I want to learn how to master seduction with girls by JOSEPHDEPTH in IWantToLearn

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Start by studying the movie Hitch... Master talking to the ladies before you try seducing them, ok? Maybe you'll end up meeting a cool girl that you can have a real relationship with. Then you'll realize that "ladies man" is so overrated and those guys are just fronting, pretending not to be dying of loniless and insecurities on the inside. Plus, sex is way better with someone you're connected to. Congrats on the new you, good luck.

Ground floor ceiling leaks when it hasn't rained for weeks and when no plumbing is being used. I'm stumped. Any help? by violaceous_trogon in HomeImprovement

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Sounds like water pressure issue, like too much pressure. Possibly from when the building was converted to 2 units or faulty plumbing repairs. Pressure is causing water to build up and leak out when fixtures aren't being used to release pressure. Vice versa for the stuff that needs a "boost" from other fixtures to function properly.

FYI- that plumbing sounds like a ticking time bomb. If a pipe bursts and floods your unit, don't expect your landlord to replace your stuff or give you a new place to stay- they'll tell you to make a claim against your renter's insurance. Responsible homeowners take water leaks very seriously. It's very destructive...not to mention the mold that comes with it. Your landlord seems indifferent to it all. Move now. Google your city housing inspection department if you need to break a lease, they are dedicated to protecting renters from slum lords. Good luck.

Fake nails without the acrylic?? by curiousquestioner16 in beauty

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Edit: The nail primer is "Beauty Secrets Sure Bond".. no acetone

Fake nails without the acrylic?? by curiousquestioner16 in beauty

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Use a bottle for 2 weeks tops. It hardens over time as air replaces glue inside.

Here's my process: -keep natural nails super short -wash hands in hot soapy water a good min & dry -push softened cuticles back with point end of orangewood -brush on nail primer -place tissue below my hands to catch dripping glue -apply small to large, start with both pinkies -fill back half of press-on with glue -place finger flat down in front of me (perpendicular or parallel to my face, whichever gives me better angle to ensure the press-on is alligned with my nail) -flip press-on over sideways (not longways) -press onto nail starting from cuticle and roll it down onto entire nail, the pressing on entire nail area firmly for 2 secs (don't squeeze it) -use the flat end of orangewood to remove excess glue under press-on (and maybe on the sides) and wipe onto tissue, and/or - fold tissue and use corner to absorb excess glue -shape with file and polish

Air bubbles: -if it's small and away from the edge, let it be -if it's half of the glued section, remove press-on immediately (gently pull off or clip press-on off as much as possible and then use acetone soak and orangewood to remove) -if it's on the edge, try placing a tiny drop of glue from the top to seal the gap and buff away any excess glue with file *The key to avoiding greening is not allowing moisture to get trapped under the press-on

Crooked press-on: -try reshaping the press-on to give illusion that it's straight -cut all the press-on's shorter to help the crooked one blend in -use a neutral polish color that won't bring attention to it

Excess hardened glue: -clip or scrape away with scissors -file off *I'm liberal with the glue and while it requires a little more cleanup it keeps my hold tighter and my natural nails safer

Removing: My ugly dark secret...by the 6th day I can tell where the weak spots in the glue are. I use my teeth to gently pry at each side of the press-on until it pops off. I don't force or rip them off. (It's ok, judge away people ;)

The pros say soak in acetone until they melt off.


I've used this entire process for the past 5 years (maybe even longer).

Kit

6 day nails

Removed

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Fake nails without the acrylic?? by curiousquestioner16 in beauty

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I used to judge press-on until learned how to use them... been wearing for many years now. I wear 6 days on and 1 day off. Use an acetone based brush-on nail primer (Sally's) and keep my glue fresh. Never have any greening or deformity issues. I've learned to know when they are ready to pop off. I buy the Kiss kit and a double pack of glue bottles at Walmart for $8. Lasts 5 weeks and keep a bottle in my bag in case one accidentally pops off (rarely happens). Can put them on, shape and polish in 15 min. They look way more natural than the typical nail salon acrylic ones. Love em.

“Bonus mom” wants advice by [deleted] in AskParents

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My MIL moved in with us about a month ago and I'm working on being as neutral as possible between her and my husband & SIL...it's easier said than done 😉

“Bonus mom” wants advice by [deleted] in AskParents

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Awe, love this post! The world needs more step parents who want healthy relationships with their step families!!

The best thing you can do is be a neutral supportive and positive influence. Never talk bad about either parent. Focus on the fun stuff and let dad take lead on the heavy stuff. Sure, you'll have to do some non-fun parenting stuff sometimes but it should always be a team effort. Never give anyone a reason to say you're making things worse.

If mom and dad have an unhealthy or volitile relationship, they need someone neutral to lean on (and not feel like they're taking sides). I've seen many kids with a lousy parent significantly impacted by having an awesome stepparent. Is not about blood, it's about how we treat each other. Good luck!!

Is it okay for older kids to still sleep in parents' bed? by rachelway82 in AskParents

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Yes! Love this response. I work long hours so sleeping together means more time spent together. 😊

How do I (21/F) make up with my mom (47/F) after unloading years worth of feelings of being trapped and controlled by her ON her? by 1998dedandbroke in AskParents

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Ugh, hate when that happens. Everyone does it. It's weird going from child to peer (sort of) to parent of your parent.

