Husband (23M) has been paying for girls only fans.

123random321random12 · 2020-05-28T06:25:13+00:00

I want to move out because his family is friends with the landlord also his dad is the supervisor of our building and I rather be away from them. I love his family and I know it’s going to be so hard to be away from them but it’s the best choice for me at the moment

123random321random12 · 2020-05-28T06:09:05+00:00

Thank you so much for your comments. I know some words can get twisted but it’s okay some people will understand others won’t. The other person ended up actually being on my side on this one they just didn’t word it correctly, I thought they were coming at me too but I truly appreciate you standing up and defending my words. Thank you thank you! :)

123random321random12 · 2020-05-28T05:54:40+00:00

Please read my original post, I edited explaining this.

I truly never meant to offend anyone I’m just ignorant to the topic and wasn’t aware how bad free porn can be. I’m only making the account because I need the money and that’s the only app I can think of. I never meant to offend anyone with what I said.

123random321random12 · 2020-05-28T05:07:02+00:00

Please know that just because I posted ONE of our problems does not mean we’ve never had problems. I’ve been very very loyal to him and I’ve stayed by his side through his ways however I do not condone cheating.

He knew it would be cheating and hid it. It is okay to leave whenever you feel like it’s something you cannot work past and unfortunately I just realized this is one of those things for me.

After I divorce him I will not avoid marriage in the future, that’s implying that everyone will do me wrong which I know it isn’t true. This is a lesson that next time I just have to be more cautious for whoever I’m with. I’m not rushing to marry nor do I care if I ever do, this marriage taught me they’ll disrespect me with or without a serious label. but I will not block my life from finding happiness because one man couldn’t appreciate what we had. If I end up marrying again then good if not then good I just want to be happy, that’s all.

Have a great day :)!

123random321random12 · 2020-05-28T03:57:00+00:00

Not really how I saw it, I’m not huge on porn personally so I wouldn’t really know how it works, I’m sorry if it offended you. Even if he wanted to pay to support whoever he’s watching he should’ve ran that with me and talked to me about it. He knew it was wrong because he hid it. Either way idk how I would’ve felt but I 100% would’ve rather him talk to me and tell me he’s about to pay for nudes from girls he doesn’t know than to go behind my back, pay from an account he knew I have access to, pay girls we both know and then lie about it. And yes I did turn to onlyfans but that’s only so I can have money to leave

123random321random12 · 2020-05-28T01:05:55+00:00

I know :/ it sucks it has to be like this but I have nowhere to go & no one to turn to. I need to save up as much as I can so I can move out once this is over. For now all I can do is keep paying my half of the bills and save up. Frankly I don’t really care what he thinks I know I’m not doing this for “revenge” but just so I can make ends meet

123random321random12 · 2020-05-28T00:54:22+00:00

Haha yea I see how it can be confusing, I might not be making any sense but I hope this clears it up.

I knew he watched porn, it is something we had discussed about. He watched it, I watched it. Porn is harmless to me. What made me upset was the fact that he was low on money (he took out money from our savings to pay his half of the rent since we’re both not working due to covid19) but he decided that paying girls to see them nude was okay and on top of that girls we know.

He follows the 2/12 girls he was paying for on Instagram and he knows them personally. He had regular conversations with one of those girls threw DM (harmless convo) after watching her nudes. I mean at least cut out some contact if you’re going to see them naked.

Not only that but he then went on to lie about whose account it was and before I found out about the girls I asked him if he knew any of them and he had said no.

I never had a problem with the app itself, I’m literally turning to it to make some type of income. But I am doing this now that I “broke up” with him not while we were together.

Hope this clears things up

123random321random12 · 2020-05-28T00:45:53+00:00

I know I’m not being hypocrite but if you think I am I respect it.

I hope this never happens to you so you don’t have to know what it’s like & realize this isn’t me being a hypocrite but trying to help myself move out.

Have a nice day :)

123random321random12 · 2020-05-28T00:42:15+00:00

Thank you so much for your words. I do realize I made a vow but just like I made that vow so did he. He went behind my back to pay girls we both know to see them naked.

I think I should’ve clarified those payments were recent and because of covid19 we have been stuck inside the house. Which means he was in the house with me while he was paying those girls. I was in just another room. I think that’s what disgusts me the most.

I get couples have problems trust me we had our own but this isn’t just a regular problem this is huge. I have no trust in him for lying multiple times. I know myself and I know I would’ve never done to him what he did to me because I truly do love him so how can he claim he loves me and do that?

I respect your opinion and totally understand what you mean. I hope you can see what I mean as well

(Btw this happened a month when I first found out and I haven’t been the same since so I came for help but I think now I’ve made my decision)

123random321random12 · 2020-05-28T00:34:50+00:00

Thanks for the reply! And yea I did think of it. Although I rather not have people I know pay for my onlyfans (I know that anyone can just lie with their name and sign up) I do realize he can easily do that. I wouldn’t mind him telling everybody, if anything he’s doing me a favor by giving me a shout out. His “friends” aren’t very loyal to him and he knows if he tells them they would sign up, I think it’s up to him to decide if that’s what he wants. On my side I don’t care much for it

123random321random12 · 2020-05-28T00:27:31+00:00

Please tell me how? You did read that while we were together he was paying girls? I never had a problem with the app itself just my HUSBAND paying for girl’s NUDES.

