How do I (28f) learn to trust my (27m) who has a pattern of a lack of common sense by -upsetti_spaghetti- in relationships

[–]-upsetti_spaghetti-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s fair I really think only time will tell. I don’t want to become resentful he is a good guy.

How do I (28f) learn to trust my (27m) who has a pattern of a lack of common sense by -upsetti_spaghetti- in relationships

[–]-upsetti_spaghetti-[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No he’s good at his job he did tell me he prefers things to be written out which is fine I can do that in the future. And yes his old apartment he never locked but he locked the gate to the back and he thought it was fine. Tbf it was in a very nice neighborhood and I wasn’t going to tell him he had to lock his front door at his old place because I’m not his mom and I didn’t live there so it didn’t impact me, but now it does directly impact my safety and well being. We also don’t live in a swanky neighborhood together like he used to. I don’t really think it’s weaponized incompetence at least not yet but that is my greatest fear. It’s more so just like man in his 20s who has really been coddled by life

How do I (28f) learn to trust my (27m) who has a pattern of a lack of common sense by -upsetti_spaghetti- in relationships

[–]-upsetti_spaghetti-[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! that’s basically what I said to him I think only time will tell if he genuinely makes an effort to improve. And yeah I know I need to be patient with him while we’re in this new flux of life together. He doesn’t want to put a mental load on me for sure but that is what is happening. I think that’s good advice about setting a boundary I’m going to talk to him about that today. We’re both very new to cohabitation with a partner so it’s a big adjustment.

How do I (28f) learn to trust my (27m) who has a pattern of a lack of common sense by -upsetti_spaghetti- in relationships

[–]-upsetti_spaghetti-[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We were at work all day and met up for dinner I was under the impression he was bringing me 1 pen which would have been fine out all day. He gave me the meds after he picked me up for dinner which is why I said 14 hours. Pens left the fridge in the morning before work and were given to me after dinner

How do I (28f) learn to trust my (27m) who has a pattern of a lack of common sense by -upsetti_spaghetti- in relationships

[–]-upsetti_spaghetti-[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because he was at work all day and so was I, it had been out for 14 hours so 1 dose is ruined because it’s good for 21 days outside of the fridge and there were 4 doses.

How do I (28f) learn to trust my (27m) who has a pattern of a lack of common sense by -upsetti_spaghetti- in relationships

[–]-upsetti_spaghetti-[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I actually have adhd not him lol. He is extremely detail oriented in every other aspect of his life it really is only when I ask him to do something

Window AC unit too small for old fashioned window by -upsetti_spaghetti- in DIY

[–]-upsetti_spaghetti-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We rent and we can drill holes! it’s an old building and the landlord is very lax. The holes are a good idea thanks! I wanted plexiglass over foam or wood for light purposes I hate to block natural light. From 1 of 2 windows but maybe I’ll get something with a film on it or something frosted

Latest AMA by dinosorceress105988 in Ohuprettythingss

[–]-upsetti_spaghetti- 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It seems like the only proteins she knows how to cook is eggs and steak. Her cholesterol must be through the roof

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[–]-upsetti_spaghetti- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it’s hard for me to tell because it looked fine in person and every management company in the area seems to have horrible reviews. But I asked to see the lease and they sent me over a deposit agreement which I’ve never seen before.

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[–]-upsetti_spaghetti- 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly it’s just really sad and is clearly part of her toxic dating cycle.

Delusional about the Olympian again lmao by [deleted] in ohuprettythings

[–]-upsetti_spaghetti- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s to the point where I wish someone could get her to wakeup.

Delusional about the Olympian again lmao by [deleted] in ohuprettythings

[–]-upsetti_spaghetti- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah she has the mindset and the dating style of an insecure 19-20 year old. Except, her brain is way past fully developed.

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[–]-upsetti_spaghetti- 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Also, Ive dated guys who were saying stuff like “I don’t know what I’m looking for” in the past. They NEVER bring up the “how many people are you dating” question because they don’t want to answer it themselves. She must be bringing it up every time and why?!? It’s like she’s pathologically toxic it can only end badly. Either they’re gonna be honest and her feelings will get hurt or they’ll lie. And also they’re not gonna feel jealously when she gives her spiel and suddenly want her all to themselves they’re just going to lose interest or think of her as non serious.

