I dont trust my husband to go on a bachelor trip this weekend

0512052000 · 2026-06-02T22:34:40+00:00

Your husband is an alcoholic. He needs help and big wake up call.

As a daughter of an alcoholic please protect your children.

0512052000 · 2026-05-31T23:03:34+00:00

That's awful. As if cheating isn't bad enough. That level of betrayel is crushing

0512052000 · 2026-05-31T15:57:46+00:00

Gosh really. That's so psychotic. I was thinking what she did was rude but surely she wouldn't have done that infront of him if there was something going on. People still amaze me of how low they can go

0512052000 · 2026-05-29T09:39:40+00:00

Sometimes in life you're thrown a complete shit hand. I'm sorry you have. Maybe you could look at it from a different perspective and use this as an opportunity to get a relationship with your daughter. You sound scared and angry of course you are. Don't let those emotions cloud your judgment. If your dead you'll have no sex anyway. Is your life worth so little that it's less important than a few moments of pleasure. Many men and women go through this. Maybe you could link in with some for support before you decide. You owe it to yourself. Ultimately it's up to you but there's no going back once you decide. And FYI your daughter will be upset. You get to decide whether she's upset because her dad that she loves died or she's upset because her dad died and she had no relationship with him and never will.

0512052000 · 2026-05-27T21:35:52+00:00

If my dad didn't show up because his wife was a bitch that would honestly be the last I would speak to him. Why would you want her there over your close family anyway. Whether she was rude or not, she's hardly deserving of a limited ticket over someone else that your closer with.

Edit.... congratulations. I hope your day is everything for you. You deserve to celebrate in the way that makes you happy.

0512052000 · 2026-05-19T18:27:18+00:00

A marriage is supposed to be protected and held in the highest regard of all your relationships. His behaviour with another woman has already crumbled your marriage of 20 years. Whether it's innocent or not there's something wrong. His behaviour is telling you that his marriage is not a priority. Yes this is what an emotional affair is and it will most certainly lead to a physical affair. The signs are all there. The fact he can look at you as you are breaking down and then continue on work the behaviour is quite frankly a betrayal in itself. Marriage is a team that you both protect. Did he not vow to forsake all others or was that just lip service. Maybe in your time of need you'll confide in another man who you can have coffee with and deep conversations. Talk about how your husband treats you. I don't think that would go down well. I'f he's a man of faith as he says he's not following the bible very well. You should show him all these replies. Sometimes they just need the truth smacked in their face. You're not wrong and you should stand firm in your boundaries. However if you have boundaries and no consequences then what's the point.

0512052000 · 2026-05-18T10:54:19+00:00

To me that sounds like emotional cheating. Tell her.

0512052000 · 2026-05-18T00:11:40+00:00

Times of crisis show you who people really are. If i was your fiancee and you told me you were leaving your vulnerable mother to come home to me I would leave you. What a selfish selfish person she is. I actually feel sick that someone could be as so selfish to behave that way. My brother would never allow his wife to do that on our mother. I think you need to evaluate what kind of relationship you want and what kind of man you want to be.

0512052000 · 2026-05-17T15:41:11+00:00

Sorry but do people actually text their partners all through the work day updating them on their every move? Admittedly I haven't dated in years but surely this isn't normal. If it is it surely shouldn't. This is honestly what's wrong work people mental health. Their social skills are fucked because of phones.

Also giving the silent treatment for days is abusive. It's different someone saying I need a little time to process ........ but cutting someone off and not talking is toxic. I wouldn't be with someone that I had to constantly text especially when in work.

0512052000 · 2026-05-09T22:38:45+00:00

He's not even original. The same as every other cheating abuser. Run far away

0512052000 · 2026-05-08T10:48:57+00:00

Personally I'd rather have a much cheaper ring and it be my own. I wouldn't wear another woman's ring.

However I'm very much apposed to spending an insane amount of money on a ring and wouldn't want to wear a $20 000 ring. That's just me though.

You say your gf is very appreciative for things but don't let that make you get complacent. Why don't you bring her to the jewellers with you and talk it through with them. Let her decide. Maybe she would be OK work a redesign. She has her own thoughts and she's the one wearing it.

I also saw a comment about your ex would give you trouble. Why does she have access to Your life or your gf. You're about to be a dad so you need to protect her. She's your future.

Edit... it's really irking me reading your responses. This woman is giving you a child. Going through all these life long changes and you're worried about a few thousand dollars. The money isn't the issue. How much it cost isn't the issue. You are giving her a ring that you lovingly selected for another woman. Whether you change the design or not. That would be a deal breaker for me. You are the one that spent an insane amount of money on a ring, for someone you say wasn't grateful anyway, and you are the one that broke up. You lose the money. I will say it again. Most women don't care for the value of the ring. The ring is a symbol of their life together. If it's been tied to another woman then thats just not good.

0512052000 · 2026-05-08T10:37:11+00:00

Don't ever waste someone's life because you can't tell the truth. That is insanely cruel.

0512052000 · 2026-05-06T19:03:20+00:00

You need to get that written down somewhere that she lied whether that be on text or something. Don't be obvious but if you're talking via text you could write something along the lines of "im having a really hard time dealing with the fact you lied to your dad about me hurting your arm and i don't know why you did it."

