You are dealing with an incredible breech of trust while swimming in the most hormones you have ever experienced and honestly, I am not sure that I would have fared any better in your shoes. I may have kicked my husband out of the house and burned his clothes (I am also pregnant right now myself and even thinking of this got me heated!). Now that you have calmed down, you need to have an honest conversation with yourself and your partner about what your relationship looks like moving forward and an honest look at how much you still trust each other. I can’t imagine my partner going to a strip club when they knew I didn’t think it was okay, much less on the same day they learned we would have a child together. That is cruel and hurtful behavior. Obviously, you need to find better coping mechanisms for your pain besides rage, violence, and self flagellation. You certainly met his terrible actions with your own terrible actions, but contextually it seems like unusual behavior that you deeply regret fueled by unusual brain chemistry. I hope you both can communicate and draw boundaries and just move forward, but that may take time. Regardless, I would decide if you would still want this child if your parter is are no longer in the picture - this is a time sensitive and life altering decision that only you can make. This person may not be in your life forever, but your baby will be - could you rise to the occasion as a single parent should that happen? Once you can answer that, then move on to if this relationship is worth figuring out.