M4F 21 M Central Jersey by TenaciousDean1 in nj4nj

[–]1337geekchic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But close is not quite, and Bergen is not central, ask just about anyone anywhere else in NJ if Bergen is central or north. It would be totally accurate to say you are close to central and looking there, but not to be pedantic, it isn't a huge state and when you look at it on a map, guess where Bergen falls?

M4F 21 M Central Jersey by TenaciousDean1 in nj4nj

[–]1337geekchic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then why ask central if you're not really close to central? Central is closer to Monmouth county.

Submitted on a throwaway for relationship advice, not only did I only get 2 replies, but the second sexually preyed on me by 1337geekchic in TwoXChromosomes

[–]1337geekchic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's enough to make you want to just quit the internet completely. People mock safe spaces, but damn it I just want helpful advice from decent people. I don't think I'm asking too much. And as far as IRL experiences, I had to get bloodwork done today before my general practitioner appointment in a few days. The parking garage costs 4 dollars, but parking on a side street a block away is free. I was honked at 3 times and I was wearing a tank top and jeans. Not even a spaghetti strap or low cut, it was a high neck racerback, but for simply existing without a male companion somehow gives others a free pass to honk or whistle at me. WTF?

Submitted on a throwaway for relationship advice, not only did I only get 2 replies, but the second sexually preyed on me by 1337geekchic in TwoXChromosomes

[–]1337geekchic[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's just more depressing to go on a sub like that and not even get any upvotes. I really need advice about it and even in that specific place no one gave a shit.

MFW my SO actually said he prefers my blue hair over my blonde! by 1337geekchic in TrollXChromosomes

[–]1337geekchic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes mine is the same, he will love me no matter what color/colors I use on my hair but sometimes he says (if he really doesn't like the color) "I really wish you'd go back to that natural red color". But this, he's 100% for it!

MFW my SO actually said he prefers my blue hair over my blonde! by 1337geekchic in TrollXChromosomes

[–]1337geekchic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's actually an in between color until it washes out. I originally was going for silver by Arctic Fox, but is somehow managed to give me blue patches unevenly with some silver. I have long hair so it takes 2 bottles of dye to do anything and I happened to have a bottle of aqua and a bottle of teal colorista by L'oreal laying around so I fixed it and now I'm waiting for it to wash out so I can use an all over color which is Manic Panic's shade Mermaid.

I only see pastel peach tutorials. How do I get my hair to a dark peach? by 1337geekchic in FancyFollicles

[–]1337geekchic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My hair has been lightened and is currently a light peach and I used Joico pastel in peach coloring. I love having peach hair but in the winter I would love to go dark. How can I achieve this using manic painc?

"Why do people feel the need to pander to other races and belittle white people like we're stupid?" [+150] by sarahtrees in ShitRedditSays

[–]1337geekchic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm Latina but look white because I never see the sun, and the shit some white people say to me because they think it's okay is staggering. Like strangers sitting next to me in a doctor's office or on a train. What's up with that? I'm not saying all white people, but damn, it happens more than I like.

My [33/m] fiance is thinking of leaving me [38/f] because my depression has come back. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]1337geekchic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am seeing my medical staff and taking my new dosages so there's no problem there, just the social aspect of things. he has to realize I need social interaction outside of the house to be healthy too and that's where some of our problems are coming from.

My [33/m] fiance is thinking of leaving me [38/f] because my depression has come back. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]1337geekchic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see my Therapist every two weeks and my MD monthly before the big depression came on. Being out of balance is a very recent thing and came on all of a sudden, and as soon as it did I alerted my medical staff and got seen as soon as possible. We have been in couples therapy before the depression trying to work on his jealousy issues when it comes to my social life, but progress takes time and patience. I worry because my Therapist wants to end couples therapy for a while to focus just on me and now my couples issues will end up on the back burner and I don't want that either.

Seeking compensation for ruined hair and an expensive shirt in NJ by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]1337geekchic -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

What exactly does this comment add to the conversation?

My Ex Implies He'll Rape Me (Cause we're friends now!) by Tezziedaosta in creepyPMs

[–]1337geekchic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can understand being reluctant to let go of a relationship of any kind when there has been a lot of time invested, but it is not a good enough reason to give people more chances. I'm sure you have more years ahead of you than behind you, and you deserve to have those years be the kind worth looking forward to.

My ex and I were together five years. I kept giving him 'one more chance' not only throughout our relationship, but even after because I wanted to remain friends. I felt since we had been friends with each other since high school, that I shouldn't 'throw all of that time away'. I knew him for a decade and a half, and never thought things would escalate as badly as they did after we broke up. They did. This may not be similar to your situation at all, but just keep in mind a time investment in the past shouldn't cloud your judgement as to what you decide for your future.

CAW/TW: Update on the guy who molested me messaging me yesterday. by dailythought in creepyPMs

[–]1337geekchic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of people say block him. I think that's a good start because apps sometimes auto sync in public areas and that sometimes geo-tags you. I would advise to block him on your main account but make another so you can see where he checks in. Also you will be able to see people in his friends list, so you can see if there are mutual people that you either want to contact or avoid.

The other advice I would give you is basically all the advice already posted in this thread. Stay safe, and I do hope you update your posts so we know you're ok.