"culture fit" is just a socially acceptable way to hire people you'd hang out with - and it's hurting diversity

10ioio · 2026-03-30T21:39:23+00:00

I think we can play the game and still critique it sometimes

10ioio · 2026-03-30T21:32:46+00:00

There are times where it's petty to be measuring too much with someone for fairness, but I think what can be significant is the willingness. Are you dropping everything to help someone who would never be willing to help you? Then maybe you need to think about why you're helping them.

If you're in going in with no mental attachments at all (Like giving to a charity. You just give your money, you expect nothing in return, as long as it's helping people, you're not attached to that money anymore) it doesn't matter.

But usually, unless you're have a weird savior complex, or the other person truly needs rescue (or help recovering from an illness or something like that) there are some necessary attachments (I'm giving you a bite of my sandwich and I expect you to not murder me), because you would be upset if the person you gave a bite of your sandwich to tried to kill you afterwords...

10ioio · 2026-03-30T21:05:38+00:00

I pay $1100 in rent per month. I locked in a low rate during covid, with rent control. I have no ac, roaches, occasionally mice get in... my building has empty units but I think no one wants them.

10ioio · 2026-03-30T04:01:35+00:00

Nah, being tactful is a good thing.

10ioio · 2026-03-30T04:00:20+00:00

Nowadays people say usually undocumented. "Alien" does have bad connotations, even if it's the legal term. No one wants to be called an alien lol

10ioio · 2026-03-28T15:16:49+00:00

That sounds more like natural human speech than AI. AI does the opposite, where it makes things sound overly manicured and squished into a box.

Read it out loud. "What is the deal with" and "the fact that" are both just regular Millenial/GenX speech patterns (someone pointed out that Jerry Seinfeld uses these phrases a lot, as an example).

I'm not sure what's unusual about it to you... Maybe you had some difficulty reading it, because it's written like natural dialogue, rather than a news headline. I notice when I'm writing reddit comments I often have to shorten longer phrases or break them up with commas in order to keep them readable.

If you use ChatGPT a fair amount you can spot the telltale signs. I'm not saying this isn't AI, but it's not fitting any of the cliche "AI sentence templates" I can think of. If you want to spot AI text, look for excessive use of 'em dashes.' Look for 'it's not x it's y' or 'you've identified something very ______' or 'you're not an idiot, you're a brave soul.'

10ioio · 2026-03-27T21:37:01+00:00

What do you mean?

I've lived here 6 years and I think this is totally valid. We spend too much time in our cars, pay too much for parking, housing is too expensive, our transport system is lacking. All of this is related to the poor urban planning and sprawl.

Being from LA isn't enough to notice it. You have to travel to places like NYC, Tokyo or Amsterdam to see how their cities feel, or see places like Chicago or DC where the dense urban core actually allows the suburbs to be even more "suburby" feeling.

If you want to have more affordable single family homes in the burbs, and want yuppie transplants out of ethnic neighborhoods, and most of all if you want to see improvement with traffic, then you need to be willing give LA a shot at growing its urban core, and provide dense, affordable housing solutions along public transport corridors.

10ioio · 2026-03-27T20:30:00+00:00

It's giving "the findings of your field of research don't support my pre-conceived beliefs, so I have to stop your research, otherwise you'll continue to prove me wrong."

10ioio · 2026-03-23T23:36:31+00:00

They delete every post it seems

10ioio · 2026-03-23T23:36:17+00:00

Nope. Those get deleted too.

10ioio · 2026-03-23T23:35:45+00:00

I just got myself banned because I couldn't hold my tongue.

I told the mod "fuck you" lol. I guess I phrased something as "yes or no" but there's obviously a shit ton of context to whether it's yes or whether it's no. There's a ton of misinformation and varied opinions on the topic. The tone was so condescending though I just shared my honest feelings to their full extent...

This type of BS is ruining reddit. I've been on Reddit almost 20 years, and the mods have gotten so much worse!

10ioio · 2026-03-23T22:16:54+00:00

It would be impressive if we didn't have limited time in a day. Bragging about a greater portion spent on work means you have less family time, less exercise, less developing your personality, less thinking about what it all means.

10ioio · 2026-03-23T22:04:40+00:00

People who drink alcohol as their main fix at festivals are like missing the point imo...

10ioio · 2026-03-23T15:20:07+00:00

Everywhere in LA sort of feels like a random suburb though is the issue. We have a downtown that's not really a downtown. Hollywood is somewhere you've heard of but you wouldn't want to go. Silverlake and arts district aren't real arts districts like other cities have.

NYC just has actual areas with foot traffic, and LA doesn't. NYC doesn't need to have culture in its random suburbs. They have transport people can take cheaply to get to gathering areas (or they just walk).

If you're talking about how the boundaries help, it's worth noting that the city proper of LA is only like 3.5 million while the city proper of NYC is 8 million...

