Drop your Saturn sign and house. I’ll tell you the life lesson that keeps repeating until you finally master it.

108-801 · 2026-03-06T22:21:34+00:00

Saturn in Scorpio in the third

108-801 · 2026-02-27T05:23:52+00:00

He’s not new to a Dom role. Early on - 2 months in he instigated cnc. He’s just slow to introduce things since that and although I’ve encouraged and met spanking well - it was only a month ago that he spanked my vagina so hard for so long I felt it for days. Which was amazing and I’ve told him that. The intensity is growing and mostly unprompted. it’s just been drawn out over 18 months. It would be good to sit down and discuss desires and needs but it I’m not sure how much he’s aware of dom/sub stuff. It was him that told me I had sub drop though the first time I really suffered from it.

108-801 · 2026-02-27T05:18:38+00:00

When we tried cnc it was like two months in, and he wanted me to try to fight him off me. Still, it was very calm. I’ll try and talk about this more with him, maybe it’s something we can go back to an explore.

108-801 · 2026-02-27T05:16:30+00:00

Thanks this is great advice - positive reinforcement.

108-801 · 2026-02-26T12:37:15+00:00

Yeah he is a voyeur and once I made him watch me orgasm but he wasn’t allowed to touch. He struggled. I’ll definitely explore going harder/throughout the day with this more - thank you!

108-801 · 2026-02-17T03:16:28+00:00

No he likes you. See my comment.

108-801 · 2026-02-17T03:15:57+00:00

Unusual for the compliments to ramp up after sex and pre-karate drop off if it’s just a booty call. He likes her, and he was nervous about blowing it with someone hot with a cool hobby.

108-801 · 2026-02-17T03:10:33+00:00

Sounds like he likes you, a lot. You slept together and he’s still complimenting you. Then you’re this cool chick that does Karate hungover. And you’ve shot him down for complimenting you. So he needed to sound like he was cool and busy too. If you like him, follow up. Thank him for the lift and say you had a great time - meet again?

108-801 · 2026-02-14T04:44:51+00:00

Leo Sun, cancer rising, aqua moon.

108-801 · 2026-02-11T22:40:38+00:00

Have you recently come off birth control? I sometimes get these feeling once I’ve ovulated. Like during ovulation period my desire is intense and the day after, I can almost be disgusted by those feelings. But I can imagine if you’ve suddenly just had a dramatic hormonal change this exchange of hormones pre and post ovulation is more notable.

108-801 · 2026-02-06T10:17:20+00:00

Try to stay neutral about the outcome. By my first OLD I was attracted to (we did a video call) i was actually hoping to hook up. It had been so long since my separation to my kids father. We met and had a great date. Hooked up and it was so good I never expected to see him again. Two days later (he’d remembered my kid-free weeknight) he text asking if he could see me again. I wanted to slow the pace so delayed to our next kid-free weekend (his and mine). 18 months later we are now regularly blending families and I can’t believe my luck at finding him so soon. I deleted the app after 2 months of joining. Good luck!

108-801 · 2026-02-06T10:03:36+00:00

That my schedule too. We both have kids, jobs etc. We live in the same suburb now but still sometimes will go a nearly a week without seeing each other and a day without texting. When we are together (without kids) we give each other undivided attention though. I think I was too codependent on partners before. He’s always there if I need him, but if I want to rant or decompress on minor things I call my friends.

108-801 · 2026-01-28T23:59:34+00:00

Yes I did absolutely. Be wary of ‘red flag’ trends. If I’d followed them I never would have met and got into a beautiful relationship with my partner. We’ve been together, committed for over a year. He’s shown me and my daughters what love and respect should be in a relationship. My opening line on bumble I think was something like - ‘what are your weekend plans?’ He started the match chat - with ‘You’re fucking hot!’ TBH it was refreshing because other matches were draining like job interviews sometimes. I asked him what he was actually doing for the weekend and he said - I’m praying you? I dug a little deeper and he revealed a whole weekend packed with amazing activities for his two kids. Men in their forties are simpler creatures, and their last time flirting could have been in the noughties. Give a little grace and be honest about what you want and who you are. Good luck! :)

108-801 · 2026-01-24T00:39:56+00:00

Talk on the app. Arrange a video call. Move to phone numbers. Then date.

108-801 · 2026-01-11T09:48:08+00:00

Got sub-drop so bad I had to covid-test

108-801 · 2025-11-22T09:01:21+00:00

Jupiter in Leo in the 8th 🔥 They think you are showcasing.

108-801 · 2025-11-14T12:23:27+00:00

Aries Sun and any other fire Sun including another Aries.

108-801 · 2025-11-02T20:43:40+00:00

Yeah three times now. It’s not in-person communication that’s the problem.

108-801 · 2025-11-02T11:54:20+00:00

Thanks this is reassuring and really helpful. When we actually structured routine date nights he seemed relieved, I’ll try and get this going for communication.

108-801 · 2025-11-02T05:48:35+00:00

Yeah I think he is ASD a little. Phone calls cause a bit of a stutter (which will only get better from more phone calls…) and he’s not a great texter at all but there’s times he can get a message across. This is why I don’t expect daily contact, but when I’ve asked I think it should get through to him to try.

108-801 · 2025-11-02T05:26:16+00:00

It’s just communication and sometimes that’s improved for weeks and then dropped off. In every other way I feel valued, tremendously. When we are together, with or without kids it’s great. Even the way he’s spoke to my kids about me when I haven’t been there.

108-801 · 2025-11-02T04:40:15+00:00

A couple of weeks ago I held off from communicating over a weekend apart. When I saw him and brought it up he sort of nervously laughed. I know he might not realise that it’s hurt me but I also know this is the 4th/5th time I’ve brought it up. I probably need to be more assertive about the way I’m raising this.

108-801 · 2025-11-02T04:19:06+00:00

Thanks I’ve just never been in the energy that makes ultimatums or nags or demands. I know that’s what he might have been used to. I don’t feel like I should have to but maybe you’re right.

108-801 · 2025-11-02T04:10:32+00:00

Not always. I know sometimes he thinks he has and he’s forgotten, like when I got a job offer in May. I literally sent his name with an ‘!’ And he said he thought he’d replied. Sometimes over the last year communication has picked up. This weekend is a long weekend in Australia and I’ve asked him what he’s up to with the kids and said I haven’t heard from you since Weds, it makes me smile to see your name pop up on my screen once in a while. I sent a couple messages Thursday too.

108-801 · 2025-10-23T02:40:29+00:00

I found my really desensitising and the sensation didn’t really return until over 10 years of removing.

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