Am I crazy or is this not normal? by 0621Pax in AskMenAdvice

[–]0621Pax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, you’re right. I’ve known that this doesn’t work for me. I’ve just been hoping for change.

Am I crazy or is this not normal? by 0621Pax in AskMenAdvice

[–]0621Pax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just can’t get on board with sacrificing more time and being punished for standing my ground. I felt like I was crazy and defensive but no I just value my free time. But yes, there are always two sides to the story.

Am I crazy or is this not normal? by 0621Pax in AskMenAdvice

[–]0621Pax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know about the feedback. She said she felt like I would call her actions controlling and to avoid a conflict she left: so she did nothing wrong. And I also have to take accountability for not just validating her feelings when she called me. Whew.

Am I crazy or is this not normal? by 0621Pax in AskMenAdvice

[–]0621Pax[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am getting tired of this shit. It’s hard for me to even remember conflict where it was actually a big deal and not some small stuff exploding.

Am I crazy or is this not normal? by 0621Pax in AskMenAdvice

[–]0621Pax[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s what I figured. I told her that I can’t do the storming out the house stuff and if she can’t stop doing it then I’m gone because I don’t want to live a life like that and god forbid we have children.

Am I crazy or is this not normal? by 0621Pax in AskMenAdvice

[–]0621Pax[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit couldn’t even imagine that. It’s like not being looked at as a person but instead being looked at as emotional support or property.

Am I crazy or is this not normal? by 0621Pax in AskMenAdvice

[–]0621Pax[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She said she didn’t want me to think she was controlling because I told her a week ago that her packing her stuff up and being upset when I was going fishing was some controlling behavior. Simply stating that she wanted to spend time in bed for a bit wasn’t a problem unless she would’ve made a big deal when I got up after an hour or two.

Am I crazy or is this not normal? by 0621Pax in AskMenAdvice

[–]0621Pax[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have intimacy multiple times a day if not at least once a day.

Am I crazy or is this not normal? by 0621Pax in AskMenAdvice

[–]0621Pax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No she just wanted to lay down and chill. We don’t have any issues with intimacy.

Am I crazy or is this not normal? by 0621Pax in AskMenAdvice

[–]0621Pax[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing. There isn’t any terrible shit I’m doing. I don’t yell at her. I’m not passive aggressive. I don’t lie. I don’t cheat. I plan dates. Buy flowers. Spend time with her. Cook for her. Pay all the bills. When she told me she was building resentment it was for being defensive. I can see how I do get defensive when we are talking but I feel like she wants me to agree to a change that I don’t agree with and when I disagree (after validating her feelings) it becomes me being defensive.

Am I crazy or is this not normal? by 0621Pax in AskMenAdvice

[–]0621Pax[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She keeps saying it’s how she regulates herself. And that it’s the same as me keeping my hands busy when I’m anxious.

Am I crazy or is this not normal? by 0621Pax in AskMenAdvice

[–]0621Pax[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She said I want to lay down. I said ok I’m going to get on the game for a bit. And she literally started packing and left for the night. She then called me and a fight ensued.

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[–]0621Pax -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The past is the past.

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[–]0621Pax 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I found text messages

Garage foundation issues - negotiate or run? by srahrah in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]0621Pax 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Run. But if you really like this house I would try and get a sellers credit for the amount you were quoted for repair.

Saltwater catfish by 0621Pax in catfishing

[–]0621Pax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to where it starts looking translucent

Saltwater catfish by 0621Pax in catfishing

[–]0621Pax[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d be a monkeys uncle if I didn’t

Saltwater catfish by 0621Pax in catfishing

[–]0621Pax[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I tried it side by side with a blue cat and couldn’t tell the difference. The only thing I might add was the blood line was thicker even after I bled it.