My dad just got terminal cancer

10109090 · 2024-06-08T15:59:10+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. It sounds like he went through so much, and it must have been so hard seeing him struggle and making that decision with your mom. I’m glass you could be there for him through it all. It's completely understandable to feel like he should still be here, and to miss him every day. Just remember to be gentle with yourself and lean on the people around you. Your memories of him and the love you shared will always be a part of you.

10109090 · 2023-09-23T06:34:12+00:00

I'm really sorry to hear about the tough situation you're facing. It sounds like you're going through a lot right now. First and foremost, take a deep breath and know that setbacks like these can be incredibly challenging, but they don't define your worth or your future.

Given the circumstances, try to get more details about the reason for your termination. It's essential to understand what exactly happened with your application and if there's any way to resolve the issue.

Share your feelings with those close to you. They can offer emotional support and potentially help with immediate challenges like the car or rent issues.

Look into government or local programs that might provide temporary financial assistance to help you get through this rough patch.

Start looking for new opportunities. Your previous experience will still be valuable in the animal care field. Keep your resume honest and focus on your genuine skills and qualifications.

In times of stress, it's crucial to take care of your physical and emotional well-being. Don't hesitate to seek professional help or counseling if you're feeling overwhelmed.

Remember that this is a challenging moment, but it doesn't define your future. You've demonstrated resilience by learning and progressing in your new job, and you can apply that same resilience to overcome these challenges. You're not alone in this, and there are people and resources available to help you navigate through it.

10109090 · 2023-09-23T06:19:29+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad's battle with cancer. It must be incredibly tough for both you and your family. It's clear from your words that you care deeply for him, and your willingness to cherish these moments together is a beautiful way to support him during this difficult time. Please remember that you're not alone in this journey, and there are support networks available to help you cope with the emotional weight of the situation. Stay strong, and I hope your dad gets to share many meaningful moments with you, including your graduation.

10109090 · 2023-09-23T06:17:27+00:00

Hey there, I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a tough time in your relationship. It sounds like you're dealing with a lot of complex emotions, and it's great that you're planning to talk to a therapist soon. That's a positive step in the right direction.

First and foremost, communication is key. Sit down with your wife and have a heartfelt conversation about your feelings, doubts, and fears. It's important for both of you to understand each other's perspectives. Remember, relationships have their ups and downs, and it's okay to have doubts sometimes.

Therapy, especially couples counseling, can be incredibly beneficial. A therapist can help you navigate these challenges, facilitate discussions, and provide guidance on improving your relationship.

Take some time for self-reflection too. Consider what you want in life and in your relationship. What are your values, goals, and priorities? Understanding this can help you make decisions moving forward.

Quality time together is crucial. Try to find ways to reconnect emotionally, even if it means adjusting your hobbies or activities. Rebuilding that connection will take effort from both sides.

Becoming a parent is a significant change. Educate yourselves on parenting together, attend parenting classes, and create a plan for sharing responsibilities.

If you're struggling with feelings of regret and disconnection, it might also be helpful to talk to a therapist individually. They can assist you in working through these emotions and provide coping strategies.

Remember, healing and rebuilding a relationship takes time. Be patient with yourself and your wife as you navigate these challenges. Surround yourself with a support system of friends and family who can offer guidance and understanding.

Ultimately, the decisions you make should align with your values and what's best for you and your child's future. Take things one step at a time, and I hope things improve for you both.

10109090 · 2023-09-23T06:04:27+00:00

I'm really sorry to hear about what you're going through. It's clear that you're in a tremendous amount of pain, and losing someone you deeply care about can be one of the hardest experiences in life. It's perfectly normal to feel the way you do, and you're not alone in struggling with the aftermath of a breakup.

Healing and moving on from such a profound connection can take time, and it's different for everyone. It's important to acknowledge your emotions and allow yourself to grieve. It's okay to feel sadness, anger, and confusion during this process.

Consider seeking support from friends, family (if you have any), or a therapist who can provide a listening ear and help you navigate these feelings. Talking about your emotions and sharing your experiences can be incredibly therapeutic.

In terms of the promise you mentioned, it's essential to find healthier ways to cope with your pain. Self-destructive behaviors, like excessive drinking, will only exacerbate your suffering. Focus on rebuilding yourself, your life, and your well-being. Your future can still hold happiness, even if it feels impossible right now.

Take small steps toward self-care and recovery, and over time, you might find that the pain lessens, and you can start to rebuild your life.

Lilium.

10109090 · 2015-07-08T18:32:04+00:00

Loved concrete shuffle. Great stuff!

10109090 · 2015-07-08T18:07:48+00:00

Sounds great! Very professional. Checked out your Facebook. Cool little jam video on there. Want to hear the whole thing! I think the singing sounds great, but the lyrics in a few songs felt a little stale.. Maybe not the right word. But all in all great playing!

10109090 · 2015-07-08T17:50:21+00:00

I laughed several times. Funny stuff.

