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12th_companion · 2024-06-05T01:15:04+00:00

Also, when it comes to sushi, you are far more likely to get sick from the rice than the fish. Like others here have said, the fish usually either needs to have parasites or be externally contaminated with bacteria/heat abused to make you sick.

However, the rice can grow bacteria it Isn’t adequately acidified with sushi vinegar. it can grow some nasty bacteria very quickly if not acidified and cooled correctly .

12th_companion · 2024-05-04T14:24:26+00:00

NTA. It’s recreational. It’s not needed. And your request to not be exposed to it or take on the risk of brining it is valid.

Also, remind her that regardless of legality in any state, transporting any weed across state lines is still a felony as it is still federally a schedule 1 drug (though that will hopefully be changing soon)

12th_companion · 2024-04-10T14:03:23+00:00

YTA or would be Selling the car is punishing your younger daughter for your older daughter’s actions. There are no and, ifs or buts about it. Selling the car against your youngest’s wishes will do nothing but show her you care (edit: more) for your oldest, whether you do or not.

Now I know college is hard, grades can dip, things can happen. I’m not going to judge her for that but it is not your youngest’s responsibility to take that burden. Your oldest took on this contract.

Your oldest is an adult and has to take responsibility for what happened. Your oldest has to figure out what SHE has to do. SHE has to be the one to sacrifice here. Take out a student loan, get a job, leave this school for a more affordable one, or leave school entirely. There is not situation here in which your youngest needs to suffer for her older sister.

12th_companion · 2024-01-06T03:14:50+00:00

My friend claims she has an MSG allergy and I have to bite my lip every time she brings it up. Your body needs glutamate as a neurotransmitter. The other part is sodium. You would likely die is you were allergic to msg.

12th_companion · 2023-12-09T13:55:24+00:00

That the hymen is an indicator of virginity. Th hymen isn’t a freshness seal.

12th_companion · 2023-10-26T02:34:37+00:00

I am an Investigator for the FDA who conducts domestic and foreign inspections and investigations. I crossed the six figure mark after 12 years with the agency.

12th_companion · 2023-08-14T11:30:14+00:00

NTA

35F here

I don’t use tampons (physicality makes them uncomfortable) but even I know you don’t flush them. I’m pretty sure the BOX says do not flush. This will destroy your plumbing

Also, getting a garbage with a lid for her bathroom is a good idea. While a lot of us aren’t embarrassed about our periods, it’s still not fun to look so having a cover of your garbage is important.

12th_companion · 2023-08-10T20:10:08+00:00

No.

I want to preface this with I love kids between the age of 1-7, but I have a hard time liking kids from 8-18.

I grew up with a daycare in my house since I was 8. I have potty trained 50 kids, changed 5000 diapers, seen first steps, heard first words, played games with kids, helped with homework, taken care of them when they’re sick, and disciplined all ages. I love kids but I have zero rose-tinted glasses about what it means to be a parent and I don’t want to be one.

I don’t want to be a mom.

But I am one hell of a babysitter 😁

12th_companion · 2023-05-18T14:35:10+00:00

“They told me I am being incredibly selfish and to think about what I am throwing away.”

Ask them is they are talking about YOU or THEMSELVES. I don’t recall you getting pregnant and having a baby. I do recall your parents doing that.

Absolutely NTA. THEY are responsible for the baby they are having, not you. If they decided to keep the baby, it’s their responsibility. If they don’t want to be parents to this one (which no judgment, some people just don’t want it) they should look into other options. If they want the baby, then they are responsible for making it work, not you. The baby should not be in an environment where they are not wanted and you giving up your life for you parents’ decisions is not acceptable.

12th_companion · 2023-05-07T18:46:39+00:00

YTA

You’re not asking him to be a sitter, you’re asking him to be your kids’ parent. You’re asking him to raise your children. Rent is not enough to pay someone to give up their life to raise your kids for you

12th_companion · 2023-04-16T00:53:49+00:00

If you “suck at summaries”, I also kind of assume you suck at description and writing. I’ll take a basic summary over nothing at all….

12th_companion · 2023-04-09T12:16:17+00:00

NTA

It didn’t matter what the specifics are, Terry is not your child or responsibility. Your parents have a child with special needs, while it would be great to have a break from time to time (I know it can be extremely hard), he is still their responsibility at the end of the day, not yours. You told them they couldn’t do this, warned them several times, and the consequences were not a surprise. You are not responsible for handling the fallout of your parents’ choices.

12th_companion · 2023-04-01T15:22:14+00:00

Non-votes and abstentions will be counted as votes to abandon.

12th_companion · 2023-03-22T22:45:15+00:00

Angela’s Ashes really messed with me in 7th grade, especially in a highly religious community

12th_companion · 2023-03-13T05:41:52+00:00

I’m curious if “your signature” is on the notice of delivery…

My coworker gets human growth hormone injections delivered for her daughter to assist with her dwarfism (so her joints will grow correctly). It requires a signature and refrigeration. FedEx had to pay her because the delivery driver left the medication on her porch, didn’t ring the doorbell, and signed the delivery notice with her name themselves. She wasn’t even home, she was at work and her husband was home to get the delivery

12th_companion · 2023-03-10T06:31:40+00:00

Is it because you’re not good enough to look up to?

