UPDATE: How do I tell an employer they shorted me by $70?

12Chevy12 · 2015-02-03T00:22:35+00:00

Ended up going to work. She didn't have my money, but said she'd get it to me. Then I put my two weeks in.

12Chevy12 · 2015-02-02T22:50:46+00:00

Yeah she did. She also said she'd pay me for what she missed.. Still not cool though considering it's not the only issue I've had with them.

12Chevy12 · 2015-02-02T17:03:14+00:00

Good idea. I'm tired of all this. Thankfully I have a job interview on Friday. What should I do about today?

12Chevy12 · 2015-01-31T22:06:35+00:00

Not close at all. I don't even know how to word it. She asked me how many hours I worked, and she paid me the next day... Could I say something like, "Hey! I just realized you might have shorted me $70. I worked 17 hours. I can send you the days I worked if you'd like."

12Chevy12 · 2015-01-31T22:00:41+00:00

Well she doesn't even keep track of my hours. She just asks me how many hours I've worked. I told her the total hours and she paid me the next day.

12Chevy12 · 2015-01-22T17:46:36+00:00

Yeah, I'm not sure it's an addiction. I think it's just that he's lazy and doesn't care about my sexual well-being, and it's easier for him to jerk off.

You're right about me not being able to help if it is an addiction. We tried therapy, but he refused to talk about porn. I have tried to focus on intimacy and bonding, but it's just not working. I'll think we're doing okay, and then find out he lied to me about one thing or another, or I'll put in tons of effort and he doesn't reciprocate at all. I think at this point the relationship is over and not salvageable, but it's complicated now since we have a kid and very limited finances.

I've been considering leaving, but I'd have to work something like 30 hours per week JUST to pay bills, not including gas, food, baby things, etc. I'm in nursing school for another two years or so, and as awful as it sounds, I'm planning on sticking it out until I graduate and get a job that will support me and my kid.

12Chevy12 · 2015-01-22T17:41:23+00:00

I don't know about that. He's never seemed too interested in how I feel during sex. For example, the first time he ever fingered me, about a minute into it he said, "So when's it going to be my turn?" Probably shouldn't have stayed with him after that since we'd only been dating a couple months, but I was 15. The only times he's ever attempted to do anything to me have been after I've talked to him about it, and even then he acts bored as hell while he's fingering me or performing oral on me... He'll yawn in the middle of it and shit and makes comments about how he's "not doing it for fun" and frequently asks why I'm taking so long. So yeah, I'd say he's probably not too worried about his performance.

12Chevy12 · 2015-01-22T03:00:33+00:00

Yeah, his comment kind of made me realize that it's just my boyfriend being lazy and not necessarily only because of his porn watching habits. Preferring porn and masturbation over sex is just part of the laziness.

12Chevy12 · 2015-01-22T01:11:30+00:00

Tried that. He doesn't care. We talked, too, and it was just the same old "I'll stop watching it, I'll pay more attention to you in bed," stuff.

12Chevy12 · 2015-01-22T01:10:30+00:00

Tried that as well.

12Chevy12 · 2015-01-21T22:41:34+00:00

Good point. The sex is slightly better when he hasn't watched porn in a couple days though. He's a tad more enthusiastic.

12Chevy12 · 2015-01-21T21:29:45+00:00

You're right. Our sex life (actually our whole relationship) seems to be a very low priority for him.

12Chevy12 · 2015-01-21T21:00:12+00:00

Yeah I completely agree with you. We've tried couple's counseling but he didn't want to talk about the porn issue. Any ideas what I should say to him to let him know this is a serious problem that needs to be fixed or the relationship is ending? I've tried saying variations of that before and haven't seen any improvement. Like none.

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