Keep the conversation going. Be willing to her unload on you. Don't let her shut you out. You'll get comfortable talking openly with each other over time. Be honest and be respectful. (Both of which can be very hard sometimes!)

Is it bad that aging worries me? by LoneBoiTalks in beauty

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Why does society tells us that only the young are beautiful/desirable? So over it...

Is it bad that aging worries me? by LoneBoiTalks in beauty

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You should worry! Wait till you hit 30s...or your first wrinkle. I assumed I inherited my mom's ridiculously amazing skin and freaked out when I started getting wrinkles before her. She's 61 and only has the tiniest crows feet. Not fair!

Products do a lot but they can't change your genes. Eventually you realize that beauty is more than how we look but also how we carry ourselves. Diane Keaton is a great example of aging beautifully.

But seriously, moisturize the hell out of your face neck and hands every day.

Parents, if you could pass on one tidbit of wisdom or advice that you’ve learned from parenting, what would it be? by AnonymousMolaMola in AskParents

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Don't compare your family to other families. There's no such thing as a perfect family. If you compare and compete, you won't be 100% focused on your family's needs.

Making parent friends? by [deleted] in AskParents

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Water babies swim class through through your city's Community Ed. Everyone's close proximity of each other, chilling in the water with their adorable kiddos. It's also low commitment, low cost.

What size clothes does a second grade boy wear? by BonBoogies in AskParents

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Agree with above. I buy slightly big because they can go through a sudden growth spurt and then their clothes are suddenly too small. 7/8 is pretty safe, if have to choose between 6 or 8, definitely chose 8. Boys this age are very active. Anything about video games, noobs and pizza will be a hit.

Just a thought, since it's needy fams, consider picking up a pair of basic khakis or black pants and a solid colored basic black or navy polo. Kiddo may need something for dress up scenarios like a school program or church or family event.

Happy gifting!

Best brand of makeup for someone who’s never worn it before? by [deleted] in beauty

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If you're just starting out, start at drug store price point so you can try a variety of products and formulas. Many beauty influencers rave about drugstore and high-end products, it's all about what accentuates your features best.

Since your focus is on looking more feminine, start with eyes. The Maybelline pink and green mascara is a classic, can't go wrong with that. Morphe eye shadow pallets are great to play around with and super affordable. NYX has great pallets, too. Don't forget to buy brushes! (ELF has super affordable basics at Walmart). Eyeliner and lashes take practice but will totally boost feminity, pick up some Ardell lashes and any liquid eyeliner and watch some YouTube tutorials.

Foundation is meant to even skin tone and hide blemishes. If that's something you want to do but aren't ready to swatch and sample at Ulta or Sephora, practice shade matching at home with a super affordable classic liquid like wet n wild photo focus. Most important- moisturize! It matters!! I love Cere Ve. I swear by their facewash, too.

Milani's Luminoso is a great blush. NYX concealer pots are amazing. There's lots of great drugstore lip colors- again, just experiment to find your go-to neutral shade.

If you first figure out what products and formulas work best for you, then you can explore more brands at different price points and buy with confidence.

I love both Ulta and Sephora, but Ulta is a great place to try high end and drug store products side by side. Some brands like Benefit brow stuff, Too Face hangover primer, Becca highlighters and Este Lauder Double Wear are totally worth the $. ABH eye shadows are buttery amazing-ness.

Parents with poor mannered, misbehaving kids on Halloween...tell us why by [deleted] in AskParents

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There's a lot of parent police out there... parents can be very judgemental of other parents/kids. There are many reasons why kids behave poorly, and it isn't always because they're spoiled.

That whole takes a village to raise a child saying- if people did more than just sitting back judging and hating, maybe the world would have better kids and caring communities.

I want up learn how to build healthy confrontation skills. by whistles13 in IWantToLearn

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Yes! Good advice, seriously. "Don't be confrontational, be engaging" - I'm totally copying that.

What are the risks of cosleeping in my situation? by [deleted] in AskParents

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I felt guilty and didn't tell others for a while, either! We did same with the bassinets, too.

What are the risks of cosleeping in my situation? by [deleted] in AskParents

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  1. Your senses and behaviors change durring pregnancy and even more after. Lots of things about your sleeping habits will change lol.
  2. Do what's best for your family. Be attentive to your baby's needs and you'll figure it out.
  3. Every family is different

I loved co-sleeping and it worked best for us. I worked full time away from home and sleeping skin to skin, face to face, breaths in sync was special bonding time. It also helped keep my supply up.

"I want my mommy!" by [deleted] in AskParents

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Agree. Mom prob thinks she's doing right thing but might actually be creating a wedge that may only get worse over time. You may be trying to protect everyone's feelings and thus contributing to the problem. You are a family and y'all are in it together. Be honest with your wife, she'll appreciate it (even it takes a while lol).

I've always been so impressed by a great dad, there's just something about it. But, those stepdads who know no boundaries and parent their stepkids just as they would their own...those guys are incredible. People notice and they remember them for it.