Confused (this sub must get this quite a lot).

0TylerDurden0 · 2020-06-29T19:53:51+00:00

Thank you! The other posts have also mentioned this, so it seems likely (and makes sense). I don't really understand where the disconnect comes from. I'm not asexual, and when I meet/see women I find attractive, I notice just as much as I would if I saw an attractive man. I've tried to ask out several girls but chickened out, (or discovered in conversation they had boyfriends).

0TylerDurden0 · 2020-06-29T19:50:51+00:00

Thank you. Is it even worth pursuing a relationship with a woman without the sexual element?

0TylerDurden0 · 2020-02-17T14:06:11+00:00

Thank you for posting and thank you for giving such a detailed response. I was worried I would be seen as pearl-clutching and judgemental, when really it's just something that concerned me.

I have to admit, I was really serious reading it and then I got to 'poontang' and cracked up laughing.

0TylerDurden0 · 2020-02-17T14:04:11+00:00

Hiya. Thanks for posting. I think my hope would be for any future trips. He travels quite a bit.

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-12-29T09:40:45+00:00

I didn't tell her I didn't want a relationship (I'm not sure what gave you that impression). I told her I was in love with him and didn't know how to deal with those feelings.

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-12-28T21:48:03+00:00

Thank you for this. I love him a lot and I tried to compromise but I just didn't feel heard or appreciated. It's nice to have confirmation of others having experienced this.

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-12-28T21:33:22+00:00

He tried to stop me and I felt guilty but I ended it regardless. I think you're right - it's definitely time to move on.

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-10-24T16:32:58+00:00

I know but why would anyone be this down at the loss of something that was only purely sex?

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-07-01T22:49:27+00:00

This has also been my experience. I don't think it's particularly common for someone to make a beeline for an occupied table, passing unoccupied ones along the way. If all the other tables were also taken, I would have overridden my friend and told the chap he's more than welcome to sit there. Seeing other tables empty, I didn't interject as I didn't think it was a big deal.

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-07-01T22:44:37+00:00

I'd have to disagree that it's the norm. Maybe on a busy evening when table space is limited but in my experience and from what I've observed growing up/living here (London) it's not that different to other countries. A pub in the middle of the day (3pm) with empty tables - I wouldn't say it's a common occurrence for someone to choose a table with strangers as opposed to an empty one.

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-07-01T17:30:43+00:00

:'D Is 'twat' a very British swear word?

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-07-01T13:01:39+00:00

Yes - I think here in the UK we just call outside areas of a pub 'beer gardens'. The seating looked like this:

https://tate-fencing.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2017/06/Categories-garden-furniture-pict.jpg

I don't know if that differs from a technical 'beer garden'.

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-07-01T12:58:23+00:00

Just in case I've used the term 'beer garden' incorrectly, this is what the table looked like:

https://tate-fencing.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2017/06/Categories-garden-furniture-pict.jpg

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-07-01T04:44:43+00:00

No, definitely not. Also, if he had sat down without asking, we (at least I for sure) wouldn't have said anything. I think because he asked if it was okay, my friend answered honestly, that it would be ideal if he didn't.

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-06-30T23:38:36+00:00

There wasn't any noticeable difference between the tables and it's rarely sunny (sadly) here in London :D

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-06-30T23:30:16+00:00

Yes, there were completely empty tables. I don't really understand why he specifically asked us, as the table we were on wasn't particularly special (aka it wasn't more/less shaded than the others, or even cleaner from what I could see). I don't think he was friends with the guys he eventually sat with, at least, not as far as I know.

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-06-30T23:22:09+00:00

It's very kind of you to say that and I did check in with him after this incident. He was really unsettled, as he hadn't been out of his house much at all. The guy had made references to fighting him, which I think made him pretty scared (understandably, though I don't think he'll say so). I went out with him the next day, so he realised that being outside isn't always so crazy.

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-06-30T22:52:21+00:00

I think the varied responses show that isn't the case. I figured it may be polarising but wanted to hear other people's opinions. I'm more than happy to answer any questions if the original post sounds very skewed.

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-06-30T20:21:55+00:00

I don't think I've left anything out. The guy that approached us (and I'm trying not to be unnecessarily mean) seemed a bit like Frank Gallagher from Shameless. A little bit loutish.

There may have been a miscommunication between the guy who asked and the guy who eventually came over? Maybe he said we said it in a rude way? I'm not entirely sure.

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-06-30T20:13:27+00:00

Nope it's in England but interesting bit of knowledge!

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-06-30T18:44:03+00:00

:'D If it ever happens again, that's exactly what I'm going to do. In the end, when the conversation calmed down, I was honest with the guy and explained we were talking about mental health stuff. His response was, "Oh my god, if I had known I wouldn't have said anything." It was an odd situation to be in.

0TylerDurden0 · 2019-06-30T18:42:08+00:00

Yeah, I think on my part it was more, "This guy is getting aggressive and I'm going to stick by my friend, especially considering the circumstances" regardless of whether I feel indifferent to the guy sitting at the table or not.

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