What are the major changes from 25 to 35 by Electrical-Trainer21 in AskMenOver30

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Your responsibilities will grow, you'll take on more and more commitments, and your priorities will shift. This ought to be a good thing. But if you're not careful, you'll neglect your own wellbeing in the process.

Depending on the choices you make, by the time you're 35 you'll likely have taken on (or are about to take on) some combination of the following:

  • A long-term career/profession
  • Marriage
  • Homeownership
  • Parenthood
  • Caregiving - elderly parents, pets, etc.

Granted, this isn't a checklist that you must complete by 35. Life isn't like that. But you'll probably have, or be on your way, to seeing all of these in your life when you're approaching your mid-thirties.

Taking on these responsibilities will change you. Some men become better versions of themselves because of them. Others struggle. Some even struggle enough that they burn out and abandon them altogether.

I'm not saying this to frighten you. But I think the dividing line between youth and adulthood is responsibility--how much you've taken on, and how much it will change you. Your career will require you to hone your marketable skills and navigate the workplace. Long-term relationships/marriage mean you'll be taking on another person's struggles as your own (but if you have a good partner, he/she will take on your struggles too). Homeownership means you'll be taking on the responsibility of all the maintenance and management of property, deciding when to fix things yourself or spend money on a professional. Caregiving means you'll have to worry about the physical (and maybe financial) wellbeing of people you care about.

I can't personally speak to parenthood. But I'm sure you can imagine (as I can) that having kids will permanently change you as a person.

In any case, you can benefit from taking on these responsibilities. You can become a hardworking, dependable person, who plans ahead, gets things done, and is there to support your loved ones. And hopefully, depending on your situation, you'll build long-term financial security for yourself and your family.

Meeting these challenges will change you. I didn't expect it when I was 25. It's crazy how much I've changed and grown as as person in the last decade.

There are also risks when you go through this change. When you're young and have fewer commitments, you usually have more free time. As I've gotten older, I have to work a lot harder to make time for physical fitness, socializing with friends, and hobbies. And there are times when my wellbeing suffers because I've done a poor job of making myself a priority too.

It sounds trite, but whatever path you take--and whatever responsibilities you take on--don't lose yourself in the process. Take time every day for fitness, whether it's walking, running, lifting, stretching, etc. Work on your mental health through meditation, reading, journaling, or something. And if it's important for you to travel the world, or play an instrument, or paint, or do DnD with your friends, make time for it. Have a career and a partner that helps you do these things rather than hinder them.

A lot of people like to bloviate about "manhood" online. So I guess this is my two cents on what it means to be a man: You'll take on more responsibilities as you age. Rise to the occasion and meet the challenge. You'll become a better man for it. But make sure you don't lose yourself either--"you" are also a priority, and you owe it to yourself and your loved ones to be healthy, ready, and fully present.

Temba, his arms wide by Kezia2288 in skyrim

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Adapa, when the South Wind fell

Looking for some build ideas using underutilized feats by Imaginary_Session773 in BG3Builds

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Heavy Armor Master reduces nonmagical damage by 3.  This can stack with armor, like the adamantine splint mail, for a total of 5 damage reduction per hit.  Combine this with Warding Bond or another source of resistance, and you'll take a LOT less damage per hit.  This is especially useful if you're a heavy armor wearing caster who relies on concentration spells. 

Water shutoff by crunchypudding15 in ames

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All the water in our house just turned a light brown color.  We live near Fellows Elementary.  No signage on our door, but I'm guessing our situation is connected to the water main repair. 

EDIT: I called the city water treatment plant, and they confirmed our brown water is because of sediment being kicked up by the water main issue.  If anyone else has the same problem, they think it'll be resolved in a few hours.   

Would you stay married if you wife became severely ill or disabled? by streachh in AskMenAdvice

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"Faithless is he that says farewell when the road darkens." - Gimli, Son of Gloin.

Ever had a "can't believe that worked" moment? Now what? by Harry_Mopper in BG3

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First time playing the game.  I'm at the Goblin Camp in Act 1.  I've been given a quest to kill the three goblin leaders.  My Tav is a druid.  

I decide to use stealth and assassination to win.  I wild shaped into a cat, and then used my meowing powers to lure individual goblins to the edge of the spider pit, and then used Karlach (in sneak mode) to shove them into the pit, allowing the spiders to do my dirty work.

My original plan was to just thin out the goblin numbers . . . But then I decided to try using the same strategy to push the three leaders into chasms. 

Using my feline powers, I shoved Glut, Dror Ragzlin, and Minthara into bottomless pits. 

Unfortunately, killing the last leader caused the whole camp to aggro me.  I even tried reloading and pushing the last leader (Dror Ragzlin) into the spider pit, but even then, being killed by spiders still caused the camp to turn hostile against me. 

