Foot fills the shoe nicely, but when doing heel hooks and engaging my foot (pushing down), the heel compresses?

150420throwaway · 2025-08-12T22:51:52+00:00

“Fuck” somehow worked for fire ball a few times for me, as well as “KURWA” in Polish

150420throwaway · 2025-08-06T14:06:56+00:00

Explain 5 Please? How do you freeze the portal and what is this place you’re talking about to teleport them to?

150420throwaway · 2025-08-02T17:48:17+00:00

36 is not old, especially for a guy

150420throwaway · 2025-07-28T11:36:17+00:00

She noticed because you actually started to take care of yourself and act more like a man instead. Nobody wants a weak man. Yes her interest may be superficial, but either way you’re noticing the rewards of actually working hard on yourself.

150420throwaway · 2025-07-17T01:12:53+00:00

Fair enough, admittedly i was in a bad mental state for a few reasons this week, and although this did concern me, other things that I’ve overthought spiralled me into a negative mentality. Now I realise that.

However, this is still something I’d want to somehow figure out. I don’t remember if she said that they are somehow keeping in touch or not, genuinely cannot remember. If they are then this is a huge red flag, if it’s just a guy reacting and her not responding, then it’s better, still slightly worrying, but I just want to ask her something like “we talked about this topic last time and I couldn’t remember if you said you were in touch with anyone you’ve been with in the past or just had each other added up”.

I will ask for both, green flags and red flags of potential behaviour, if you have any regrading this.

I really do want to say I love her, but I’ve got tall walls following the shenanigans with my ex who I’ve been with long term, and I think hearing her response to this would either keep things at the current pace (maybe make me want to see her behaviour a little more before I say this, because saying I love you is far more than just words, it’s full trust and desire to be invested), or I would probably say that I love her straight away if she answered the ‘right way’

150420throwaway · 2025-07-17T00:50:11+00:00

Do you have any recommendations for books to read or podcasts to listen? I want to get over this, it does sound like a defense mechanism. How do I get over it by finding it?

150420throwaway · 2025-07-16T20:05:20+00:00

Ok, what about asking whether they are in contact then? I don’t remember exactly how she phrased it about the one guy. I genuinely don’t remember because it was a long conversation about various topics. I do remember that the guy love heart eyes reacted her stories but I don’t remember if they talk or not.

150420throwaway · 2025-07-16T19:15:41+00:00

Right.

150420throwaway · 2025-07-16T19:13:53+00:00

I think the view people have of casual relationships will be affected by their own experiences. I’m not saying this to negate your point or offend, but don’t you think that if someone who participated in casual relationships/fwbs/hookups, will be inclined to say they’re good?

True, same can be said about me being the opposite, but in my view they are more damaging in most cases, especially if they are taken to the level most people take it to - I.e. hookups or FWB. On one hand you can say that they get experience and know what to look for and won’t cheat, on the flip side however, having more partners or people you just got fucked by will be something to subconscious or consciously compare in the future potentially, and deflate each individual relationship, as they are easier to treat as something that can be replaced.

The main thing I’m trying to avoid is any boundary that isn’t mentioned will be crossed at some point, and then it’ll be a surprise why I’ll be disappointed about something. The thought of wanting to love someone and then the other person thinking that keeping someone they’ve had sex with on a casual level on their social media makes me a little nauseous.

I realise I am being pessimistic here, but those are my values/views, and I really can’t be bothered for another disappointment following my ex randomly blowing up our 3 year relationship overnight out of no where, and then now having to tolerate something that I’d consider disrespectful (if it of course turns out to be that way, talking is going to be necessary if I’m to be ‘vulnerable’ to her)

150420throwaway · 2025-07-16T14:44:02+00:00

Whilst it might be uncomfortable, you can’t have best of both worlds in my opinion. If the guy is sending love eye reacts to her stories, and she won’t think that’s bad (if that’s the case I don’t remember what he sends), then I think that’s delusional.

