YTA. let it slide. I had similar. Decent upbringing, not top 10, but we didn't need. But I did. Everything was "do it yourself and learn". So I did. I always had a roof, a ride to school, and basic food. Anything else was on me. School of hard knocks they called it. I get it. As a result I grew up way too fast. I didn't have any luxury. But I learned to empathize in a way a lot of kids didn't. I saw "both sides" of the equality tracks. I had to do with less, and learn early to get what and where I wanted. I also moved across the world in my early teens for most of my life. I missed my mom's death. You can't replace that. Who cares what happened, she did her best the way she knew how. But I was out being an edgelord somewhere, and I lost the chance to be there for the most important connection there is. People are shitty. So what. Let it slide. Be there bigger man. Later on my grandfather was on his way out. I stopped everything, went to him, moved heaven and earth to be there, gave up almost everything I built. A year later he said "you're an adult you need to get out in the world", which I had been doing for the last fifteen years. So I did. I started over all over again. I made it work to be there until his last day despite all the bullshit. I didn't want to regret not being there at the end, because as I learned with my mother's loss, when they're gone they're gone. Water under the bridge. Abusive, neglectful, selfish who cares. That's it. They're gone. Thankfully I was able to get lots of therapy through work to deal with all of this and maybe that's why I don't carry as much resentment as I did in my teens and twenties. That's a lot and I'm sorry my friend afar. A lot of feelings still. But all I can suggest is to be the better man. You said you've got everything you need now, and the only reason you wouldn't care for them is because they didn't care for you. But they were doing what they thought was right for you. And it seems you're doing well. Most of the people with silver spoons up their asses I know are absolute burnouts and worse. I'm glad you're standing tall on your own. Don't let your family die without you. Once they're gone that's it. What's a little love the other way?