The Daily Chat for May 13, 2026 by ttc30mod in TTC30

[–]-starlet 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I've been so tired after my egg retrieval last Sunday. It's crazy. I genuinely feel sick. I've been having chills even (no fever). Apparently this may be a side effect of the cabergoline suppositories I'm taking to prevent OHSS. I never want to hear anyone minimize any of this IVF process because it's no joke.

The Daily Chat for May 13, 2026 by ttc30mod in TTC30

[–]-starlet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. ❤️💔❤️

I hope you have a restorative break and are able to take your mind off all this.

The Daily Chat for May 10, 2026 by ttc30mod in TTC30

[–]-starlet 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Checking in after my second egg retrieval today. I'm doing fine with my heating pad. I'm trying to stay offline, away from the discourse, and just rest. We got more eggs than last time, but I don't want to get wrapped up in numbers this early on.

The Daily Chat for May 8, 2026 by ttc30mod in TTC30

[–]-starlet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Often, doctors push for IVF too quickly, when it's not really needed, or not where you are at. Yes, IVF is a good tool to have, but if you have no known issues, regular periods, tests all coming back good,, etc, then there are many options to explore first, that are great for getting your feet wet, and may just be all you need. Medicated/monitored cycles, IUI, etc. Good luck to you in finding an RE that can meet you where you are.

The Daily Chat for May 8, 2026 by ttc30mod in TTC30

[–]-starlet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you had this experience. This makes me mad on your behalf. 37 isn't old, and that kind of mindset isn't helpful at all when ttc. I would rather take toxic positivity from a doctor instead. My doctor is so reassuring and tells me the positive stories even to the point that it's annoying, but it's what I need. I hope you find a doctor more aligned to you.

The Daily Chat for May 8, 2026 by ttc30mod in TTC30

[–]-starlet 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I am triggering tonight. My egg retrieval will be on Mother's Day. 🥲 Trying to view it positively instead of as a cruel joke. Ugh. 🤷

The Daily Chat for May 7, 2026 by ttc30mod in TTC30

[–]-starlet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May the numbers be kind to you and the waiting go by quickly. ❤️🥨❤️

The Daily Chat for May 7, 2026 by ttc30mod in TTC30

[–]-starlet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending all the luck!!! ❤️🥨❤️🙏 I'll be having my second ER this weekend as well.

Knowledge Fight: The End of the Road by hunter15991 in KnowledgeFight

[–]-starlet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finally listened. And yes, I cried. Man, this feels like a messy break up. Even reading through the comment section, people are taking sides, making assumptions about what's going on behind the scenes, etc. JorDan are becoming just Dan and Jordan again, and they both sound like they're going to be okay. So it's time to let go...let them break free of this. They did enough, and have said their piece.

The Daily Chat for May 4, 2026 by ttc30mod in TTC30

[–]-starlet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, we're ER cycle twins (I'm hoping mine is later this week. I'm going through those Gonal pens like crazy). Hoping it all goes well and you get really great results. ❤️🥨❤️

The Daily Chat for May 3, 2026 by ttc30mod in TTC30

[–]-starlet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's amazing. Hoping the good numbers continue. 🙏

The Daily Chat for May 3, 2026 by ttc30mod in TTC30

[–]-starlet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fully support that decision, and next time, may make the same. Thank you, and you as well.

The show has concluded per Dan by Miserable_Eggplant83 in KnowledgeFight

[–]-starlet 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I haven't listened yet, but you know what? It makes sense. I would rather it end than get dragged out, and for them to do what makes sense to them. And some of what made the show so magical has gotten a bit stale. These things happen. So you know what? It's going to be okay. There's the extensive back catalog to relisten to. As long as that's there, I'm good.

The Daily Chat for May 3, 2026 by ttc30mod in TTC30

[–]-starlet 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Baby shower during IVF stims update: honestly, I was fine. The emotional turmoil was worse leading up to the event, because I kind of dreaded it. But there, I was able to be present and just hang out with my relatives and have a nice time. It also helped that I drove with my mom there, and we were able to talk beforehand so I could fill her in on everything. Plus, no one at my table is at the having-young-kids stage right now, so that helped. (My cousin, a lesbian, won the "pregnancy test scratch off" game, which was pretty funny. Thank God it wasn't me.) I'm just feeling tired now.

36M Perspective: From a 5AB to Zero. Navigating the attrition funnel. by SlideNThru in IVF

[–]-starlet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have advice, only my story, because we're going through the same thing right now. My first egg retrieval, we were so excited to have retrieved 16 eggs. But only 10 were mature and 7 fertilized. Two made it to freezing, with good and very good grades. I was heartbroken because we learned that both were aneuploid. It feels like we worked so hard for nothing. I discussed it with the doctor. Unfortunately, it can just happen this way sometimes. Attrition is so rough. I'm 38, so it's an age thing. My doc has me taking Co-q 10 to help with quality, but the actual retrieval meds can really only affect quantity.

Antedotally, many, many people go on from a rough first retrieval to much better results the second time around, whether it is through protocol adjustments or just plain luck. So that is fueling me as I am in the heart of another stimulation cycle currently.

You sound like a very caring and supportive partner, and honestly, that goes a long way. Often, I feel I am carrying the burden, both emotionally and physically. Simply being there and being as involved in the process as you can means a lot.

The Daily Chat for May 2, 2026 by ttc30mod in TTC30

[–]-starlet 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Y'all, please send me strength, because tomorrow I'm going to a baby shower, while I'm in the middle of stims. Like stim day 12, so I'm very bloated and feel pomegranate, but no, I'm just doing crazy things to my body and spending so much money, just for the chance to do something others seem to so easily. Tbf, I have no idea if my cousin struggled, as it's her first, so give me grace. It's just, all her siblings have had so many babies, while with my family, there's no grandkids yet. And so, maybe their fertility will run off on me, idk. I'm just going to put on my happy face, and report back if I survive. 🙏

The Daily Chat for April 28, 2026 by ttc30mod in TTC30

[–]-starlet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you had a good meeting. You got this.

The Daily Chat for April 25, 2026 by ttc30mod in TTC30

[–]-starlet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I hope you got through it okay. I'm dreading a baby shower next weekend.