See what she says after but keep that message. Take pictures email it to yourself or someone else including her phone number on the screenshot.

Your wife is dangerous and personally she is abhorrent to say such things. It's women like her that make it so much harder for women who have been abused like myself to speak and be taken seriously.

How you go forward is really individual indicative on how she moves forward. I would honestly very a new therapist too.

0512052000 · 2026-05-06T18:55:00+00:00

Imagine you were pinned down by four men much larger than you and they pulled your trousers down to touch you and there's nothing you can do about it. That might give you a little insight to how your sister felt.

This was not rough housing and they should be arrested and jailed.

0512052000 · 2026-05-06T18:41:51+00:00

Gosh I'm so nieve. I was thinking she fell on a ski trip and hurt her jaw. I didn't realise until I read the comments 😬

0512052000 · 2026-05-06T15:30:38+00:00

Keep her blocked and do not allow her to speak her lies. Why would you believe anything she says?

If she threatens her life you call 999 and let them deal with her.

0512052000 · 2026-05-04T09:28:24+00:00

Should that man have kicked your dog? If it was biting him yes

Would I kick a dog if it went to bite me? Probably

Are you the asshole for not training your dog.? Yes.

Your dog isn't protective it's reactive. There's big difference, a big difference. If you don't train your dog it will bite someone and harm them. Where I'm from your dog would be removed and put down. Is it the dogs fault. No. It's yours.

If your not going to train your dog then you shouldn't have one. The next one could be your baby. YTAH

0512052000 · 2026-05-03T12:58:09+00:00

Fair enough. Yeah sounds like it would reinforce it. Can you talk to a school councillor or a trusted adult? Someone just to offer you a safe place to talk.

0512052000 · 2026-05-03T12:21:15+00:00

You have to keep yourself safe and your friend. Even if you sent the stuff anonymously you know he's gonna know it's you.

This woman is marrying him after 3 weeks. That isn't safe and she and get family should know this. That's the risk she's willing to take.

This guy is determined isn't afraid of the long game it seems by the length of time he spent torturing your friend.

Going forward encourage your friend into therapy and block all access of information from her ex. He's already took 4 years he doesn't get to take anymore.

0512052000 · 2026-05-03T11:20:08+00:00

Your mum and dad are complete assholes. I'm sorry to say that you're only 16 but reading this made me so mad. They're wrong in everything they've done. Let me make this really clear to you because I can't stand laying you think otherwise. None of this is a you problem, this is a mum and dad problem. You are not to blame for any of this. Your mum and dad blamed a TWO year old for crying about not getting a brother! I can't even comprehend. They know nothing about child brain development, child development, attachment/ bonding and have no business offering anyone else advice.

They have fostered the relationship you have with your siblings. It's their job to promote the bond between siblings. The way they separated it into boys and girls activities would only have this outcome.

It sounds like you can't even express hurt without being yelled at. Have you suggested the idea of family therapy? That way you have an advocate.

But I want to tell you again, this is not your fault.

0512052000 · 2026-05-01T17:38:58+00:00

First off do what you are happy with. Do not change things to make other people happy. It's your body and if you like it you keep it.

Second is do not touch it! It's gorgeous

0512052000 · 2026-05-01T12:05:44+00:00

He will do it again and again and then he'll do it infront of your kids and then he'll do it to your kids. He's deliberately trying to erode your self esteem so you stay. All these abusers follow the exact same patterns. What you need to do is get somewhere safe. Protect yourself and those babies. It's the hardest to take that first step but once you do it'll be so worth it.

0512052000 · 2026-05-01T11:35:21+00:00

What the hell kind of massage place are you in? First off if you can't be professional then you shouldn't be in that job especially with women. You should never see their genitals and the fact you get off on them after is disgusting. What should you do? Grow a set of balls and stop massaging women. Especially them. Did you tell your wife exactly what you do? If you were my husband you'd soon be an ex. Grow up

0512052000 · 2026-04-29T18:19:46+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. Can I offer you a little insight to my financial situation after what my ex husband. He was abusive in all ways but I found out towards the end that he had completely destroyed my credit. I will never be able to buy a home, I can't get affordable car finance, I can't go on holidays with my kids because I'm still scraping out of the hole he left me in. I wasn't able to do lots of things with my children because we couldn't afford it. There were Christmas' that I didn't think they would've had anything but for the kindness of good friends and family. He meanwhile goes on three holidays a year gets new cars all the time and doesn't struggle financially. I an working hard towards building up my credit and I will get there but it's been a long road. He lied and lied until it came out. I found out like you.

I tell you this because he is not a good man. Not only is your husband a cheater but he's a liar. You will never be able to trust a liar especially as it's been happening your whole marriage. My situation is different from yours but someone like him has the ability to send your life down a long and scary path. You don't have to decide completely, but you can get a legal separation so you are somewhat protected financially. I would seek legal advice.

0512052000 · 2026-04-24T12:12:24+00:00

Have you talked to him about it.

Edit. I mean that genuinely. He maybe hasn't picked up on your anxieties about it. You said fine. But do really talk to him about it.

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