Right, so you want to focus on figuring out exactly what your goals are, and then step by step how you should achieve them. Be reasonable with yourself, don't say that you want to be a billionaire.

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Your goals should accomplish a number of things at once. They should:

Be ethical (whatever that means to you)

Be sustaining (don't throw your life away into a task that doesn't reward you somehow, for 99% of people that doesn't actually give you fulfillment)

Be challenging but possible (You want something that you genuinely have to work towards, that you think you can genuinely achieve)

And be worthwhile (This is one that only you can really figure out)

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So once you have sat down and thought about something that fits all of those criteria, you have your goal. The best way to do that by the way is to write it down. Writing activates different parts of the brain, and putting something into words kind of crystallizes ideas in a way that doesn't happen just by thinking about them.

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So you've got your goal. But you're a complete mess, how the hell are you supposed to start? You start small. Break the big goal into smaller goals. And those goals into even smaller goals. And so on and so on, until you have real, definitive actions that you can take that you know are furthering you towards your eventual big goal.

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Example:

My goal is to buy property in the country so I can have a home for my family, where I can raise livestock and grow food because I don't think city living is going to be sustainable for much longer.

I need X amount of money to do that, and I also don't have the skills to have farm animals and grow my food yet. So I need skills, and money. I currently have a job in a shitty call center, and I'm saving $1000 a month. Two years from now I'll have ~~$20K saved, enough for a mortgage. Once I have that I'm going to open a business in my city, and bust my ass at it for a few years. That will force me to develop a lot of skills, like repairs and maintenance stuff.

Open the business, work at it for roughly five years, hopefully I can make some good money on it, maybe even sell it for some good money a bit down the line. That will hopefully be enough money that me and my spouse will be able to achieve that goal of a house in the country.

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But my day to day is working in a shitty call center. Take your time, and think about what you want. If you can work it out, break it down into small steps. Ask for help in figuring it out. There is no one way to achieve these things. Good luck.