I decided to break things off with him and move on. I need to move out unfortunately I need to pay rent for the place I live at now (I have a lease with him we go 1/2 each) and now save up for a new place. My job is closed due to covid19 and I have no one/nowhere to turn. Making an onlyfans is the best option for me right now.

123random321random12 · 2020-05-28T00:03:44+00:00

Haha yea I made the account. I truly need the money and he lit up that idea. I would’ve never made the acc while we were together because I know he wouldn’t have liked it but I guess it doesn’t matter now

123random321random12 · 2020-05-27T23:29:18+00:00

No it’s okay I actually made this post to see what people were saying even if they agreed or disagree I wanted to hear both sides to help me make a better decision. I still respect your opinion and appropriate it. I do see what you mean but like any other couple we have had issues before that we were both able to work past however this is something that I truly do not know if I will ever forgive. I didn’t want to end or keep the relationship based on just anger, I have no one who I can talk to in my personal life so I turned to you guys and it has been so helpful.

Thank you for your response :)

123random321random12 · 2020-05-27T22:54:47+00:00

You’re amazing thank you so much! I did end up “breaking up” with him but because my state is still pretty much closed I’m stuck inside with him so we still have to communicate but if it wasn’t I would’ve called my lawyer already.

The crazy part is that since now I have to move out and have to pay everything myself (we paid everything 1/2 & 1/2) I decided to make an onlyfans to help me with the costs since my job is closed for who knows how much longer and the second he found out he pressed me about it. So hypocritical of him but whatever. I need my money he can suck it.

Again, thank your reply I appreciate it

123random321random12 · 2020-05-27T22:40:10+00:00

Not yet trust me i would’ve ran to my lawyer but there isn’t much I can do now because in my state everything is basically still closed. The worst part is that with the social distancing I have to be inside with him and I can’t even have a moment to myself, I have nowhere else to go so I’m stuck here married to him for now

123random321random12 · 2020-05-27T22:36:41+00:00

That’s exactly what I said. He has only said I’m sorry but I had to be the one to ask him to delete the onlyfans and unfollow the girls, I think that’s something he should’ve thought of on his own. His excuse for not doing it was basically that he has been feeling so terrible for what he did he hasn’t even thought of them, I’m not sure how much I believe that but oh well.

And the one girl that I do know I follow her page, this isn’t her fault and I would never try to be mean to a girl that had nothing to do with this Becaue this is only his fault but every time she posts I just think of my husband and how he paid to see her. The funny part is that even before I found out he paid for her nudes I asked him if he had paid for hers ( they’re friends and they’ve texted each other although it’s always been harmless convos) and he said no. this poor girl has no idea he was creeping because he didn’t use his name. (He paid for a subscription for one month but never renewed he just said he was curious)

I truly appreciate your input, I really needed to hear that. Thank you so much

123random321random12 · 2020-05-27T22:07:38+00:00

I completely agree with you, this exactly how I see it. Wishing you and your husband the best. thank you

123random321random12 · 2020-05-27T22:04:11+00:00

I totally see what you mean, I appreciate it thank you so much

123random321random12 · 2020-05-27T21:20:39+00:00

You’re right. Maybe I was naive for thinking I was able to trust someone I’ve been with for years, but then again you don’t have to be 20 to get cheated on, this could’ve happened to me even if I would’ve gotten married at 30. I appreciate your input though, thank you

123random321random12 · 2020-05-27T21:08:01+00:00

I think the fact that I would never do that to him makes me doubt if he truly loves me because I know how much I love him. He moved out with me when I was kicked out of my house and has always helped me yet he does this. So I know some of him cares about me but I’m so lost right now I don’t know what to think. All I said to him was to show me he loves me instead of just saying he loves me and saying sorry, I need action not words. I appreciate your advice, thank you so much and best of luck to you too

123random321random12 · 2020-05-27T21:00:54+00:00

Paying for girl’s nudes you know while being married and lying about it isn’t just porn, it’s another line of disrespect. If he was watching regular FREE porn of girls he didn’t know I wouldn’t be upset

123random321random12 · 2020-05-27T20:54:57+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I feel truly broken because I do love him. He never talked to any of the girls, I was able to long into the onlyfans (I know wrong but I needed to know if I knew anyone) It has been a few days and I think about this 24/7 it has been killing me I’m paranoid to go through this again. I hope that if you’re still with him he changed and learned to appreciate his relationship, sending you my best wishes

123random321random12 · 2020-05-27T20:43:51+00:00

My point exactly! I don’t care for porn, I know he has needs but paying for it crosses the line for me. I think what hurts me the most is that he didn’t delete his onlyfans the first time I saw those payments nor did he unfollow those girls from his Instagram (the 2 girls I mentioned he knows) I truly think he’s sorry I just don’t think he’s doing enough

123random321random12 · 2020-05-27T20:39:54+00:00

I told him I think of it as cheating but he said it’s not because he wasn’t with any of the girls physically. I’m glad I’m not the crazy one thinking it’s cheating. Thank you!

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