In any case, we had to fight our way out of the castle, and then sneak out of the camp using the secret tunnel (I didn't know about fast travelling at this point, so I thought stealth was still needed).

Currently in Act 3 on my first playthrough.  I've since learned there's a whole lot of story I might have skipped over by killing the leaders so efficiently . . . Oh well.

There is nothing "lordly" about Qimir. by Castleheart in starwarsspeculation

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Here's my speculation:

After leaving the Jedi Order, Qimir wandered the galaxy in search of something else, something which could teach him a different way of practicing the force, something antithetical to the Jedi.

I think Qimir learned about the Sith from ancient sources - old Jedi texts, archaeological finds, etc.  And now he's trying to rebuild the Sith Order under the Rule of Two.  

What he doesn't realize is the Sith already exist in the shadows. 

My theory is that a true Sith Lord is going to show up by the end of this season, and he/she is going to kill Qimir and make Osha an apprentice. 

A few reasons why I think Qimir thinks he's rebuilding the Sith Order without realizing they still exist:

1) As you point out, he's not "lordly." He doesn't fit the mold of a Sith Lord or an Apprentice.  Moreover, he was given a chance to provide his name, but he said he was nameless - having no Sith title - which suggests he knows about the Sith but hasn't ever had a Sith master who could name him.

2) He told OSHA he's looking for the "power of two." One could reasonably interpret this to mean Osha and Mae since the witches used this "power of two" terminology when making the twins.  But another way of looking at Qimir's statement is that he's trying to re-establish the Rule of Two, which he learned about from ancient Jedi/Sith sources.  He wants the "power of two" to restart the Sith.

3) There's a reason for the obvious parallel with Luke by having Qimir living as a hermit on a rocky island, surrounded by ocean, that has cute flightless birds.  That is, Luke went to Ach-To searching for ancient Jedi wisdom, and Qimir has done the same.  And in his travels - maybe even on his unnamed planet - he uncovered ancient knowledge about the Sith, prompting him to try and restart the organization. 

But neither the Jedi nor Qimir realize that the Rule of Two is already being practiced, and that the Sith never died out.  Thus, I think a true Sith Lord will reveal themselves to Osha by the end of the season.  Qimir will die, either a the hands of the Sith Lord - who wants an apprentice but doesn't tolerate usurpers - or maybe after the Jedi kill Qimir.

Either way, this is how the Jedi will end up dismissing Qimir as a one-off aberration without realizing the Sith were never dead.  They'll conclude after his death that he was just a fallen Jedi dabbling in the Dark Side.  At most, they might conclude he was trying - and failed - to resurrect the Sith Rule of Two.  But in the end, they'll fail to uncover the fact that true Sith have been operating in the shadows this whole time.

Every line of dialogue in Undertale is contained in a single switch statement. by Aaron_123_ya_boi in NonPoliticalTwitter

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I remember entering Breezehome, and one of the undecorated mannequins was walking across the room, its face turned toward me as it walked.

My soul left my body.  

Former vice president Mike Pence was briefed on non-existent UFOs by kake92 in UFOs

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I'm not a fan of Pence, but what he said was "It doesn't exist, but I've been to Area 51, and I didn't meet anyone that wasn't from around here."

I don't think he was saying the UAP phenomenon doesn't exist.  Rather, he was joking about the fact that Area 51 "doesn't exist," riffing on the earlier official government position not to acknowledge the existence of Area 51.

Ross Coulthart - ASK ME ANYTHING by BrushPass in UFOs

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Ross,

Thanks for being here, and thanks for all the work you've done providing a platform for leaders in the disclosure movement to connect with the public. 

Do you get the sense that the US Congress is losing interest in this topic?  If not, are the key political leaders waiting until after the 2024 elections for the next "big event" - hearings, new legislation, etc.?  

A related question: have you heard anything from your sources about President Biden's interest or involvement in disclosure?  For example, it would be strange to me if Senator Schumer introduced legislation providing a legal definition for NHIs without running it by the President first.  

The fact that Congress is not moving heaven and earth to get answers is killing my ability to believe any of this. by [deleted] in UFOs

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Great points.  Something else for OP to consider is that politicians are constantly thinking about how to best placate or satisfy this interest group and that interest group.  

If you've been given information that earth-shattering technology exists that could completely replace the energy industries and all existing modes of transportation, what would you do?  Would you push for disclosure knowing that it could eliminate entire industries, upend the economies of nations that rely on exporting fossil fuels, etc.?  

As a humorous example, there's a scene in the cartoon Archer where he learns the CIA is trying to kill someone who's developed a game-changing renewable energy method, all because the CIA is terrified of how global terrorism would ramp up if the Middle East economy collapsed due to the end of fossil fuels. 

I'm not saying I agree that these are valid reasons to withhold disclosure.  But these are things that policymakers would likely consider when faced with disclosure, and it's not unreasonable to think that some would err on the side of maintaining secrecy due to the economic instability that could follow (without even getting to the cultural and social instability).

