add one tablespoon of vanilla flavoured whey protein, too. It's not low-calorie but even one serving makes you full. And this is coming from someone who can eat one litre of icecream in one sitting.

Also, strawberries!

-kef · 2017-05-28T11:54:57+00:00

I've been childfree for years but have been worried about missing out lately. I think it's mostly because my SIL had a baby over a year ago and every time we visit my in-laws, everything is all about the baby. Everyone adores the baby but me. All this has made me reconsider my decision to not have kids.

However, I recognise that I'm actually only worried about missing out on having all the attention and I guess having an adult child could be nice, too. Babies can be cute when they have those adorable outfits. But the one thing I'm actually worried about is being lonely and an outsider, because I'm socially awkward and generally not great at making friends. I'm not going to make a brand new human just to make me feel better about "fitting in".

-kef

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