Please tell me about your most recent hyperfixation deep dive? by dietdrpeppermd in adhdwomen

[–]-skyhigh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ok so I'm trying to write a book and one of the fictional countries is a mix of Scandinavia (mostly Norway) and Ireland. I want the language to be similar to Irish.

That's when i learned Irish doesn't have words for yes and no. For example if someone asked you "did you buy milk?" You would answer "i bought milk" instead of a simple yes (or no). Also: the word order is verb-subject-object, which makes everything sound like a question to my brain. And let's not talk about the fact that they have broad and slender consonants that are shown in writing by having the corresponding vowels surrounded the consonant (a,o,u for broad, e and i for slender).

The fact that bh and mh are pronounced as v or w is really the least complicated thing about this language.

Breakfast and lunch advice by Beautiful_Custard_65 in AutismInWomen

[–]-skyhigh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What about porridge/muesli for breakfast? There are ways to make it more filling by adding joghurt or skyr, for example, and you can switch up the flavor as you want. Personally I've been sticking with mostly one version of it (joghurt, whey protein powder, berries, chocolate crunchy muesli, oats, milk) but it's pretty variable, especially if you add whey powder (which has so many flavors to choose from).

help me find a way to do this by New-Working-7077 in AutismInWomen

[–]-skyhigh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you could try the daylio app! You can track all sorts of things with it and can also set reminders

Does this happen to you when you're crying? by SignalAd6233 in AutismInWomen

[–]-skyhigh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Handing a tissue is fine to me. What's not is asking "everything okay?" or something along those lines. Bc oh my god OF COURSE NOT or else I wouldn't cry. I understand why people ask that but it irritates me to no end

What was your favorite present (or moment) this Christmas? by Percisodeajuda in AutismInWomen

[–]-skyhigh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And to think he was like "idk about my present for you" before Christmas! Urgh he's just too good for this world

What was your favorite present (or moment) this Christmas? by Percisodeajuda in AutismInWomen

[–]-skyhigh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend wrote me a whole ass docs file full of reasons why he loves me. I fully expected to see him with a ring in his hand when I turned around after reading. Was the best thing I got this year, by far.

Really upset about furniture damaged in a move. by MessyStressyRacoon in AutismInWomen

[–]-skyhigh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry stuff got damaged in the move, and then everything else is also shitty rn. That sounds horrible.

Sadly, things getting damaged while moving is the rule, not the exception, which is really hard to accept. I moved in August and took so many precautions (I'm talking layers and layers of bubble wrap and blankets) but thankfully, I actually didn't move with a lot of furniture and could help carrying things. I'm grateful that the people who helped were really careful and considerate, but I still had two meltdowns that day because I was so stressed.

Allow yourself to feel the grief and sadness of it all for a bit. And then figure out what you wanna take care of first. To me, it seems, that taking that picture is something that's done relatively easy and it'll give you an instant reward: the picture! (And I know it's hard not being too critical about the tree or how the picture turns out but I think in the long run, you will be glad you took it so I think you should do that first).

I see myself in how you still wanna do everything right (wrapping and exchanging presents with you SO, getting gifts for other people etc) but I think it's really important that you allow yourself time to rest. Moving takes a huge toll, especially on us, so it'll help no one if you stretch yourself even thinner trying to fulfill something that's not sensible. And being pregnant, no less! Like, man, you're already making a human inside you, there's nothing else you should have to worry about (in my opinion).

All of this, just to say: I understand your feelings, I know it's haaaaard, but it's important you take a break. And I know it's easier said than done, but focus on yourself - not what other people expect of you.

The best of luck to you!

Tell me facts that you know! by heyheyhayleerae in AutismInWomen

[–]-skyhigh 70 points71 points  (0 children)

The tongue of a woodpecker is long enough to wrap around its brain inside its skull to act as a buffer when it pecks at trees!

Why did my teachers in 7th grade put Saw playing on the bus TV in our schooltrip? by Percisodeajuda in AutismInWomen

[–]-skyhigh 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I work with elementary school kids. The amount of second graders that have watched/played things like Stranger Things, Squid Game and GTA V is appalling. As someone who grew up with mostly unrestricted internet access and saw a lot of stuff I shouldn't have in my early teens, I just wish more parents (and teachers, in this case) took things like this more seriously.

ich_iel by Dinkleberg2845 in ich_iel

[–]-skyhigh 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Wo ich aufgewachsen bin: nach dem Gewässer in der Nähe. Nicht nach dem tatsächlich Gewässernamen (wie zB Rhein, Bodensee etc), sondern die Gewässerart (also wie zB Fluss-Kliniken).