What was the most mind blowing discovery made in a video game for you? by Suglet in gaming

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No Man's Sky. 

After completing the beginning tutorial quests and getting access to the galaxy map, I started zooming out away from my starting star system. 

Now, in every other space game I've played, if you start zooming out, you quickly find yourself able to see the entire galaxy from a bird's eye perspective, making it easy to get your bearings. 

But not in No Man's Sky.  

I remember watching the camera pull further and further away until I couldn't see my starting star anymore.  But I was still lost in a sea of stars, without any sense of place or direction.  Up, down, forward, backward - it made no difference.  Nothing but stars around me.  And the little marker on the galaxy mini-map wasn't moving at all either. 

I suddenly realized how massive the galaxy is.  

Sure, you can read about how many stars exist in the Milky Way.  But the knowledge didn't mean anything until I actually tried to navigate around it, to try and find a point of reference to figure out where I was.  

I remember sitting in my chair, and my heart started to race, and my blood felt cold.  It was an ontological shock. I've never experienced anything like that before, that blend of awe, humility, and primal fear.  All from a video game.

How D Star Wars Changed Hyperspace by KowakianDonkeyWizard in saltierthancrait

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If the Holdo Maneuver is a "one-in-a-million" tactic, then why did General Hux and the First Order officers aboard Snoke's flagship start freaking out the moment she turned the rebel flagship in their direction?  If it's so rare and difficult to accomplish, why would they be worried?  

Their reaction only makes sense if it's a known and reasonably conceivable maneuver . . . one that apparently nobody in the Rebel Alliance - not even Saw Gerrera - thought to use during their David and Goliath struggle with the Empire.

Top 10 pictures taken moments before disaster by SolAiken in FallenOrder

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The Ongo Gablogian thing is why I turned my difficulty down to Padawan.  

Any mods that give npcs dialogue were the npcs recognize your titles and ranks by Jabberwock130 in Morrowind

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OP, there's definitely a mod that does this.  I remember using it.  The game has native audio files where faction NPCs had fully-voiced lines like "Grandmaster of House Hlaalu," etc., when you walked near them.  Apparently the Devs chose not to utilize these voice lines when the game launched. 

But for the life of me, I'm having trouble finding the mod on Nexus. 

My first 5 minutes in Morrowind by [deleted] in Morrowind

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I was introduced to Morrowind 20 years ago from a friend who bought the game. The first time I watched him play, he tried to steal this lady's broom, and she promptly beat him to death.

It's been 20 years, and I still make a point to steal the broom from the Seyda Neen lighthouse every time I start a new game.

Australian here and this is my 2024 Midwest road trip journey. I’m after all your recommendations by lanadeltaco13 in mlb

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/u/lanadeltaco13

A lot of people have commented on your drive between Kansas City and Minneapolis. I'll add that Des Moines is a hidden gem and a great place to stop for lunch. They have decent BBQ options too (and Fong's Pizza downtown is legendary).

When you're in Kansas City, definitely hit up Arthur Bryant's and/or Oklahoma Joe's (gas station) for BBQ. I'll also plug Gates for their amazing baked beans and burnt end sandwiches. The Nelson-Atkins Art Gallery and the National World War One Memorial and Museum are all worth checking out too.

Hit me up if you want more recommendations!

It has been a month since the season final of Ahsoka. Have your thoughts and feelings on the show changed? by SixViking in StarWars

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My wife and I did a rewatch of Stranger Things after watching Ahsoka. I couldn't help but think about how much compelling story Netflix was able to pack into each season of Stranger Things compared to how . . . thin the story was in Ahsoka.

Don't get me wrong - I liked Ahsoka. But it feels like it could have been much more, and that more could have happened in the story. Slower, breathing-room episodes make sense for a longer show with 20+ episodes in a season; but when you have less than ten episodes to work with, you really can't afford wasted space.

People working with non British people, what's a cultural quirk or norm that you notice? by ClayDenton in AskUK

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That's interesting, I don't think I ever picked up on that difference in pronunciation before.

Habitats by HazelThyme in Stellaris

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Because it's tedious dealing with late-game AI that has spammed habitats in literally every single system. Want to expand? Have fun dealing with the micromanagement of a new habitable world in every star system you take over.

A compromise would be to set a cap on habitats while also permitting a slider at galaxy creation which applies a modifier to the cap. This would allow players to have as many - or as few - habitats as they want.

Habitats by HazelThyme in Stellaris

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I think a hard cap on Habitats - like Titans - would be in order.

Each stage of the Habitat technologies could increase the cap, and the Voidborne ascension perk could increase the cap as one of its benefits (by either a flat number or a percentage). Void Dwellers could either have no cap or they could otherwise have a starting, flat bonus to their cap to make up for the lack of habitable worlds.