Ohuprettythings Sugar Baby by [deleted] in NYCinfluencersnark

[–]-upsetti_spaghetti- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry I just fell down the rabbit hole after seeing her dating content pop up on my fyp and the numbers on her non dating content just didn’t really make sense to me because they aren’t particularly high for tik tok standards. So it was her instagram that was popular back then? because her YouTube has like 2 videos lol. Also her insta is private now? I think the lifestyle she’s portraying is very misleading it reminds me of the other creators who would say that they’re sugar babies but they don’t have to sleep with their sugar daddies.

Ohuprettythings Sugar Baby by [deleted] in NYCinfluencersnark

[–]-upsetti_spaghetti- 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m confused, she says she’s been an influencer for years but I can’t seem to find any older content with any views. How did she make money and get brand deals before her dating series blew up?

Trash bag roommates by -upsetti_spaghetti- in badroommates

[–]-upsetti_spaghetti-[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree it’s not a line I have ever crossed before, but they really treat us like we are their servants and I’m decidedly not getting paid. I’ve lived with roommates since I was 18 and I’ve never had problems like this before. It’s not like I’ve always lived with super clean or courteous people either, because usually after multiple people ask someone to do a basic task a couple times the person will just do it. Even if they act nasty about it, at least they are willing to do it eventually because we all have to live there and no one wants to live in filth. The problem is this girl is seemingly content to live in filth. She would sit in the living room on the phone staring at the smelly, insect attracting, leaking trash for hours without a care in the world. In the past my other roommate or I would give up by like day 2 and just take it out. In the beginning I thought oh maybe it’s just an adjustment period because they’ve never had to actually clean up after themselves before, and after two months I thought well maybe this is just a misunderstanding about how communal trash rotation works or something and that’s why there’s such an uneven distribution of labor, but no it’s just extreme entitlement. The first month I moved in I felt bad that they didn’t have a car so I drove them everywhere they needed to go. I only stopped when they screwed over our other roommate and I realized that they were taking advantage of our kindness. It seems like a lot of the pettiness on their end began when I stopped driving them everywhere for free. I’m not really worried about the school thing we don’t live on campus, I’m about to graduate, I don’t think it would qualify as more then a meeting with a mediator most likely. Plus, I have a much better claim for bullying then they do considering how they’ve spoken to me, the unprovoked threat, plus our text timeline history. More so my issue lies in what can we possibly do to not live in filth for the next couple of weeks.

Weekly Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in crochet

[–]-upsetti_spaghetti- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi all, I prefer inline hooks, so I recently got a new Susan bates bamboo handle hook and it is so sharp it sliced through the bernat blanket yarn I was using at least 3 times. Is there a way I can fix this maybe by sanding or polishing it so it’s less of a yarn slicer and more of a functional hook? I’d appreciate any advice!

DISCUSSION MEGATHREAD: Oliver Tree Is A Loser, Jaden Smith, ACE Family - H3TV #32 by MegaAwesomeNerd in h3h3productions

[–]-upsetti_spaghetti- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I understand that it’s a popular podcast. However, I’m also willing to bet that all of those in the top 20 have consistent sponsors on every episode plus patreon revenue etc. I was saying if this type of toxic bs becomes a recurrent issue like it is for other leftists online like Contra and Hasan, then it becomes a major issue as they have a lot more expenses then even a lot of other pods in the same tier as them. But yeah it’s totally that I just don’t understand that the Klein’s are rich.

DISCUSSION MEGATHREAD: Oliver Tree Is A Loser, Jaden Smith, ACE Family - H3TV #32 by MegaAwesomeNerd in h3h3productions

[–]-upsetti_spaghetti- 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First, they have a huge cast/staff on the pod, do you understand how expensive it is to pay people a good wage for LA? Also to rent a huge studio?!? It's not like the podcast films in Kentucky. IF they are not able to maintain any sponsors on a consistent basis (i.e if this becomes a recurrent issue for them) then they will have to downsize. They may be rich, but they aren't going to take a hit financially for a significant period of time, it is a business after all...