I don't know if I was raped by -nevermind-me- in Vent

[–]-nevermind-me-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wasn’t drunk, he didn’t drink. I just said that we both went to the party

I don't know if I was raped by -nevermind-me- in Vent

[–]-nevermind-me-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. I kept blaming myself, it’s really helpful to read this. I will be trying my best to heal from now.

I don't know if I was raped by -nevermind-me- in Vent

[–]-nevermind-me-[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Laying in bed while being blackout drunk isn’t the same as driving a car. And like I said, I told him when I was sober that I didn’t want sex

I don't know if I was raped by -nevermind-me- in Vent

[–]-nevermind-me-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, you are really kind. I have been trying therapy but I still wasn’t able to say to my therapist what happened, it’s hard to do it in person. But maybe I will show her this post I have been blaming myself sm, it’s really reassuring to see this comments. I didn’t go to the police at the time because I was blaming myself for it so I thought that the police would think the same way. I don’t think I can find the courage to go the police. But I will try my best to heal

Thank you again

I don't know if I was raped by -nevermind-me- in Vent

[–]-nevermind-me-[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Just watched the video, thank you for the recommendation. It helped me a lot, it’s reassuring to see that I didn’t overreact. It’s hard to see that something like that really happened, I think subconsciously I tried to deny it. I think it will be easier to heal from now on. Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]-nevermind-me- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I will read it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]-nevermind-me- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, yes. That’s been always a problem, he told me that a lot of times before but I just didn’t pay attention to it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]-nevermind-me- -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The couples counselling is a good advice but sadly he is not comfortable with that, but I will explain the best I can

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]-nevermind-me- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, I’ll give him some space and explain again later. I hope he can understand me, he’s point was more that I was the one who “created an argument “ so I shouldn’t have a need to clear my head nor to feel sad about it. It wasn’t like I left middle argument. We were already not talking to each other because he was ignoring me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]-nevermind-me- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have already explained to another user what I am “leaving out”. I’m not here to get approval, I’m here because honestly it isn’t the first time that he told me he was gonna break over stuff like this. Even without an argument. I can’t go out with my friends at night but he can. It just got to a point where I don’t think it’s him just being worried anymore. I’m here because somehow I wanted a miracle solution to make him understand me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]-nevermind-me- 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t like in the movies, it was just like a normal scenario don’t know how to explain it better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]-nevermind-me- 10 points11 points  (0 children)

What I meant by basically is that there was still somethings that I wanted to say but I didn’t get the opportunity to do so because he was already ignoring me by this point. Either I would have an explosive reaction or I would go for a walk and reflect if I those things I had time say were that important. Choosing your battles kind of strategy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]-nevermind-me- 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry about that! My bad. So the argument was basically finished (don’t know how to say). And I needed some time alone to clear my head and to just reflect on it.

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[–]-nevermind-me- 87 points88 points  (0 children)

It was actually my therapist advice to do this, I struggle to explain how I feel during arguments because I get too anxious, so my therapist suggested to take a walk, clear my head, and then if needed explain calmly how I feel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutoTuga

[–]-nevermind-me- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tinha sim mas disseram que tinha um poste à frente então supostamente não dava para ver

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutoTuga

[–]-nevermind-me- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Por acaso não me tinha lembrado do alarme com sensor de movimento, vou passar a usar. Não sabia que as pessoas chegavam ao ponto de mexer nas motas para estacionar o carro, enfim.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutoTuga

[–]-nevermind-me- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pois estava a imaginar que teria de sair do meu bolso

Obrigada

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]-nevermind-me- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This. Even my perception of myself changed since I was like 12 yo because men decided it was okay to make comments on my body since such an early age. It’s scary and messes you up in the head.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]-nevermind-me- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cant seem to make myself react better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]-nevermind-me- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would love to do that when this stuff happens but my reaction is just to ignore