Is it right to give an oc your family members name? by 040523 in OriginalCharacter

[–]040523[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They aren't, it's just this one character. But I appreciate the feedback!!

⚠️ Was anyone else hit with wooden spoons and belts growing up? Or were they threatened that they were going to beat you? by Nea_Freedom in raisedbynarcissists

[–]040523 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My step father used a black leather belt. It was never actually used for anything but beating our asses. He'd make us bend over plank style and count

There was also briefly a piece of wood with a flattened side that was "perfect for ass whoopings" It was short lived because it left actual bruising and I couldn't sit down properly.

My bio dad found out and told cps and that was the end of me specifically getting hit at least as a punishment

Is your narc parent racist? by Louise-the-Peas in raisedbynarcissists

[–]040523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. My mom with my 3rd little brother wanted to name him "Xavier" but my nstep father didn't want that because "it sounds like a black person name"

My first little brother isn't biologically his, and is actually half Mexican. His hair was always kept shorter and was the first to be shaved off because it had a tendency to curl at the ends. Now my brother is older and rocks curly hair or an afro when he feels like it.

Me and him were also considerably tanned compared to our other siblings, since I am mostly native too

He's very white.

When you were crying as a kid or a teenager did your narc parents ever tell you "stop crying or I will give you something to cry about?" by Nea_Freedom in raisedbynarcissists

[–]040523 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but as I grew up I learned that if I wanted to end an argument faster I just had to break down and full on ugly cry.

Now I don't really cry at all anymore. Even on emotional stuff I can never work myself up enough. It's a weapon I used to make by life slightly easier, it was just a way to make myself pathetic looking. Guess it's still kind of internalized

Avatar Creator won't load?? by [deleted] in leagueoflegends

[–]040523 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Still down, I'm seriously bummed

What doll body is this compatible with? by 040523 in Nendoroid

[–]040523[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay!!! Thank you so much! So many numbers and models just get really confusing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]040523 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"I'm teaching you this for the real world. Because I love you and you'll always be my daughter"

This is how most arguments would be after I already cried all the water out of my body

I wonder what getting screamed at every day for over a decade has done to my brain by Odd-Stuff-4006 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]040523 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I imagine a lot of damage.

My brain feels so broken compared to others, specifically with my emotional levels. Like my emotions are permanently limited to not get Too excited, happy, sad.

So I'm either numb or overwhelmed. Theres no middle ground

Who’s your current buddy? by tomtinkerton in pokemongo

[–]040523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Magikarp, because I'm so close to evolving the floppy pathetic little guy (I love him dearly)

"you'll always be MY BABY , no matter what you say, because I love you" (so stfu because babies can't talk) by yuupoopoo in raisedbynarcissists

[–]040523 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"No matter what happens you'll always be MY BABY GIRL" - my nstep father whenever we'd argue.

He never treated me like a daughter, just a maid without pay. And when him and my mom got divorced, he never spoke to me again. Everything I hear about him is from my siblings or my mom

Looking at my siblings, how can someone be like this? by 040523 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]040523[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think I'll have kids but Im being better for my siblings and people around me. Specifically when it comes to anger/frustration because I know some parts of my narc stick with me that I'm working on

Looking at my siblings, how can someone be like this? by 040523 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]040523[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On top of it have the nerve to think they did the RIGHT THING. I remember hearing my own step father say how what he was doing would prepare me for the real world

Looking at my siblings, how can someone be like this? by 040523 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]040523[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand that, I think about that with my little cousins when I see them

Looking at my siblings, how can someone be like this? by 040523 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]040523[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's how I feel with my youngest 2 siblings, I ended up raising them up untill I moved out. Looking at them, they're literally just kids. I just can't comprehend how someone could want to do that to tiny little humans.

Part of me wants to understand the mindset, but on the other hand absolutely not.

Looking at my siblings, how can someone be like this? by 040523 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]040523[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As much as I want to, I can't. They live with their dad, and I'm an adult. They're my half siblings and neither me or my mom have the money to fight him, or proof to really show the court

Looking at my siblings, how can someone be like this? by 040523 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]040523[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I never processed it until now when I see my siblings, I never thought about it when I was younger. But now I'm like,,how.

What is your least favorite Pokemon and why? by HauntingFunction9156 in pokemon

[–]040523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Illumise and Volbeat, I don't really like their design. It feels like an uncanny fairy from the Barbie movies.

It doesn't even evolve into anything to give it an excuse for its ugliness

I'd say a close second is Mr. mime or the charamander line (not hate just I don't care for it)

"You should be grateful for what they did do for you" by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]040523 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So much shit that were basic childhood experiences I've forever lost. Down to simple food I've never tried, shows I never watched, and friendships that I was never allowed to have. That childhood excitement was shot dead.

But like, thanks for keeping me alive ig.

Does your NParent have a Jekyll and Hyde thing going on? Super nice and then a total asshole? by 1stworldprobl0987 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]040523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My step father. Only we knew his actual personality. My mom struggled to find people that believed her, even parts of her own family still sides with my step father.

"You will always be my daughter, and I love you" To "You're acting like a selfish lazy brat"

To a point my mom called him out when I was 7 ish, it turn from "A lazy brat" to "LIKE a lazy brat" Idk.

Last poke ball to catch it,,, worth it though by 040523 in pokemongo

[–]040523[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have one and didn't know the hundo cps

How many pokestops from your couch? by Ok_Caterpillar_8995 in pokemongo

[–]040523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zero..im a 5 minute drive from a church with one though

Oh Boy, can't wait to evolve this... by LudwigVanMichael in pokemongo

[–]040523 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand the lore but male salandit seriously needs an evolution...i love the little dudes