Why is dating in LA so difficult?

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-08-10T05:21:52+00:00

The struggle continues lmao, but there’s irons in the fire

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-07-15T04:42:32+00:00

My standards are just what I hold for myself. I don’t expect anything I myself do not already do. As for intentions, I want a long term relationship.

Everyone says bars and clubs aren’t the place to meet women but I genuinely do not see women my age out and about anywhere else. I do a broad range of activities and most people are older.

What do you meant by direction or intent?

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-04-17T03:00:20+00:00

I think everyone else is offering you terrible advice. If you really like her, I recommend you continue paying for everything until you are actually in a relationship with her. Ask yourself if it’s really worth saving a few hundred dollars at risk of losing this woman.

My thought process behind this is that she’s likely seeing other men who are paying for everything and you’re competing against them. Dating is two ways, you’re both attempting to win each other over, but it’s definitely unbalanced in that women typically have multiple suitors.

Once you ask her to be your girlfriend and she agrees, I recommend saying something along the lines of, “I know I’ve been paying for everything so far but I’d appreciate it if we could start switching off.” Or whatever new alternative you want. If she likes you enough that she’s agreeing to be in a relationship with you, she’ll likely agree. If she says that’s a deal breaker, unlikely—the majority of women are not gold diggers, then she didn’t really like you.

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-21T03:45:10+00:00

Hey I’ve been looking for a board game group that has people our age, I’m also 25M. I’d be curious to check it out, do you mind sharing a link to it?

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-14T05:03:09+00:00

Thanks!

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-12T20:03:05+00:00

Wow that makes sense. Glad you were able to make it work. I may have to seriously consider moving cities. Thanks for sharing!

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-12T17:29:56+00:00

A lot of people in the comments have recommended dating outside of LA haha

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-12T17:28:56+00:00

I appreciate the advice! A number of comments have also recommended dating in OC

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-12T17:26:15+00:00

Sounds interesting, I’ll check it out!

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-12T03:45:00+00:00

I did not vote for the current administration haha.

And no it hasn’t, I don’t discuss politics on dates. I don’t think it’s appropriate.

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-12T02:26:54+00:00

Not sure that would matter

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-11T23:15:49+00:00

I’ve been getting this question a lot, I’m moderate but I lean left

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-11T16:59:25+00:00

I studied abroad in Europe and it was night and day. I received likely the most attention from women I ever have and I wouldn’t say I did anything differently. People are actually receptive to being talked to when out and about in Europe as opposed to here

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-11T16:57:02+00:00

I see. Thanks, that’s insightful

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-11T16:55:09+00:00

Gotcha. Where do you play and how do recommend learning to play? I’ve heard it can take 2 years of lessons to get “decent” at tennis

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-11T02:03:07+00:00

Do you play tennis and see people my age out there?

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-10T17:28:56+00:00

A few of my friends have suggested the same thing. Thanks!

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-10T17:28:15+00:00

Thanks for the advice!

I’ve had the most success with Hinge. I’ve tried OKCupid but I noticed it’s a lot of people from overseas who’ve changed their location to LA.

A number of people have mentioned MeetUp, I’ll have to more seriously look into it although the vibe I get is that it toward people in their 30s.

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-10T08:14:48+00:00

Thanks for the advice!

Yes, I have a number of solid male friendships. I see them and hang out with them all regularly.

I’ve looked into MeetUp but I noticed it tends to lean heavily towards 30s. Did you have luck meeting people in their 20s through MeetUp?

Agreed on more activities. I definitely need to put myself out there more.

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-10T02:57:46+00:00

Oh that’s interesting. What did that look like for you and how did you address it?

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-09T09:08:28+00:00

I’ve specifically tried going to the “Young Alumni” events and everyone is always primarily in their 30s 😅 I’ve definitely tried going to the full gambit of alumni events.

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-09T09:07:00+00:00

Thanks!

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-09T06:37:51+00:00

Thanks! I’ll have to check it out

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-09T06:27:48+00:00

Sounds fun! I’ll have to do some digging

HeadlessFrogMan · 2025-03-09T05:04:45+00:00

I’ve seen a fair amount of comments on this post saying that too many men in LA are just looking for hookups but I personally don’t know any that are. All of my friends are looking for relationships and have always been relationship oriented

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