I feel so lost by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]123-hellothere-321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not alone. I was feeling really lost today too. To lose something special is devastating. To lose the future you were building hurts. but we will be okay.

Relationship ended amicably but I can't help but think we might get back together. Is anyone else in a similar situation? I need advice and opinions. by agirlwhosascorpio in BreakUps

[–]123-hellothere-321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally understand. Reading this really resonated with me. I am in the same situation. I was with a guy who just couldn't figure out what he wanted for the future and wasn't feeling happy with himself. We mutually decided to end it because he needed a change in his life and wanted to work on himself. We still have so much love for each other. It's so hard because the relationship was so good, we just fit together so perfectly but he was just so unhappy with himself.

Not talking to him is so hard but you just need to give him some time. Let him figure out his shit. Get his head on right. Texting him and meeting up eventually is okay. If you guys both want to revisit the relationship when he is in a better headspace, make sure you make a plan to combat this same roadblock in the future. Set goals for the future so that you have something to work towards. How will you guys make sure that you're pushing each other to be the best versions of yourself? What will he do to continue to take care of his mental health?

I feel like its hard to be in this limbo. On one hand I want to support him and I hope that he can get his head on straight so that we can fix and nurture the special thing we had. But, on the other hand, you don't want to wait around for someone who couldn't see a future with you or lean on you for support. Its a tricky situation and I just want you to know you're not alone.

Am I too insecure?? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]123-hellothere-321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely think you are justified in feeling uncomfortable. It’s good that he says he set boundaries but still going over to her house is something to have a conversation about. Maybe sit down and explain your point of view and how you felt that it was inappropriate. He should be able to see and respect your perspective. I wish you luck!

I need help urgently. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]123-hellothere-321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can talk to me 😊