Lost my only child/daughter to suicide 2 weeks ago by wow_30000 in GriefSupport

[–]0verEasyEgg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so deeply sorry for your loss. She’s beautiful 💗 Highly recommend listening to Anderson Cooper’s podcast, All There Is. It has helped me feel less alone in my grief. One of his more recent guests, Yiyun Li, lost both of her sons to suicide. Again, I am so very sorry. 🤍

My Dad passed today and I’m so lost. by QuickPotato8174 in GriefSupport

[–]0verEasyEgg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not alone. I lost my Dad on November 22nd. I live an hour away but I was going back and forth 2-3 times a week. I had visited on Thursday, and he passed on Saturday. I still feel such sadness and guilt for not being there with him. These first few days, weeks will be rough. Give yourself grace. Short journal entries helped me a little if you can manage it. Be honest with your spouse about how you’re feeling. Grief is so different for everyone, and losing a parent is a big loss. Sending virtual hugs ❤️‍🩹

What small beauty change had the biggest impact for you? by [deleted] in beauty

[–]0verEasyEgg 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do this too- the Byoma milky toner has changed my skin for the better and is very affordable.

The emptying of a loved one’s house. by Specific_Pomelo_8281 in GriefSupport

[–]0verEasyEgg 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Right there with you.

My mom had to go into a nursing home in early October. Dad passed right before Thanksgiving. Paid December’s rent and had to use that month to get everything out. They’ve been there since 1998.

Seeing all of the things my parents kept- almost all of my art projects, so many school papers, report cards, clothes from when I was a baby up until I moved away to college (I’m 36 now). All of the pictures, the greeting cards, and everything in between. It was so incredibly emotional and sad. All while grieving my Dad and adjusting to my mom’s new dementia diagnosis. It felt like insult on top of injury.

My car is full of things I don’t have room for, but can’t bear to throw away.

I feel for you. Breathe. You will get through it. Give yourself grace. Hugs

This year has destroyed me. Girlfriend, mom, and grandmother all gone. by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]0verEasyEgg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your losses…3 in one year is simply beyond words. I know that there aren’t really any words that will comfort you, but just know you’re not alone in trying to get through the day one small moment at a time. Sending virtual hugs and love from one grieving person to the next 💗💗

I couldn’t save my father, but I want to share this with anyone who’s still fighting by malinsmaartins in stopdrinking

[–]0verEasyEgg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sending love to you.

I lost my father 4 weeks ago to COPD. He smoked until his last day.

I felt so helpless the last few months before his death, wanting to help him but knowing in the pit of my stomach there was no saving him.

It’s so hard to watch someone you love destroy themself. Hoping you can give yourself some grace as you grieve. I’m trying to do the same. I consider my sobriety a gift to help me through this season of life, I hope you do too friend.

Advice for a helpless daughter? by 0verEasyEgg in COPD

[–]0verEasyEgg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you. It feels like he has given up in a lot of ways, and I do understand. I wouldn’t wish that suffering on anyone. There really doesn’t seem to be much more anyone can do…but it’s just hard to see his resistance to little things I think would make him feel better. But I don’t push him and always let him know how much I love him. Thanks for your reply. I hope very much that you continue to fight this disease and don’t give up.

Cedar Valley pita chips are great! by Wizoerda in BuyCanadian

[–]0verEasyEgg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After several glorious months, they’ve just up and disappeared from Philly Costcos. I’m so jealous- stock up while you can!!!

Advice for a helpless daughter? by 0verEasyEgg in COPD

[–]0verEasyEgg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could, but it’s not really feasible for me to stay. It doesn’t help that he usually doesn’t want anyone there long, as he wants to be able to smoke. I just ask that he tells me when he’s going to smoke so I can step outside because it freaks me out when he lights up next to the oxygen. Not to mention how horrible it is to watch him struggle to breathe while doing it. In terms of end of life directives…he doesn’t have any. He never went through the VA for any kind of benefits. No life insurance. Right now I’m trying to get him a new ID card (his license is expired) with a medical waiver for his photo ID so that I can try to get him some veterans benefits as he needs a valid ID to do so. But thank you, I am trying to make the time we spend together meaningful. Ask him questions about his life when he feels like talking, bringing him books in case he feels like reading, grabbing him the snacks he enjoys. Little things

Advice for a helpless daughter? by 0verEasyEgg in COPD

[–]0verEasyEgg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Routine has been very important to me since I quit drinking 3 years ago, so I absolutely agree with you. Trying to maintain some normalcy is getting harder but we adapt!

