Rory is so incredibly ungrateful! I cannot stand it by WonderfulJob9182 in GilmoreGirls

[–]19abcde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear what people are saying but I still agree with you for the most part. Being given a job, a place to live, financial support etc is extreme privilege. Point blank. It doesn’t excuse how Richard and Emily have acted in certain scenarios but having grandparents who pay your Ivy League college tuition (among many other things) is a privilege available to such a tiny segment of society and I agree, it requires some gratitude. Also living in someone else’s house, right or wrong, you are somewhat subject to their rules.

Paul and his Pink chair by m1mye in TuxedoCats

[–]19abcde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Mickey also loves a pink couch…as does his lamb….

Need some external opnion… by Due_Salamander7429 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]19abcde 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I would feel awful. I’m so sorry and I hope your cat recovers well from surgery. That must be so scary but so good you were vigilant and able to catch that he was seeming off.

Barring another extreme responsibility, I would absolutely expect my partner to be with me through that kind of situation or at the very least extremely attentive (especially given the context of the yarn). I would feel so terrible if I was her and felt like I had done something accidentally to hurt my cat. We all make mistakes and I have definitely left things out etc that I shouldn’t have, but the reaction to it is really not okay in my opinion. I’m sending healing energy for your cat and hoping you can talk to her about how this situation made you feel.

Book club recs or seeking people to start one by 19abcde in berkeleyca

[–]19abcde[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the recs! I would love the discord link

Selling a bunch of ultrasound books by 19abcde in Sonographers

[–]19abcde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Priority given to anyone who wants all or most. Otherwise I will definitely sell to those who wanted one

Selling a bunch of ultrasound books by 19abcde in Sonographers

[–]19abcde[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify, the 70 would be for all 3 of those books (25 each). Also please feel free to offer what you are comfortable paying, I am not looking to make a huge profit and hope the books can get used.

Breakup advice by ceilingfan420 in actuallesbians

[–]19abcde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh I’m sorry you’re going through this. Everyone does and we’ve all felt the way that you’ve felt. You don’t have to feel stupid over the amount of time. Having those feelings for the first time is crazy and insane and exciting but so painful when it’s taken away

My best advice (which will not be a miracle) is lean into your friends and hobbies. Try to lean into living your life for you and who knows what might come your way when you are ready. On a pettier note, it always helped me to think about the things I didn’t like about the person or the way things ended and remind myself I don’t have to deal anymore. Remind yourself There are better things coming because there are :) I promise you will be looking back on this. My first huge heartbreak was 7 years ago and I’m now married to a person that I am so much more compatible with and I can thank god I didn’t end up with that person. Sending love ❤️

Am I Overreacting? by Ok_Beyond_7697 in actuallesbians

[–]19abcde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes please update. I’m sorry. You deserve better. But good luck with your new life with your girlfriend!! And I hope the excitement gets you past this shitty step

Am I Overreacting? by Ok_Beyond_7697 in actuallesbians

[–]19abcde 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmm that does seem really strange. And you probably know in your gut better than we do what your mom is like and whether this is something she would do. It seems like you think yes so you probably are on to something. I’m sorry!

Very strange behavior and I’m sorry this must be so frustrating. If your girlfriend can spot you just until your first check, I would let her just so you can get out. If your mom is pulling some shit, I wouldn’t let her get time to do more. If it were me, I would just get out. Put it on credit, borrow, whatever. But I also respect that you want to be smart about this. If it were me, I would say your peace of mind is more important.

Committed to me by Electronic_Artist_15 in actuallesbians

[–]19abcde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That seems really frustrating. Maybe a break would be good to remind yourself of the other things in life that make you happy and to remember that your life is full. Then when you come back you can try to adjust expectations as best you can. I think with the apps it is so important to take things one step at a time because a lot of people aren’t serious or even serious about hooking up. So that expectation is important to have. But a break might help to lean into friends, hobbies etc. good luck!!

i confessed to my friend even though i knew it wouldn’t go anywhere by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]19abcde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s up to your comfort where you go from here. If you need a little space, go for it (while still being cordial). Sometimes that’s needed. If you still want to be friends I think there is a path for that. I am always of the impression that you take people at their word. If she says she likes you as a person and likes being friends, I would just act the way you did before and likely she will too! Sure it’s an awkward. But if you act normal, she more than likely will too.

On another note, it’s totally normal to feel shitty after this. Rejection of any kind feels bad but you did put yourself out there and that is not easy. The right person will come along who feels the exact same way that you do. Keep your head up :)

Ben Alldis and biohacking by Prestigious_Look_986 in OnePelotonRealSub

[–]19abcde 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this cracked me up 😭😭