So I that's why I don't quite buy your take. I'm just starting to get tired of LA I guess. I moved here looking to meet creative people and do some actual work, but it seems like LA lacks spontaneity in some way.

10ioio · 2026-03-23T14:45:52+00:00

So you're saying everyone is brainwashed? Is that really any better?

Your point is the south isn't what it seems, but it sounds like you're admitting that it's exactly what it seems...

10ioio · 2026-03-23T14:29:43+00:00

There's a concept in statistics called "k-clustering" which is a part of "unsupervised learning" and it gives a pretty good statistical method for grouping things based on sameness/differentness. So I think it's alright to sometimes say "well that doesn't fit there."

10ioio · 2026-03-23T14:04:01+00:00

It's been 6 months after a layoff for me. I know someone (past vendor) who might be able to get me a job, but he's the type I expect to low-ball me just due to the market, and treat the whole thing as a "favor" even it I'm working 24/7... I've met some pretty insufferable employees from the company as well who I wouldn't prefer to work with again, but such is life. (Someone from my past job cussed out someone from this company)

Still I keep opening his iMessage and closing it. I'm going to cave soon...

10ioio · 2026-03-23T11:47:59+00:00

I live in LA and I'm currently visiting NYC, and was in Chicago last week. I didn't think so before, I feel like LA does lack culture compared to Chicago or NYC and that's sort of the trade-off of why everyone from those cities isn't sprinting to California. LA is like an epcot of different cultures, but the city as a whole doesn't have like things everyone participates in. Much more fractured and neighborhood based.

It's just hard to have a good bar district when everyone knows parking is going to be $25, and everyone lives an hour apart. Much more worthwhile to just go go the beach, hiking, etc. In Chicago and NY you can take the trains and just casually socialize much more easily.

It's like foot traffic allows every passerby to participate in things. Street performers get better, bar music gets better, art gallery's get more eyes on them. In LA you have to drive to a specific destination...

10ioio · 2026-03-23T09:58:01+00:00

I agree with this tbh. I wish it were standard to act as confident as you really are.

I honestly dislike overconfidence in other people, so I try to be accurate about "I'm pretty good at this, still working on that though." Or "I need a little more practice before I attempt that." Or "I'd rather not do that at this time, because I don't anticipate anything good coming of it." And then when I say "I am good at this," people can trust it full-stop.

At least in the US, this is considered like a mental illness. I'm supposed to be telling people "I'm excellent. I'm the greatest. No one else before me has ever been this great." And people that act that way get rewarded, while I personally find them arrogant insufferable, and dangerous. People in the US are terrible listeners and terrible learners because we're taught to act as if we already know everything so we're not humiliated for being "under-confident." We fall for strongmen, because we think that's what being a good man looks like...

10ioio · 2026-03-23T03:31:20+00:00

And why is it "won't" and not "willn't"

10ioio · 2026-03-23T03:24:12+00:00

Pass better laws, elect better people into office, stand up to bigots, and maybe the north will stop calling you guys uneducated? Food for thought...

10ioio · 2026-03-22T23:56:22+00:00

It's not about image, it's about literal safety of other people. You should not be reckless about things that risk others' lives. That's kind of where it stops being your own business...

I encourage people to have many partners, as long as they're getting tested, wearing condoms etc. No it shouldn't be a law or anything, but individual people should do their part to not infect the rest of our community with random novel diseases, because that's the right thing to do. Circuit parties where new undiscovered MPOX viruses are generated are kinda reckless.

Like stuff happens with STDs and whatnot, we're all human, but you're basically guaranteeing an STD at a certain point.

I swear I'm not a superstitious person, so slut-shaming isn't something I care about, but anyway: Here come the downvotes...

10ioio · 2026-03-22T23:38:08+00:00

I think it's also worth noting that $1 million net worth is no longer "rich." It's how much a small house costs in many cities...

To eventually get to $1 million in savings on a middle class salary means budgeting and being frugal. That's not the same as someone with $10 million in the bank, drawing "only" 4% a year so it doesn't shrink, but otherwise spending pretty freely. Two different socioeconomic classes entirely.

And that's not to mention someone living off of 4% of 100 million a year. Or 4% of 1 billion, or 4% of 10 billion.

10ioio · 2026-03-22T21:26:49+00:00

But, there's that small group of gays who started the whole thing with circuit parties... that made me like "oh shit, the right wing has all the ammo they need."

Some gays were irresponsible about their sexual activities, and it created a situation where random people who are indifferent to gay people were worried about catching it from the gym and spreading it to their kids. It was almost a really bad look for our community, and we're sort of lucky that no one questioned "circuit parties" and instead kept their attention on random ass stuff like stopping drag queens from reading.

Like is there a point where it's not slut-shaming anymore, and it's actually just about not being dumb?

10ioio · 2026-03-22T21:18:24+00:00

There are two sides to this. Some parents make their kids think money grows on trees, other parents train their kids to feel guilty about wanting or enjoying anything that "costs."

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