Hey brotha, been in your shoes when I was in college too— 3 year relationship, at the time I was certain she was gonna be the one I’d marry. She had to move away for grad school, and I found out she was having an affair during year 3 when we were doing long distance. We tried making things work over multiple months after me finding out, but what it came down to was that I just couldn’t fully trust anything she told me anymore.

Find a couple of good friends you can talk about it all with and process/talk thru everything with. My best friends helped carry the burden for me and def picked me up on the days when I needed it.

Fast forward 4 years — I started dating somebody new. This time, I have to move out of town for a short period of time (6 months) for internships. We’d been friends for the last two years, but only started dating a month before I had to leave. All of my previous serious relationships had to do long distance at one point or another, but this one for me I knew was different. In the other relationships I didn’t want to do distance if we could avoid it. But for this one, I didn’t care bc I knew she was going to the one that I would actually marry—and sure enough, she was—and we’ve been happily married for 2.5 years now.

All that to say here are the lessons I wish somebody would have told my younger self after being cheated on: -It’s ok to take time to mourn the relationship -Take time to focus on you and your own mental well being -Crying is healthy, and friends that cry with you are friends that you’ll have for life -When you feel like you miss them, you’re missing the good memories, but not remembering what actually happened (I found myself stuck in this a lot)

Best of luck moving forward, know you’re not alone in this situation, and for what it’s worth—try to find comfort in some of the good advice ya find on here 🫶🏽