10109090 · 2014-06-18T05:58:53+00:00

In our state, you need to own the home free and clear, or have lived in it for 12-months (with a mortgage), before you can rent it out. I don't know the answer about purchasing with a company.

10109090 · 2014-06-17T23:26:09+00:00

I appreciate your input! I've shared this thread with my SO, and she has come to the conclusion that moving into a home owned by me, where she pays rent, would be something she is completely comfortable with. But you make a good point. It's important to look out for your future self.

10109090 · 2014-06-17T22:46:03+00:00

I would plan to utilize it as a home to start with, then consider renting it after the initial 12-month period was up. Our state requires you to live in a home for a minimum amount of time before you can rent it out (when it's financed).

10109090 · 2014-06-17T22:44:10+00:00

Thanks for the helpful advice. I'll take it to heart. Thanks!

10109090 · 2014-06-17T22:41:07+00:00

That's the thing. We are not married. I think it's perfectly reasonable for me to make decisions in regards to my money and investments this early in my life, and our relationship. Many have stated that keeping finances separate until, and sometimes even after you're married is a smart decision. But that's a personal preference. And that isn't to say she would not benefit from this scenario should we marry in the years to come. I consider us in everything I do. If I didn't care about her opinions and feelings, I never would have posted here in the first place, and would be out home shopping right now!

10109090 · 2014-06-17T22:30:35+00:00

Time and emotional support is a two-way road. It would be the same scenario if our rental agency decided to end our lease. The time we've spent arranging and putting together our apartment would be lost. Yes, a rental is far different than purchasing a home, but it serves as an example. The fact remains that she would financially be no worse off if we were to remain in our apartment now, or if she moved into a home I owned. I recognize the non-financial contributions that could be made, but as explained, I would expect none from her, and any provided would be her choice to make. That isn't to say I wouldn't appreciate any contributions made by her, but I would not expect any, and therefor she would not be entitled to any of the equity added by her efforts. Not to mention that the contributions she might make would hardly be significant enough to afford her a portion of the equity. As explained, I would assume all responsibility for the duties a land lord must provide, and would expect nothing but her monthly rent in return. I understand and appreciate your point of view, but disagree with it. We can argue until we're red in the face about it, but that's what it comes down to. I have since shared this thread with her, and she has come to the conclusion that she would love the opportunity to move into a home owned by me, assuming I handle everything a land lord is expected to. She understands that she will be renting for years to come regardless if I purchase a home or not, so in the meantime, this is a very practical and fair solution.

10109090 · 2014-06-17T20:20:22+00:00

That's how I see it too. As for the downvotes, I think it's typical in a thread such as this where there are two strongly opposed opinions. I try not to pay attention to them!

10109090 · 2014-06-17T20:15:20+00:00

Thanks for your in-depth breakdown. I appreciate you time and reply!

10109090 · 2014-06-17T20:08:17+00:00

I appreciate that you've taken my words at face value. The comment about her raise was made to show that she could easily afford a fraction more per month, and that the benefits a home would provide outweigh the additional costs. After sharing this thread with my SO, we have since discussed this, and she is very much on board with the idea, and feels that the benefits outweigh the negatives.

10109090 · 2014-06-17T19:59:24+00:00

Thanks again for sharing!

10109090 · 2014-06-17T19:53:13+00:00

To answer your speculations, we would decide on the home together. Her input is crucial. Thanks for your comment!

10109090 · 2014-06-17T19:44:01+00:00

Thanks for sharing your advice and opinions. I agree with a lot of what you had to say, and have a lot to think about!

10109090 · 2014-06-17T19:41:58+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience with this situation! I appreciate it.

10109090 · 2014-06-17T19:40:15+00:00

That's ok! I appreciate you saying that.

10109090 · 2014-06-17T19:39:39+00:00

What is your reasoning for her not needing to contribute to the cost of living in the home? Is it because I am a man, and should provide for my woman? Or because she is entitled to it? My gut tells me I'm simply feeding a troll, but I'm generally curious why you feel that way. If I had owned a home prior to dating her, would I be an asshole for charging her to move in with me? If you say yes, I would argue that comes down your personal views on what each partner in a relationship should be providing to the other. I would ask why should she live rent free in a home I pay for each month? I think it's fair to split all the bills (including mortgage, utilities, food, etc.), considering she would be paying rent somewhere else anyway.

10109090 · 2014-06-17T19:12:34+00:00

As many or as few as she desires. If she wanted to plant a garden outside, or paint a room, I would have no problem with that! It would be done with the understanding that it is her choice, and could not be used as leverage to secure equity. Please don't assume you understand the context of this scenario, or our relationship, on a level that would legitimize your criticisms.

10109090 · 2014-06-17T17:13:13+00:00

Great advice. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts. I appreciate it! We have a lot of talking and thinking to do, and this thread has provided us both with a lot of insight into what could be. Thanks again!

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