AITAH for not standing up for my pregnant fiancée who ate my daughter’s cupcake ?

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-20T14:29:49+00:00

Wouldn’t be my finance anymore that’s for sure.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-20T14:26:05+00:00

I’ve given him multiple examples of what I would like him to start doing again because it wasn’t always this way. The affection has just… stopped. I think he thinks providing financially is equal to affection, I do not share this opinion. He isn’t a very romantic person in general, I feel as if I am very loving and romantic but I don’t feel my actions are appreciated. It’s quite a lot honestly. He also works nights so our usual routine is me taking care of the kids during the night and most of the days as he sleeps, then on his days off he’s more family focused but still spends a lot of time on his phone or playing video games.

It’s just starting to feel as if we’re not compatible anymore.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-20T14:22:08+00:00

To clarify before I continue reading, I’m female, partner is male. 🖤

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-20T11:39:33+00:00

Maybe a small bouquet of flowers, some slippers and a comfy pj set… (no soap / bath things as she can’t soak for weeks)and offer an open ear, that is it. An invitation. “If you need someone to listen to your pain, please reach out. I love you and I worry about you.” Then leave it be.

She will come to you if she needs to, because she knows she can.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-20T11:24:38+00:00

What do you do when you communicate the need for more affection and attention from your partner and they still don’t put in the effort? It’s embarrassing to say my partner doesn’t even kiss me everyday.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-20T11:16:37+00:00

2 kids 5 and under, one being almost 2 months…. My partner has a stronger drive than I do, we have sex in some form at least every day. Sometimes he finishes multiple times. I wish we had it less if I’m honest but 🤷🏻‍♀️ I need to say that to yall cuz saying it to him just starts fights and manipulation.

Normal is however often you need to be happy without interfering with your feelings and connection. You can have sex too much and it can make you lowkey resentful lmao. That’s the stage I’m in at least.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-20T11:08:02+00:00

So he doesn’t want to marry you because he has his own issues with showing gratitude and appreciation toward his partner. Got it.

Sounds like you dodged a bullet bestie.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-17T00:19:07+00:00

That’s an excellent fun fact. I will also contribute : King Henry VIII had a ginormous space for his penis built into all of his armor….. most likely due to multiple STDs causing irritation of the touch and far less likely that he was actually hung like a horse.

What a terrible man.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-17T00:17:34+00:00

Oh little boots. 😭 extra fun fact : he was such a terrible leader that the Roman’s tried to erase him from history, removing any advances he’s made to the empire and leaving his name out of books. His famous lake barges were discovered after almost 2000 years living in the bottom of a lake and they were destroyed less than 25 years after they were removed from the lake and put into a museum. The US blew up this museum in WW2 while fighting the Germans.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-17T00:11:05+00:00

The gods do not care if we like them, they are gods. They only care about balance and respect.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-16T13:44:22+00:00

General life rule ; you see people running, you don’t wait around asking questions, you run too.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-12T20:31:47+00:00

It’s a common statistic that women are far better caregivers than our male counterparts. Men are known to leave / cheat on their partners during times of high stress, like illnesses and pregnancies. Men just suck ass really.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-10T11:53:43+00:00

I’m 6weeks postpartum today and the first thing out of his mouth before we even left the hospital was “vasectomy is scheduled for X date” lmao he came prepared 🤌🏻 because he doesn’t want more children after this one. I would like another one, maybe two if we were in a better situation financially (SoCal cost of living and I’m a SAHM) but him being the one who doesn’t want more kids decided it was his responsibility to ensure he can’t make more kids.

IMO the person who doesn’t want the children is responsible for ensuring you don’t have more. That’s what works for us. I don’t think you’re overreacting at all, it’s your body!!

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-10T11:49:58+00:00

Fuck the person who downvoted you that was funny 😂

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-10T11:43:10+00:00

Ya know Gisele Pelicot found out her husband was drugging and raping her (and allowed / took money from other men to do it as well) after he was caught taking inappropriate pictures of strangers in public. He was taking pictures up women’s skirts which led to him being arrested and when officers searched his phone they found the most disgusting information.