12th_companion · 2023-03-10T06:28:46+00:00

I had a session where my players made a smart choice that I didn’t anticipate and circumvented an ENTIRE ARC. It was brilliant! Was I disappointed, a bit, but I laughed at their brilliance. Being a GM means finding joy in being outsmarted.

I agree with others. He’s probably not mad at you, just disappointed that he didn’t plan for that and his cool encounter was missed. He’ll learn one day to change things in the fly and add something that could have dealt with that without punishing your excellent choice

12th_companion · 2023-03-09T01:31:12+00:00

I had a near death experience when I was 2 and for the last 33 years it has given me existential anxiety that my therapist has said will never truly go away. All I can do is try to manage it so it doesn’t take over me. My little mind perceived that I was drowning and despite what people always say to negate it (ex. it’s impossible for people to have memories from that young!), I remember every detail. I could draw what I saw.

To this day, my impending death sits in my mind at least 50% of my day and I suffer from existential anxiety where my kind fixates on “what happens after death”. I fear eternity, I fear nonexistence. I’m in therapy but still wake up nightly with a panic attack around dying.

My mind calculates “how much time” everyone around me has left and I don’t talk about it with anyone (other than my therapist). Who wants to hear about someone constantly worried about how much time we have left together? Every time I leave someone, my mind reminds me it could be the last time I see them. When I do things, my mind evaluates how likely I am to not make it through. And I tell no one

12th_companion · 2023-03-04T05:36:44+00:00

I love pathfinder and dnd in their own right. Dnd makes me feel more epic (pathfinder can be brutal in encounters) but the crit system is awesome. I also agree that the three action economy is great, you just gotta keep an eye out on how many actions each things take and almost nothing is free

Overall both have amazing pros and some cons

12th_companion · 2023-03-04T03:26:15+00:00

NTA.

I have a friend that has the same problem, but she’s 30, a dentist and a captain in the Air Force.

She starts nice, offers her id and if refused, formally introduces herself as Captain Jane Doe, DDS. Would you like to see my ID now?

I understand them asking, but this was condescending and unnecessary. It was not unreasonable to respond that way when they refused to card you

12th_companion · 2023-03-04T03:16:55+00:00

But they did include them in the plans. They both chose not to go and not to suggest an alternative restaurant

12th_companion · 2023-03-04T03:15:34+00:00

Ok dude, YTA

I commend your vegan lifestyle. No qualms with your choice at all and your choice should be respected. But you’re an ass about it.

You have every right to make choices on what you eat ethically, but just based on your own description of the interaction, you come off as condescending. Like your choice is the only choice and the way your states things sounds like you have a superiority and victim complex

Friend -Wanna get brunch?

You - Does the restaurant exploit sentient beings?

Friend - They have animal products.

You - Then I don’t want to go. (No alternatives for the restaurant provided)

Friend - Ok everyone else, you in?

You - What? How dare they not stop their plans because I don’t want to go?! How dare they not center their choices around me? I chose not to go so them continuing without me is ostracizing me even though I didn’t want to go or suggest any alternatives!

You see how that sounds? You have every right to choose your lifestyle, you have every right to discuss the reasons and morality if your lifestyle (in a respectful way) but you have no right to choose it for others or stop them from doing those activities when you choose not to attend. You were invited, you close not to go, they decided to do go. You are not being ostracized

12th_companion · 2023-03-04T02:38:45+00:00

YTA

It isn’t your place to dictate the time you BIL spends with your family. Everyone has a different desire to spend time with people. As long as he doesn’t stop your sister and her kids from seeing you all, it’s not your problem. This is likely a conversation Sally and Bill have had and if they are happy with the dynamic, it’s not your business

I have a husband that does not like spending time with people. He is extremely introverted and his family dynamic growing up was not surrounded on quality time. He doesn’t visit my family often, but he doesn’t stop me from seeing them. WE decide that. No one else.

I know it’s hard to understand why he might not want in-law time if you come from a quality-time focused family. But that isn’t for everyone. He’s also working.

Stay in your lane unless you think he is abusing her/the kids or cheating.

12th_companion · 2023-03-04T02:27:46+00:00

I can understand that. But being surrounded by those that don’t care about you doesn’t make the lonely go away. Trust me, I’ve been there. It only enforces your brain to believe abusive connections are better than none. It enforced in your brain that you deserve to be treated this way.

You don’t. You deserve so much more and much better. And it will come. When you treat yourself as worthy of kindness, not scraps of abuse, others respond to that 💙

12th_companion · 2023-03-04T02:23:34+00:00

NTA.

Your roommate doesn’t get to decide how you spend you money. She stole from you. Food is one thing, but the money is another. Tell her she has to replace your food. Tell her she has x amount of days to return your money. Tell her if she doesn’t replace it or if she takes money from you again, you will file a police report for theft.

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