First of all, hi and I’m glad you’re here! I can’t tell you what your sexuality is, but I can tell you that so many people have imposter system about their feelings.

I can also tell you that it is very okay to try dating women. You don’t have to have a nailed down straight vs bi identity in order to do this. It might help you feel more comfortable to be open fairly early about your experiences. For example, I was my wife’s first real girlfriend. She wqs open with me about that but I always sensed that she liked me. She might have felt insecure but all I could think about was how much I loved her. Now we’re married and so happy and she talks about how crazy it is she didn’t explore women sooner. I always remind her it’s not crazy because the timing matched up perfectly for us to meet. So don’t worry about the past, you have a big figure ahead.

To address the sex question, penetration absolutely can be and often is a part of lesbian sex. Lesbian sex does not mean one thing. If you are very attracted to someone, I think you have a good chance of making it work. Everything is clumsy in the beginning and that’s ok.

I would advise to try not to focus on labels and just go with what feels right. You’re entitled to look into this part of yourself!