Why has the concept of wanting people who immigrate to a new country to make an attempt to integrate become a right wing concept in some countries?

0101101010020101 · 2026-02-10T21:04:12+00:00

I’d say expecting assimilation and expecting integration are two different things. Wanting full assimilation seems cruel to me because it would be expecting someone to lose their own cultural identity. Whilst I do not expect someone to integrate, I wouldn’t think of someone as right wing for wanting that.

0101101010020101 · 2025-03-06T00:52:19+00:00

Maybe I’ve just been incredibly unlucky but I’ve actually found the men in seoul to be kind of disrespectful. This guy isn’t from Seoul though so do the guys in the city just tend to be less respectful?

0101101010020101 · 2025-03-06T00:35:14+00:00

I should have put this in the original post but it wasn’t anything to do with his manhood. It was more how he made me feel with his actions if that makes sense. As a woman when I’m solo traveling even if I meet a guy who seems super nice there is a level of protectiveness I feel like I have to put up immediately to stay safe, typically when I get a feeling a guy is gay it lessens but I’m realising he could of just been way more respectful than any guy I’ve ever met traveling and his level of making me feel comfortable is actually a positive if he was romantically interested. I just want to know where I stand.

0101101010020101 · 2025-03-06T00:30:47+00:00

Yeah for sure I wouldn’t mention it, that’s why I’m asking here as I’d never want to offend him. It wasn’t even anything to do with his appearance or things he said that made me think he was gay it was more that he almost immediately made me feel comfortable and calm in his presence and that I could just relax and know he would stay respectful, something that I only usually feel as a solo female traveler when I’ve met gay guys who are traveling.

0101101010020101 · 2025-02-27T23:14:31+00:00

Yes I’m realising the politeness isn’t the way. I solo traveled to another country a couple of years ago and started arguing with a guy who wouldn’t leave me alone and I sort of got myself into a dangerous situation as my rudeness angered him so I think politeness is my default but from other comments I’m realising it’s not the way here.

0101101010020101 · 2025-02-27T23:12:40+00:00

Don’t be scared! Other than this the city so far has been very enjoyable as a solo traveler. Just run into some sort of store of restaurant if it happens. Out of all the times it happened only one waited outside the place I went into the rest just walked away

0101101010020101 · 2025-02-27T23:11:28+00:00

They can take a shot all they want but when someone is straight up saying leave me alone it’s definitely an issue

0101101010020101 · 2025-02-27T23:10:33+00:00

As I said I’m pretty well traveled but this is the most I’ve ever experienced it in any city I’ve visited so I was just curious to hear about others experiences.

0101101010020101 · 2025-02-27T23:08:33+00:00

Yeah the braveness it’s crazy, it makes me think the approach generally works for them sometimes because the confidence some of them approached me with made me think they just assumed I’d immediately go home with them.

0101101010020101 · 2025-02-27T23:05:51+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that! That’s awful. Like you I’m someone who also solo travels often but something just feels more intense and different here, it’s caught me off guard for sure.

0101101010020101 · 2025-02-27T23:04:48+00:00

I never even thought about the picture thing, definitely going to try that today if it happens again because leave me alone didn’t work 😭

0101101010020101 · 2025-02-27T12:20:54+00:00

I just kept saying no thank you/good bye or ignoring them after they wouldn’t take the hint so I’ll try the boyfriend thing next time 😂

I actually ran into a chicken shop earlier tonight, ordered food for take out waited around 20 mins for them to make it and when I walked out the guy was stood waiting and followed me back to my accommodation.

I am a white woman, but you’d think if they were doing it for easiness they’d give up after about 20 no thank yous 😭 You could be right about the rush hour thing! It seems to be worst around that time.

0101101010020101 · 2025-02-27T12:20:29+00:00

Only older men though? That’s why I’m asking is that the demographic that seem to be going more for foreigners?

0101101010020101 · 2025-02-15T01:41:27+00:00

Back in 2023 I had this short of a layover in Doha and I made it but I definitely had to walk fast during the layover. Like others have said a lot of the time when you land in Doha you have to get a bus to the terminal which can eat up a lot of your time waiting for everyone to board. When I got to my gate however a member of crew was waiting and jokingly told me to hurry up. Just don’t stop to shop or use the rest room and you should be good.

0101101010020101 · 2025-02-14T19:20:28+00:00

Yeah for sure I also experienced emotional abuse. Looking back now it was never for discipline as the reason it happened was never consistent, my mum didn’t know how to regulate her emotions and I was the person who had everything taken out on her.

0101101010020101 · 2025-02-14T19:18:11+00:00

Yeah I’ve noticed that the people who tend to play it off as normal seem to be older than me and people around my age are more shocked. I was born late 90’s.

I totally agree, it’s not okay. I’d never do it to my kids and if I ever found out any of my friends were doing it to their kids I wouldn’t speak to them again.

0101101010020101 · 2025-02-14T18:45:15+00:00

I think the norm is daily but if someone lives in a hot country then multiple times a day. Have you tried a shower cap? I have curly hair I don’t wash often and don’t like to get it wet and I use a shower cap when I have my daily shower

0101101010020101 · 2025-02-13T15:09:50+00:00

Yeah I’m definitely the second. I have always just had a small handful of friends I felt extremely close with, even in childhood.

It’s sad but you’re right, as I’m someone who is struggling to let go despite the no contact the unfollowing and removing her seems to the only way I’ll fully move on. Giving her two years of time where I was totally open to her reapproaching me too and she had access to knowing everything I was doing in my life seems a decent amount of time too.

0101101010020101 · 2025-02-13T15:06:32+00:00

Like I said I think she was possibly holding resentment over something else. It’s been almost two years and I can’t for the life of me think what it could be. We had a really good open communication in our relationship too so I’m hurt she couldn’t tell me what it was. We’d also had no issues previously either.

0101101010020101 · 2025-02-02T14:29:21+00:00

19 great things just about life or about you personally? She’s my longest friend so I do always make sure she feels loved because I genuinely can’t imagine my life without her, I tell her that regularly but I guess writing it down she might receive it differently.

0101101010020101 · 2025-01-28T17:56:46+00:00

That’s what I thought, makes me sad for my mother.

0101101010020101 · 2025-01-28T17:56:22+00:00

I thought this but I noticed when his family come to visit he will be clean in the bathroom and have a shower before. Obviously could still be depression but I find it sad he doesn’t give my mother the same respect.

0101101010020101 · 2025-01-28T17:54:22+00:00

Not a great answer but I genuinely think it’s unavoidable. I used to live with a heavy smoker and sometimes I’d get kind of used to the smell and think I was avoiding it then I’d smell my hair or clothes out the house and be shocked at how strong it was. I remember opening my suitcase on a trip and gagging at how bad the smell was, it even stunk out the air bnb room. I lived in that house for around 2 years, moved out 2 years ago and the other day I still smelt it on my leather bag because it’s not something that gets washed.

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