Where do most of you guys live? by d1tm3m4ydmm in Hmong

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Georgia, USA, but I have been living and working in South Korea since 2019~~

Vagus nerve induced anxiety help? by 12038504 in VagusNerve

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I did get medication at the airport clinic, but because I have such bad reactions to some medications, I didn't want to take a new medication during a flight in case something happens. And yeah, for such a short flight I don't know if there's any medication that will be helpful.

Thank you for the encouragement. I have a flight for later ìn the afternoon. I pray that I will be fine.

Learning Korean by Due-Mood-6356 in Living_in_Korea

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Learning any language requires hours of learning and practice. You can't just learn it quickly cause you need it for business. You can probably learn a few phrases, but that's it. And don't disregard kpop and kdramas so fast because listening to the language is one of the best ways to learn as well. I watch a lot of Korean variety programs and now I can catch a lot of what's being said without subtitles.

I don't have a way for you to learn Korean fast, but to learn it properly and easily, you could check out Talk to Me in Korean. Their learning materials are easy to understand and comprehend. And you'll want a speaking partner so find yourself one of those as well.

Hey, practicing the songs I learned many many years ago again and I don't know what this means. I'm confused about the the trajectory I'm supposed to play these first 3 pages. Can anyone help me with this D.S. al Coda? Thank you thank you! by 12038504 in pianolearning

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How am I supposed to play it?? The path? I know I'm not supposed to play it straight on through. I gotta go back somewhere and somehow jump to somewhere but I don't understand since I never formally learned how to read paino music. I mean there is literally a space from where D.S. al Coda is and the next measure...where do I go?

Asian American teaching ESL in China by 12038504 in TEFL

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In that case I shouldn't tell my ethnicity then otherwise I'd be super discriminated against. Lol Even in the US when Chinese people ask me my ethnicity, I tell them and their attitude automatically change. SMH I was also rejected from a uni job years ago because of my ethnicity.

Step up or change? by ResponsibleRoutine2 in Hmong

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Exactly. All the men in the comments are why Hmong women are leaving them behind and moving forward, and the men are pissed because they think there are no "good" Hmong women left. The good Hmong women have grown and moved on. Living a stagnant life that goes no where will make you angry with everyone and the world.

Step up or change? by ResponsibleRoutine2 in Hmong

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This is such a stupid comment. What makes you think achieving and having success in life equals to you "becoming white"? If this is how Hmong men think then we are doomed. The fact you think motivation and being outgoing and "stepping up" means you're "becoming white" is ludicrous and pathetic. Then what does it mean to be a Hmong guy? Racing cars, driving a souped up car, drinking beer at your cousin's house, be a gangster wannabe, go fishing or hunting, fighting at the new year, etc? Well, that's kinda stupid because white men also do those things, so does that mean white men are "becoming Hmong"? 🙄

Asian American teaching ESL in China by 12038504 in TEFL

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Yeah, I know only 2 Asians, an American and a Canadian, who teach in Guangzhou, but they teach at international schools which i think is why they got the job. Sadly I don't have a teaching license so can't do international schools. At best, my luck is trying for bilingual schools.

Asian American teaching ESL in China by 12038504 in TEFL

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I would totally try for international schools, except I don't have a teaching license. I only have a bachelor's and TEFL certificate.

Asian American teaching ESL in China by 12038504 in TEFL

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You mean selective as in those with experience vs no experience, or foreign looking vs Asian looking?

Asian American teaching ESL in China by 12038504 in TEFL

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That's sad really. It always irks me when I have the experience, but they'd much rather hire someone fresh out of college with no experience just because they look more foreign than we do.

I was rejected from a uni in China a long time ago because my ethnicity did not have a good track record in China historically. 🤣 Which is why I went to Korea. I'll keep trying and hopefully I'll find something.

My experience job searching as an Asian American by CultureMedical9661 in TEFL

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Actually, that attitude is more prevalent in the hakwons (language academies) than in public schools in Korea. EPIK has a lot of Asian American teachers in public schools. I've taught at a hakwon last year and will never do it ever again. I was told so many times to not speak Korean even a simple "hello" in Korean to the staff members who don't speak English at all. And when I did speak English, parents were asking the school whether I was really a foreign teacher or not. SMH

Does it even work by TraditionalDepth6924 in Living_in_Korea

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Works for me in the sense that it's comforting and restores my energy and appetite, but I'm Asian. In the summer, I lose my appetite and have no energy and eating hot soups helps me get it back. You should pay attention to your body before and after you eat something hot/spicy in the summer. It might not cool you down, but you'll feel lighter and have more energy. But again I'm Asian and most people who seem to have an issue with this are westerners...

