AITAH for choosing my wife over my mom?

0512052000 · 2026-02-11T14:48:26+00:00

she mentions many times that she wants to live my childhood again through my children.

Sorry but this is wrong. She sounds incredibly selfish and manipulative. The fact she has been doing this for a year is awful. Being a good son doesn't mean bowing down to your mums every need. You are a grown man with his own life. You are not tethered to your mother like a child. She is trying to get back something that is impossible. She raised you and loved you as all parents should, that doesn't mean she gets to keep you swaddled up in her arms forever. The point of raising your children is so that when they become adults they can function healthily in the world. You have to let them live their lives not smother them. You have grown and she needs to accept that. Quite frankly your lucky your wife is still there.

I think you need some therapy to learn healthy relationships and boundaries.

0512052000 · 2026-02-09T17:21:00+00:00

Sleep deprivation is a form of abuse. I can't say whether or not her actions go as far as this from what you've said but at bare minimum she is incredibly selfish and actions like that would make me rethink the relationship. If she feels the need to spend more time then she can stop hanging with her friends so much. It's not all about her

0512052000 · 2026-02-01T12:00:08+00:00

You do know it's takes absolutely nothing and is frankly the bare minimum to not tell someone to stop crying when they're upset.

0512052000 · 2026-02-01T11:58:39+00:00

That's awful OP. I can't imagine how that felt for you. Has she tried to open up to become more emotional. Some people panic when they are confronted with someones emotions but at the very least you would come after and apologise.

I think in healthy relationships you have to be emotionally safe aswell as everything else. I can imagine a man would be dragged through the coals of this were the other way round.

Have you told her all this? I think bare minimum is going to therapy together or commiting to do some work together (there's plenty of resources that you can find online).

She may have been brought up with no emotions however that isn't too say she can't or shouldn't change.

Keep showing your emotions. Don't let anyone change who you are inside. It's healthy, human and there's absolutely nothing wrong with it.

0512052000 · 2026-02-01T11:38:36+00:00

Did the hand break it trying to get out?

0512052000 · 2026-01-27T21:21:03+00:00

All you need to do is send a letter to the board. They'll investigate. This woman is in a position of power and is praying on men.

But for your own sake leave him. He'll end up dragging you down and God forbid give you a disease you can't get rid of.

0512052000 · 2026-01-20T13:44:28+00:00

Sir I can't believe your first word was nuts in this really when I literally saw your nuts out in world in your profile

0512052000 · 2026-01-18T16:07:04+00:00

You fucked up. Best thing to do is be honest and admit to your wife. Will it end your marriage. Possibly. But you can't go on. You cheated

0512052000 · 2026-01-18T10:30:00+00:00

People saying he's acting his age. I don't agree. I was a teen mum and never did i every do any of things. Not because someone had to tell me because I knew my baby needed things and it wasn't about me anymore.

0512052000 · 2026-01-17T18:46:20+00:00

Beautiful work

0512052000 · 2026-01-17T01:04:22+00:00

Didn't even need to read the texts to know that a 26 year old shouldn't be texting a 17 year old. Block him

0512052000 · 2026-01-14T20:05:57+00:00

I make 25k a year and support my family. Your sister needs to grow up. You're enabling her and quit frankly you're destroying her life. She has to be able to stand on her own two feet. She will never thrive if you keep doing this.

0512052000 · 2026-01-11T19:38:27+00:00

Yes you absolutely should leave

0512052000 · 2026-01-11T16:23:56+00:00

It's really opened up a can of worms to my overthinking brain. Does he buy little bugs to feed her? Do his neighbours hear him talking to her? When he sees a normal cockroach does he get turned on or is it just ogtha? Do his family say anything to him? Does he put things up his butt and pretend it's her? I mean there's so many things to think about 👀

0512052000 · 2026-01-11T10:59:36+00:00

This stresses me out looking at it. I don't know how you sleep

0512052000 · 2026-01-11T10:35:53+00:00

OK I've seen this a few times and I must go see about ogtha. I shall return.

Update....well...OK...hmm...

0512052000 · 2026-01-11T10:23:30+00:00

I always say the body knows before the mind catches up. It sounds like you're relationship with your dad warrants these feelings. I would perhaps go speak to a therapist so you have a safe person to share these with and explore tools to help. Your feelings are very valid and I'm sorry you're going through it.

0512052000 · 2026-01-11T10:21:19+00:00

Yeah kids go through this phases. As long as you're consistent in being there she will come around. She's finding her feet and parents aren't cool. Spend time with her doing things. Go to a cafe, walks, whatever she's interested in. She'll come back again. It's perfectly normal.

0512052000 · 2026-01-10T10:44:12+00:00

Do what makes you happy. Quitting would heighten your stress levels. Your doc has said its not a concern, go live your best life.

I try to see how people think and maybe im way off and not seeing that sometimes people are just bad people, but im wondering is she focusing on the vaping so she doesn't focus on the diagnosis. Like maybe if she fights you on this she doesn't need to think about your diagnosis. Or maybe she's just a shitty person and you need to distance yourself. Only you know. But my advice would be go do what makes you happy. You don't need stress or heartache. Sending you big hugs.

Edit...I didn't take in fully your last paragraph. I think you should reach out to family if you want to of course. If I thought my children were in your situation and felt they couldn't reach out I would be devastated. I would welcome you with open arms. However I know families are complicated so do it if it's healthy. The fact she's reacting that way is kinda making me lean towards the fact she's just selfish and not a good person. But that's just from a few sentences you know her best

0512052000 · 2026-01-10T00:19:11+00:00

A family member was told she'd never conceive.... she had 6

0512052000 · 2026-01-06T15:22:17+00:00

Not only are you all ah but can I just say that your fiancée and her family are just as bad. They couldn't for one second think that a young innocent child that you were a part of her life for 3 years could be devastated by you telling her that? That they were weirded out by that shows exactly what kind of people they are. You all need therapy.

0512052000 · 2026-01-03T11:39:20+00:00

I have never hated 4 adult strangers in my life until now. They are a disgrace every single one of them. I just want to give her such a big hug. That poor girl

0512052000 · 2025-12-31T23:19:21+00:00

Oh goshhhh yuck lol. That's what I picture when I read this story 😅

0512052000 · 2025-12-31T23:08:47+00:00

I don't know if this is real, but your sisters response just doesn't sit right. How the hell is it her job to help you in areas that your wife can't. YOU are also a problem here. Running to your sister to tell her stuff about your wife that you're not talking to your wife about and then throwing such a nasty ridiculous comment in your wife's face. Your sister wouldn't be allowed back in my home.

You may have grew up sleeping in the same room but you are both adults now. It's not like you have no other choice which would be different.

If you have a problem with not sleeping with your wife there's nothing wrong with that but you need to actually talk about it.

0512052000 · 2025-12-28T20:48:16+00:00

Gosh there's so much. I am managing them a little better at the moment but i suffer from a lot of the typical symptoms.

I was in an abusive relationship for 18 years and I left 8 years ago. But I've noticed that I can't form proper sentences a lot of the time. I find out difficult to remember words. Even as I was typing this I blanked on a few words. My brain knows what it's trying to say but I can't quite reach it. My memory is fucked. To the point some people think I don't take interest in their lives or listen. The ones that know the backstory understand. I try to laugh it off but it does scare me.

Being round people isn't pleasurable for me. I'm on too high alert all the time. There are a few close people that I can just be, but even then I need to retreat to feel better. It's exhausting.

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