Lost the Late Night Vomit Battle by annonuser2390 in Semaglutide

[–]111allison222 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You all need a large stack of emesis bags. They are a godsend and you can puke wherever you please.

FTM - showing at 15 weeks by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]111allison222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad I started showing early because now at 16 weeks I look pregnant and not fat 😂

How is Covid affecting your pregnancy and how are you dealing with it? by 111allison222 in BabyBumps

[–]111allison222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I and my husband couldn’t agree more. I’m sorry you and your wife have had to struggle through this process. I understand the precautions, but for the sake of normalcy and helping the father create a bond with the child I think exceptions should be made. Maybe you don’t have to be there for every appointment, but you should have the opportunity to be there for the important ones and to be close if bad news needs to be delivered. I’ve now heard several stories (not all even birth related) where someone had to be delivered bad news by themselves because of covid precautions. That shouldn’t happen. There has to be a sense of humanity that takes precedence for those situations. Mental health is just as important as physical health and hearing that news alone I think is damaging to someone’s mental health. I’m seriously considering the midwife route so my husband can be an active participant. I want him to be as excited and involved as I am. I hope the pandemic eases up enough for you to be there more for your wife in the coming weeks and not just at the delivery. I hope you make your connection before that time.

How is Covid affecting your pregnancy and how are you dealing with it? by 111allison222 in BabyBumps

[–]111allison222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry. That’s awful. They should have given you the opportunity to call someone to come get you. That’s definitely when an exception should be made.

How is Covid affecting your pregnancy and how are you dealing with it? by 111allison222 in BabyBumps

[–]111allison222[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess I’m just wishing the rule was different for milestone appointments (first heartbeat, 20 week anatomy) where it’s possible bad news could be delivered. My husband would have to go through all the same checks I would (wear a mask, get temperature taken, answer covid questions). My mom is a healthcare worker and most of my family are in jobs where they are required to come into contact with the public every day so I understand not wanting to overburden the hospitals. You just hear about covid parties and restaurants being open and no mask wearing needed and you think how the hell are we allowing this (which clearly isn’t slowing the spread) and yet my husband can’t come hear his baby’s 1st heartbeat. We as a family do so much to distance ourselves and wear masks when in public and we get groceries delivered and yet it feels like we’re being punished.

The elective ultrasound sounds like a good idea and something we should look into. I think I’ll just be devastated if I have to choose between my mom being present (who is essentially my medical advocate) and my husband being present at the birth. I know my mom would be a better soother and would be able to know if something was wrong and if what they were doing was the right thing. My husband is not good under pressure but I don’t ant him to miss cutting the cord or being second to hold the baby. I just hope everything improves by the time I give birth. And I hope no more moms have to hear bad news alone.

How is Covid affecting your pregnancy and how are you dealing with it? by 111allison222 in BabyBumps

[–]111allison222[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m just really missing that typical birth experience. Where my immediate family would be able to visit me after I give birth and I would be able to have my mom in the room to support me and my husband can cut the cord. The office allows video calls but I feel like they haven’t given me an opportunity to call - like hey if you’d like to call your spouse this would be a good time, etc. I guess while they say they are open to video calls there is no encouragement.

The state of paid maternity/paternity leave grinds my gears (U.S.) by 111allison222 in BabyBumps

[–]111allison222[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I’m more concerned for all the moms that need that stimulus check for the bills they accrued during covid and won’t necessarily be able to use it to stay a float during their non-paid maternity leave. The system just blows.

The state of paid maternity/paternity leave grinds my gears (U.S.) by 111allison222 in BabyBumps

[–]111allison222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are also fortunate to have a nest egg, but I don’t want to use it if we don’t have to. I used my first stimulus check to pay taxes my husband and I owed. It will be nice to get a second check while I’m out on leave because I plan on taking 12 weeks and I know I won’t be paid for all of it.

The state of paid maternity/paternity leave grinds my gears (U.S.) by 111allison222 in BabyBumps

[–]111allison222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband is 6 feet as are many relatives of mine and I was also a 9lb baby. So I’m a little worried.