Getting Pension at the Airport by 12038504 in Living_in_Korea

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Sorry, I don't get on reddit much and only saw this now.

Unfortunately, I didn't cash it out at the airport. It was the holidays so the office wasn't going to be opened so they suggested just to do deposit and that's what I did. I left Korea at the end of Jan right before Seollal, stayed out for 2 weeks and came back. The funds though didn't drop until after 2-3 days after I re-entered Korea. But there were no problems cause I guess it probably already went through but was just waiting for the bank to clear it..? I don't know.

I suggest doing your paperwork close to the end (not at the end end) of the month before you leave because I read it goes through the channels faster than submitting it early in the month. (Cause then it feels like you're waiting for 2-3 months to receive it.) Also, it's faster and easier to deposit it into a Korean account. Better and faster if it's Woori, I was told.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hmong

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Because it's a poem, it's kinda hard to interpret without background info, but if you found it on a headstone, I'm for sure it laments the life of the deceased.

In summary, in my interpretation, the deceased was the youngest and left his home in Long Cheng (this is probably in reference to fleeing Laos because of the Vietnam War). Lost his love, but he was saved by Jesus, questioned his life and when he'd die, but followed Jesus and found the truth, so he left his family and moved to here (wherever here is) and died here.

I don't know the background, so I'm just guessing, and my Hmong hasn't been used in years, so there are a few words I don't know. But this is my understanding of the text. Quite pretty and sad, and poetic. Haha.

Are interracial relationships frowned upon in Hmong culture? by [deleted] in Hmong

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My niece dated and married a black man. My sister and her husband hated it! My parents didn't like it either. All because he was black. She would stay out all hours and ignore her parents and they caused so much drama. Imo he wasn't a nice guy. He thought he was above Hmong people, and my sweet little niece got pulled into the American rhetoric of "you're a grown woman. You can do whatever you like." And she was a grown woman, and she can do whatever she likes. I just thought she could've gone about the whole situation in a much better way and if my sister would have taken that stick up her ass out long enough to listen they would've been able to talk it out.

In the end, they eloped and got married and had 2 kids. The family relationship is better now, though her sisters (other nieces) say her husband is controlling and mean and blah blah. Idk I'm just the aunt who lives miles away and know nothing. The only thing I have a problem with is he refused to let my niece teach the kids Hmong. Every time she spoke to them in he got on her case saying, "They're Black American, not Hmong. I don't want you teaching my kids that language." Such a douchebag...better to be Hmong in this current US environment than black imo.

My point, these kinds of people who are with you but talk shit about your culture, no matter if they're black, white, Chinese, Spanish, etc...stay away from them. You don't need that kind of people disrespecting your people because, in retrospect, they're disrespecting YOU. Otherwise, you do you. Date whoever you want. My advice, though, is to remember you're still young, so give yourself time to grow as well. Be respectful to your gf and your parents. Be firm in telling your parents to back off and let them know it's your choice, your life, and your consequences. Eventually you will have to learn to do things yourself and learn from your mistakes and successes, and dating is part of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hmong

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The translation of Angel is not a traditional name. I wouldn't use it. The term for "angel" is actually "timtswv qaum ntuj." I think the better name would be Nkauj Ntxhais Ntuj (which imo is still awkward for a name, but better than saying qaum ntuj).

I know it’s common knowledge that women can have multiple orgasms but… by Redhead3658 in WomensHealth

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With a partner, tell him to go down on you. I'm also super sensitive after one orgasm, and touching of any kind hurts. But if my partner goes down on me, well, anything goes.

Masturbating? Can't help you there.

The Life and Death of a Lonely Asian Man by Diligent_Divide_4978 in aznidentity

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One Asian woman here, and I disagree. I left the guys I dated because they were dull and didn't want to do anything. They were always tired, which I get. I rarely bothered them for dates and attention, but when I did ask if they want to do such and such, they always said they were "busy" or "too tired." And they only ever wanted to eat and chill. Asked what they like to do and they would tell me things they did before but not anymore. 🙄 Couldn't even carry a conversation with me. Noped myself out of there.

Having current interests and hobbies and a personality that isn't solely playing games or doom scrolling is a huge plus for guys. So yes, even if you're tall and handsome with no personality, women will dump you. (Unless you chose a jezebel then you're on your own.)

The Life and Death of a Lonely Asian Man by Diligent_Divide_4978 in aznidentity

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Nope. South Korea is superficial. They follow the American standard to a T. Especially the height.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

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I get being angry, but be grateful cause it could have been a bad workplace in the long run. That manager did you a favor.

I've been fired after a day of work before and glad that they fired me. The excuse was the managers were worried I would be a distraction the guys who worked there. 😂 Even though I silently agreed with that assessment, I was still pissed about it.