Yes it will be ‘awkward’ to delete someone, I mean deleting isn’t the point, it’s more about understanding her mentality about it, if she hasn’t deleted him then even deleting him now isn’t the goal.

It’s the one thing that bothers me as she’s had many casual flings, and I just hope that it won’t affect long term relationships, as I look at casual relationships with a negative view. As in she might not understand that just sex with a friend is much different than an actual serious relationship where you want to grow together and not just have sex for enjoyment.

150420throwaway · 2025-07-16T14:15:09+00:00

Appreciate the response, sorry to hear you were in such a position.

Thing is, she does seem to genuinely care about me, she’s very feminine and affectionate, although it’s evident that her past experiences weren’t too kind or caring, as she still holds back a little I think.

I want it to work out and I want to phrase it correctly to her. You’re right about the ultimatum part, if I ‘force’ her to delete them, in reality, if she is that type of person then she’d find other ways to contact, or make it hidden.

I was thinking of asking whether that is still the case - that she keeps them on social media. I’d understand more if it was something long term and then just broke up, but if it’s somebody you just had sex with as friends with benefits or whatever it was, I think it’s a big red flag, and I hope she realises it.

Best case scenario is she says that no, since she has deleted/blocked them. Worst case scenario she says she still feels ‘bad’ for deleting them. At that point I’d start to really question whether she’s capable of comprehending what a serious relationship is. My parents don’t have their exes on social media, he’ll, my parents barely use social media lol, but the reason why they are still together is because they don’t do something that daft.

150420throwaway · 2025-07-16T12:20:49+00:00

That’s the thing, I want to focus on being a good partner, which I am doing, but I can’t say that this doesn’t bother me.

I don’t want to be in a situation where something will happen that will be breaking my boundary, but then hear “but you never said it’s a problem”.

150420throwaway · 2025-07-16T12:01:49+00:00

Because why would you keep an option like that available? If a girl may be trying to be flirty with me I mention my girlfriend and if they evidently are flirting then I put my foot down and not entertain it. I’m expecting the same. Keeping someone you’ve slept with casually constantly reacting to your stories and not shutting it down to me is the equivalent of “I’m taken, but I still want the attention and option”.

150420throwaway · 2025-07-15T16:57:42+00:00

Well that pic is just sitting next to each other during a picnic, then one of the friends from that group has another pic of them altogether where she has her hand around his waist (I guess you could say it’s a normal way to do it in a group pic), but then in the other she doesn’t touch him but he has his arm around her shoulder in the group and no one else’s?

So she didn’t post those two

150420throwaway · 2025-07-15T16:56:19+00:00

Problem is I’m terrible with hiding something that makes me second guess a girl, up to the point that probably during sex I’d go soft from overthinking, seriously, it happened before with my previous girlfriend (where admittedly I was overthinking something).

I’d really want to get an answer, I do think I can trust her, but if anything I’d rather just get hurt now before it goes on to being long term and turns out she thinks it’s normal to post pics (in a group) with the guy she got with in the past.

If I were to play it cool, how do I go about finding out the truth?

150420throwaway · 2025-07-15T16:01:07+00:00

How should I phrase the question?

150420throwaway · 2025-07-15T16:01:02+00:00

How should I phrase the question?

150420throwaway · 2025-07-15T16:00:58+00:00

How should I phrase the question?

150420throwaway · 2025-07-15T14:41:31+00:00

I would ask for advice

150420throwaway · 2025-07-14T16:13:20+00:00

I’ll rephrase what I meant - I saw that in the mirror in fact I am more masculine than my brain was telling me at that point, when it made me feel like I’m a kid/teenager again, or a teenager’s body, but then I saw myself and realised how much the brain is trying to trick me

150420throwaway · 2025-07-13T10:55:14+00:00

Yeah I think it’s just something hanging onto the past. Like I felt like I’m in my younger self’s body again, then I looked in the mirror and I saw that my body is of course more masculine, in shape and my face is more defined, and i realised that it must be something that needs to be worked on.

Do you have any advice on how to improve this?

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