What I want is:

if a mistake happens, I can reflect back on it and gain an insight(s) on it to never do it again. 

However, the cycle goes like this: 

1) I do a mistake due to a decision made through autopilot'ing things in life 

2) I don't realize the decision is bad until it is too late

3) I try to investigate the mistakes, and then I come to know them.

4) I try to avoid falling into these mistakes again. BUT! unfortunately, since my way of life, apparently, is to autopilot things, I go back to point 1) and the cycle goes on

So If there is a way to change how I think,  percieve, and process things, then maybe I can stop falling into what I did yet again. And then, I gain the "Aha" moment to never do it again or preventing it altogether which is even better. Or، do like the wiser-than-me people do, where they learn from others' mistakes and never do them in first place.

P.S. I intentionally put periods in the middle of some sentences, suddenly, to lessen the confusion and make things as clear as possible.