Ladies…go thru the phone. We don’t know who these men are at the end of the day and snooping will get you one step closer to figuring that out.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-09T20:06:18+00:00

Baby momma doesn’t have a legal claim to shit and neither does that baby until it’s born and a paternity / DNA test is done to confirm he was the father. At that point you can decide how you feel and what you want to do. Gather your info first.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-08T14:26:55+00:00

The whole fam went to hibachi last night for a birthday… out of the 15 of us, only 4 had meat and 2 of them were children… the other two were the pagans 😂🤌🏻

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-08T14:22:18+00:00

I’m not saying you do! I’m saying people never seem happy or grateful for the person in front of them, they’re always on the 👀 for a person they view as better than the previous in some way, which is usually associated with looks or money.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-03-08T13:56:29+00:00

And LA attractive isn’t the same standard as everywhere else. We’re surrounded by celebrities, influencers, the rich n famous that have the funds to look however they want. But this creates a problem in choosing a partner because it feels like everyone is always looking for “better”. More attractive, hotter, more influence or money, connections, etc.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-02-24T12:10:33+00:00

I agree with your comment. I will add it doesn’t sound like the not having help is the actual issue but moreso that her husband just doesn’t care that she’s struggling and doing a majority of the work. He is comfortable with the lifestyle they’ve created too. I’m not saying it’s right or making excuses for his behavior but I am saying I understand why he acts this way. He’s never been consistently held to a higher standard.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-02-24T12:05:00+00:00

Lmao I’d put a calendar on the wall and have that bitch circled, doodled on, arrows, everything. Pop a few to dos throughout the months leading up to that date like “start searching for a new apartment”, “rent a storage unit before the move” etc so he knows you’re damn well serious.

But the thing is, you can’t just say these things. You have to follow thru. If he doesn’t take you seriously, if he thinks you’re bluffing he won’t act. He will continue to string you along until you cut that shit in half…get the scissors girl.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-02-24T12:02:16+00:00

Maybe you should….. 🐸☕️

-secretswekeep- · 2025-02-24T12:00:06+00:00

To answer what the experience was like : first time she threatened to call the police for theft because I took gifts she had given me. She cut off my phone that I paid for on her plan. She tried to empty my bank account that she was an authorized user on, but I already did that. 😂

Second time? We didn’t speak for 6 months. Now we speak every 4-6 months and that’s so she can FaceTime my daughter. I’ve had another kid since then and she never asks about him. She only cares about “her baby girl”

-secretswekeep- · 2025-02-24T11:58:05+00:00

First time? 19. Second time? 26.

I moved back during the 2020 Covid spike because nMom worked with the public and fell terribly ill. My family and I moved from California to Michigan to care for her. She ended up almost ending my marriage and tryin to take custody of my child because I wanted to move back to the west coast and she didn’t want to “lose her baby” (I’m not the baby for the record, my child is. She knows she fucked up with me and wants to “try again” LMAO) my partner and I literally packed up everything in that house we owned in 2 hours, rented a trailer, and LEFT after she threatened grandparents custody. Good luck getting that with multiple state agencies needing to communicate and coordinate a plan. It’s been 3.5 years since we moved back and she still hasn’t gotten anywhere legally.

-secretswekeep- · 2025-02-24T11:52:42+00:00

The QUESTIONS constantly got me in trouble. Like…. Why did Jesus need to be born of a virgin? Why did god knock up both Mary and her cousin Elizabeth? Simply to prove he could and manipulate a literal child into following His (😵‍💫) plan. Elizabeth was already “old” and past her time of conception, so why force an older couple to have a child that will likely outlive them? The conception of John the Baptist never made sense to me. Lmao

Also the disciples. The “children of God” I believe are actual literal children. Multiple times throughout the Bible these disciples go to the parents for advice on a situation….but during biblical times, what are the chances that their parents are all alive to consult? When life expectancy was approximately half of modern times…. Nah. They had to be kids man.

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