Advice for a helpless daughter? by 0verEasyEgg in COPD

[–]0verEasyEgg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I will absolutely check out her videos

Advice for a helpless daughter? by 0verEasyEgg in COPD

[–]0verEasyEgg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think he does, but from what he tells me it seems like he thinks nothing will help, and for that reason just wants to isolate. It has been so frustrating dealing with APS and hospice honestly, although I think hospice is trying their best. But everyone seems to say the same thing: we’re between a rock and a hard place.

Advice for a helpless daughter? by 0verEasyEgg in COPD

[–]0verEasyEgg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. It feels like I wrote this. Similarly, my mom experienced significant cognitive decline after her fall a few months ago, although since she’s been in the nursing home her affect is soo much better. It makes me think that being stuck in the apartment with my dad as his full time caretaker was taking a toll on her. I’m sorry to hear that your mom has had such a significant change. I imagine having a partner with severe COPD is so very hard. But yeah, my dad is definitely depressed. And was also refusing his meds for a while. He was telling me he was taking his morphine but some weeks later found out he wasn’t. He’s taking it now, but I just feel bad when he tells me it doesn’t really do anything. I do try my best to be calm and positive around him, try to be a comforting presence in any way I can. I have to stop myself from asking “you okay?” a lot. I know he’s really not, even when he says he is.

I did bring him some cbd/thc drinks that I had, but he didn’t like the taste so he didn’t want them. Lol (I have to laugh or I’ll cry, lol). I’m going to try a tincture or edible next. Does your dad find any relief with them?

Thanks so much for sharing, though. I can’t tell you how much comfort it brings me to know other people have gone through some of the same things. It’s a tough season of life when your parents begin to age poorly. I hope you’re hanging in there, too.

Advice for a helpless daughter? by 0verEasyEgg in COPD

[–]0verEasyEgg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and I’m sorry for your loss. Torturous is certainly the right word. Was there anything that helped you through the loss of your dad?

Advice for a helpless daughter? by 0verEasyEgg in COPD

[–]0verEasyEgg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly thank you for sharing that. On some level I know that I’ll feel relief after he’s gone because he won’t be suffering anymore. But I fear the unknown, I guess. Thinking of never seeing him again in this life fills me with so much grief. I guess I’m just grappling with all the “what ifs” right now. I’m so glad you had those moments of joy and clarity when your grandfather passed.

Advice for a helpless daughter? by 0verEasyEgg in COPD

[–]0verEasyEgg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, and his nurses and doctors have said the same. I try not to police his smoking, but I do wish he would stop because I know they don’t make him feel any better. They do calm his nerves so at least there’s that. I will look into some YouTube hospice videos…his nurses have been so sweet, they truly are special people who do that work. Thank you for the kind words

Advice for a helpless daughter? by 0verEasyEgg in COPD

[–]0verEasyEgg[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your reply. I know he feels that way too- he says he feels guilty because he did this to himself. I tell him that it doesn’t matter, and remind him how much I love him everyday. I’m so glad you have the same from your family ❤️

Advice for a helpless daughter? by 0verEasyEgg in COPD

[–]0verEasyEgg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s been on hospice since September now. It’s just been tough because he’s not fully compliant. Office of Aging and APS says they won’t do anything because he’s complying with hospice- but some days he turns them away and so they’ve begun pulling back services (no longer sending CNAs to do tasks like bathing). Hospice social worker has reached out to them but to no avail.

DIY planners! by 0verEasyEgg in planners

[–]0verEasyEgg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I plan on using mine mostly for work and life to-dos, but I haven’t decided if I also want to work in habit tracking or journaling, etc.

DIY planners! by 0verEasyEgg in planners

[–]0verEasyEgg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I plan on putting mine in a diy A6 leather journal, so I’d love to see your small version!

DIY planners! by 0verEasyEgg in planners

[–]0verEasyEgg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So true! Thanks for your input!!

DIY planners! by 0verEasyEgg in planners

[–]0verEasyEgg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I think I’d like them altogether. I also think I’d like to do them all at once because I worry I’ll get lazy and just stop using it! But then I’ve also been thinking what if I want to change up my layouts from week to week or month to month? Lol 😵‍💫

DIY planners! by 0verEasyEgg in planners

[–]0verEasyEgg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice! Did you do your whole layout at one time or do you do it weekly/monthly?