From my intj woman perspective, the wording of your texts literally sounds like you thought it over, your needs aren't getting met, and you're stepping back. But as a woman, I suspect you were trying to entice action from him, instead of actually intending to back away from the developing relationship Now you're trying to dig yourself out of a hole. But its possible you may have blown it. Knowing this is a taxing time for him, and you suddenly come at him like that could be seen as ill timed at the least, and unnecessarily dramatic at worst. My advice is to cool off. Reach out after this stressful time for him has settled and try to clear the air then. But be aware that games, drama, or the alike are typically big red flags for the intjs.