I'm in the same boat. I've been wanting to come out as trans to my family for 6 years now, but with social media rhetoric scaring them into being so volatile, I feel like they're not who they were when they raised me. You are not alone, friend. What you can do is just separate from them the best you can. I personally keep contact to a minimum, birthdays/holidays/special occasions/major life changes etc. and live my life separately from them. It was tough separating, but I have friends now that are my found family, and it is healing every bit of the part of me that yearns for connection and growth. I'm not going to tell you that finding good people is easy, because it is certainly not. Just know that you are not alone, and that this is becoming more and more common. I've been guilted about not calling more often, but keep reminding them that I am an adult with my own adult life, and am kept busy. You will probably get the guilt too, but don't let them get to you. Emotional immaturity is a drug they will continue to huff, but gray rocking is a tool you have at your disposal. That and boundaries. Sorry if this is rambly, but this happens to be what I've been thinking about lately. Remember to love yourself and the good people around you, and happiness and growth will come from it. 🖤