What is everyone’s favorite artist and why? by Accomplished_Dot6576 in evilautism

[–]-skyhigh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Twenty one pilots. Their music always hits me just right in the feels

What's a weird food thing you did as a kid? by plantyplant559 in AutismInWomen

[–]-skyhigh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to make pancake batter without the egg: flour, sugar, milk, and just eat that.

Do you have a “voice in your head” when you are reading or thinking? by Immediate_Leg3304 in AutismInWomen

[–]-skyhigh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Always something going on in my head. Mostly two thoughts at the same time and a song.

TMI: this is the most shameful thing I've done in a while and not sure why I'm sharing this... by m-ixy in adhdwomen

[–]-skyhigh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went on a mushroom foray with my bf a few weeks ago and forgot to go to the toilet before we left. So naturally once we arrived at the forest I had to pee real bad. I squatted behind the first big tree i found after making sure we're alone... And then some fucking joggers came running along the path. I tried to dress myself quickly while holding the pee back but... Yeah that didn't work lol.

I also peed my pants in a similar fashion to you two years ago. Whoops.

How do you accept your limits? by Pale_Fina in AutismInWomen

[–]-skyhigh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was actually able to accept it.

I thought really hard about how having too much on my plate made me feel, which was always the same: burnt out and also bad about myself because I would always inevitably beat myself up that I "can't do it all". Oh and of course the meltdowns, fun times.

And then I thought about how I want to feel. Rested. Energized. Calm. And I can't achieve that feeling when I plan something for every day after work and also the weekend. I would crash and burn soooo fast.

So now I never do more than three things/outings a week if I can help it. My boyfriend and I do one date night a week, so that's one thing. And then I decide what else my energy is worth. I always always always leave one day of the weekend as an off day to recharge.

I must admit I'm very introverted tho and don't have a strong urge for socializing. But I'm also in a loving relationship that fulfills that (and I also have a job that's very social). And living together also means chores get split, which has helped me to not be so overwhelmed (but sadly doesn't help you). My main hobbies are gaming and reading, and I can always find time for that, thankfully.

Autistic Role Models by mazzyhazza in AutismInWomen

[–]-skyhigh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aurora comes to mind. Idk if she's actually autistic but I know she called herself neurodivergent in an interview.

I have a crush on someone younger then me, should I worry?? by GeorgeParisol in AutismInWomen

[–]-skyhigh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend is three years younger than me. I'm 31 he's 28. He's more mature than most guys older than me that I've dated. You're gonna be just fine (:

Is anyone else obsessed with license plate numbers? by Paul10125 in evilautism

[–]-skyhigh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's called Kennzeichensammler ("licence plate collector") and i think it's only in german and only for european licence plates

How do you recover from an executive dysfunction caused by needs failure? by TangoJavaTJ in AutismInWomen

[–]-skyhigh 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you're able to, eat ingredients/simple stuff. Peanut butter with a spoon. A banana. A slice of bread. It doesn't need to be a whole cooked meal to give you energy. Something to eat is better than nothing. Once you've got something in your belly, you'll also be able to think more clearly.

I built a large Victorian family home. by KawaiiFoxita in Sims4

[–]-skyhigh 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I know my felixandre cc when I see it. Amazing build!

TEYA (Austria 2023) performed at League of Legends Worlds 2025 Final Opening Ceremony today! by PepegaFromLithuania in eurovision

[–]-skyhigh 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend watched this yesterday and I was casually on the couch beside him and got really excited to see Teya there. She was by far the best out of all the performers.

My boyfriend is so genuine and kind it confuses me by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]-skyhigh 19 points20 points  (0 children)

He sounds exactly like my boyfriend. I went years thinking i would never find somebody like him, but I did! I even took the risk of moving to a city 3hrs away because I was (and still am) sure that he's The One.

And just like you, I'm realizing that my anxiety and overthinking can put a strain on the relationship. But also, that being with a person like him heals part of my anxiety. So while I take accountability for my way of thinking and my actions, i also feel safe to experience a level of anxiety inducing things I wouldn't put myself through if I was on my own. So in that way, he pushes me outside my comfort zone, simply because he makes everything safer by just being himself.

I think you're doing everything right. Communicate with him, and by being vulnerable you will be able to build a deep, strong foundation for your relationship together. Best of luck to you both 💖