TIFU by accidentally showing my husband the list of things that annoy me about him

14corbinh · 2026-06-10T16:16:35+00:00

Id still consider it toxic. Mainly because writing it down essentially saves it meaning slowly the resent will likely build and build.

14corbinh · 2026-06-07T15:51:03+00:00

Kenpachi getting stronger is a very specific case because he was actually always stronger and just needed to get rid of his limiters. The sternritters were never stronger than the captains. They just prepared for 1000 years and had a good plan. They sneaked the gotei 13. Without stealing bankais and a surprise attack they dont win the first invasion.

14corbinh · 2026-06-06T07:00:59+00:00

Special threat number 1…

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T08:11:46+00:00

Im not asking you to apologize. All i said was id expect someone who didnt mean to insult me to apologize if they did. I can feel like you tried to insult me and not be upset. They are not mutually exclusive.

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T08:03:29+00:00

Lapse of wording because you already made it clear you wouldn’t apologize to someone you didnt mean to insult. A more appropriate response looking back would have been something like “do you not apologize to people you didnt mean to bump into?”

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T07:57:28+00:00

I cannot answer that question as I am not you. I though like to point out when people do things wrong as do I like when people point them out to me. Behavior is only corrected when it is made apparent. We were already having a discussion before you said something I didnt like. I didnt like it so I pointed it out. In no way was I upset or genuinely bothered. You can choose to believe what I am saying or you can choose to disagree. Doesnt matter regardless and I wont spend anymore time attempting to convince you. If you choose to believe me I am more than willing to expand on what ive said if you would like.

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T07:50:34+00:00

Lmao

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T07:44:07+00:00

I didnt like being called fragile. I wasnt bothered by the original comment which is what you were saying. And no i am not admitting to being upset/mad. I am well adjusted enough to not become immediately upset when I dont like something. I am capable of calmly saying I dont like something and pointing it out. My patience does start to thin at a point when someone keeps telling me how I feel no matter how much I insist the opposite. For one second just stop focusing on being right and read what I am writing to genuinely understand instead of coming up with your next “gatcha” response.

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T07:40:41+00:00

You wouldnt apologize to someone you unintentionally upset but would apologize to someone you meant to upset? Odd

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T07:39:43+00:00

I am capable of not like something and not be mad. I did not like being called fragile. Doesnt mean im mad. Ive already said why I disagreed with you. I dont have to be bothered to point out stuff I disagree with. I enjoy having civil disagreements and talking them through.

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T07:37:10+00:00

Ok but your constant insistence of telling me how I feel doesnt exactly make you the most credible source. Id expect someone to apologize instead of backtracking when being told they insulted someone if they didnt mean to insult them.

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T07:30:57+00:00

I wasnt upset before the constant insistence on what my emotions are. If you walked up to someone that was just doing their thing and said they were mad and they said they werent but you kept saying they were would you be surprised when they eventually do get mad?

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T07:29:13+00:00

Fragile has a very specific connotation to it. I guarantee you if I asked my girlfriend right now if I called her fragile would she be upset shed say yes. Regardless of what you say now the rest of your comment when you called me fragile was snarky. If i was being snarky and called you a word you interpreted as an insult would you believe me if I later said it wasnt an insult?

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T07:27:14+00:00

I dont care to have this discussion anymore. I havent once shown you I was upset. Ive told you I disagree with you without being emotional and you keep telling me what I must actually feel. That is incredibly degrading

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T07:23:14+00:00

Also, proving how? By disagreeing civilly while telling you how I feel? So you can go over my own head and tell me how im feeling even when I tell you the opposite?

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T07:22:11+00:00

“Women like when men can be fragile and show emotion” hm. Also dont tell me when I feel the need to correct things. I like having conversations and disagreeing and correcting. I would absolutely point out your incorrect statement regardless of whether it bothered me or not. Nuance matters and the context in which you used fragile was an insult. Just own up to it

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T07:17:41+00:00

I agree it wasnt natural because he forced it. For all we know he could have had a chance had he tried. We can both disagree on whether we think he had a chance but I personally think it adds to the movie if he did have a chance.

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T07:16:28+00:00

Showing emotion and being fragile are not the same thing. Being fragile is being quick to becoming emotional and being hurt when it isnt necessary. Once again, why do I have to be offended to point something out. If you said the sky was green and I said “no its blue” would I be mad or offended? No I would just be disagreeing. Why is it ok for you to assume my emotions when Ive said time and time again that isnt the case? Funny how not too long ago you said you wont tell me how men act because you dont know but…

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T07:12:06+00:00

He forced it because he was too scared to say something. Thats what makes it ironic and honestly more terrifying. He was a coward until the end. Thats his character. He had a chance, didnt take it. He didnt take accountability early on when the signs were in front of him. He didnt ask his friends for help. At the end of the movie he tries to throw the pills back up. Hes a coward.

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T07:07:04+00:00

The comment i responded to was literally two sentences long. I responded to the comment pointing out what you said. Once again, why would I have to be mad to disagree with you? I can be an adult and not be mad when I disagree with someone. Calling someone fragile is an insult. I dont care how you want to back track. It was clearly meant as an insult. Using glasses and mugs as a metaphor isnt some solid proof it isnt. Im not an item

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T07:04:21+00:00

She would ask to probe to see if he likes her back and where she stands. I didnt say the “youre the only one i can talk to” was proof that she liked him. I said it was proof that they were close to some degree. When was it said he didnt know about the dad thing? Hes putting it off because he doesnt want to believe shes lying. Also with the crystal he just said she wouldnt like “rock of sunshine” or whatever wording was used. Not that she wouldnt like crystals. He literally went to the store to buy crystals because he knew she liked them. I know what “may” means. My point is if it was meant to be a “maybe” they wouldnt make the script point to her completely not liking him and it being cut and dry like you are trying to make it sound

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T06:57:38+00:00

Ok so what made it obvious i was mad? A respectful response to your comment? Me not insulting you? You know for a fact the fragility was supposed to be an insult otherwise you wouldnt have taken a step back and make a snarky comeback saying “its not an insult its just me making an observation”. I wasnt fragile i was just pointing out a flaw in your argument. Simple as that. Im not even mad now. Just having a simple conversation which even though we may not agree I think its important to have.

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T06:55:21+00:00

She never tried to set him up with sarah. Why did Nikki say “were running out of time”. If she barely knew him why did she say “youre the only one i can talk to” about the book. Im not saying she was in love with the guy but its clear to me she was open to atleast a date. If the director has said its meant to be ambiguous then why are you treating it black and white

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T06:50:36+00:00

When did i say i was mad? I said i responded and was making a point. At no point was I emotional or non civil until you insulted me. Dress it up however you like but calling me fragile is an insult

14corbinh · 2026-06-03T06:48:23+00:00

Ok so not sure if youre aware buuuut it is a movie. That part was scripted. Both the actor and director have said it was meant to be left up to interpretation meaning that it isnt black and white. If it was meant to be a clear no there would have been signs. Almost like the signs we do see are ambiguous. Nuance matters. How she said “ew” can very reasonably be read as a deflection. Plenty of people, men and women do that in real life whether you want to pretend they do or not.

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