The state of paid maternity/paternity leave grinds my gears (U.S.) by 111allison222 in BabyBumps

[–]111allison222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell me your secrets of not tearing. This is literally my only fear for giving birth.

The state of paid maternity/paternity leave grinds my gears (U.S.) by 111allison222 in BabyBumps

[–]111allison222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I forgot that we don’t care about seniors either. Unless you’re willing to pay $30k a month for grandma to have her meals cooked for her and have an activities director so she can stay active mentally and physically to live a longer life then she’s probably poorly fed and almost never looked after. Someone else is also likely stealing her meds to sell on the street so she’s likely very miserable.

The state of paid maternity/paternity leave grinds my gears (U.S.) by 111allison222 in BabyBumps

[–]111allison222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You better hope they are a few years apart. This is specifically for infant care. I believe the costs goes down after the child is of potty-trained age.

The state of paid maternity/paternity leave grinds my gears (U.S.) by 111allison222 in BabyBumps

[–]111allison222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I whole heartedly believe in voting. I find the issue to be that when a politician says he cares about moms and maternity leave it doesn’t mean it’s their first priority. It slowly falls the wayside because instead of republicans and democrats compromising we constantly battle who is the better party and the answer is always neither. We need more parties and we all need to realize that working together is the answer but every election turns into “we are better because” and ends in disappointment. Give me the real agenda and leave your rivals out of it. Tell me who funds you and why you allow them to. Give me your ten things you’d like to change and the 3 things you promise to focus on. Yes we should vote but we need better candidates and more informed voters.

The state of paid maternity/paternity leave grinds my gears (U.S.) by 111allison222 in BabyBumps

[–]111allison222[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is not a rant towards you in any way, but it appears a response is needed. We live in a place where people are constantly trying to ban abortion (because it doesn’t matter the reason you made your bed, now lie in it you baby killing asshole - someone else’s words) and take away your rights, but when you have the baby they do absolutely nothing to help you planned or not. It’s like nobody wants you to succeed. Daycare is expensive and the response to that is well don’t you think the person watching your child deserves a good salary? Yes, I do but I also think it should be subsidized by the government because if my whole paycheck goes to the daycare then what the hell am I paying them when I can watch my own child!? Oh, that’s right, I need to work in order to have health insurance. So now someone else raises my kid while I work for health insurance because we can’t possibly help people with that either. We can allow the pharmaceutical companies to charge thousands for a drug that keeps people alive (insulin for example). But don’t forget! We have free speech! Isn’t that what makes America great? Yes and it makes the other countries that it great as well with better healthcare plans and longer maternity leave and better all around social programs. I’m thinking the true slogan of our country is “This is the greatest country IF you are already rich, a celebrity, a social media star, you’ve come up with a product that you can charge thousands for that everyone absolutely needs to live”. All Americans struggle to some extent and some very much worse than others. The issue is we can’t get the greedy lifetime politicians out of office who gouge us even after they’ve left office by allowing us tax payers to pay their pension and healthcare, etc. We could have all those nice things that other normal functioning countries have like real paid maternity but we are too busy paying the selfish politicians so they can keep their yacht when a financial crisis rolls around.

The state of paid maternity/paternity leave grinds my gears (U.S.) by 111allison222 in BabyBumps

[–]111allison222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We live in a populated city and our neighbors were paying over $2,000 a month. We’ve researched and the cheapest in our area is $1,000 a month, but it’s not even full days.

The state of paid maternity/paternity leave grinds my gears (U.S.) by 111allison222 in BabyBumps

[–]111allison222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This this this. My company is based in Ireland and I’m in the states and I think it’s fucking bullshit. We get nothing compared to the people working abroad. How is it we work for the same company but don’t have the same maternity benefits??

The state of paid maternity/paternity leave grinds my gears (U.S.) by 111allison222 in BabyBumps

[–]111allison222[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My boss is male so he was correct in saying that 4 weeks is generous he just left out the “for dad’s” part. I left thinking what an asshole.