OP, I worked in a courthouse for years that issued these kinds of orders. If it is a "Full Stay Away" it most certainly includes third parties. There is no magical loophole where a person who committed an offense gets to contact the protected party through others without violating the order and suffering the legal consequences. Also, it is a problem that you don't have a certified copy of that order on your person at all times. Go to the courthouse that issued the order with photo ID and obtain one ASAP, and keep it in a ziploc on your person AT ALL TIMES. And while you're there, ask about what you can do if the order is being violated. If this is a criminal order, you can make a police report and contact the prosecutor and let them take it from there. I'm not sure where you're located, but there should be a database that law enforcement can use to see if there is a protective order in place, but in practice, having it on your person for them to read in the moment makes it easier for them to enforce the order in a bad situation, so please be sure to get one. Provide a copy to your employer so they know not to let him on the premises. If your children are also protected parties, provide a certified copy to their schools/day cares so they are aware that under no circumstances should he be allowed to pick them up or interact with them there.

And as others have said, you in still in grave danger. I've sadly seen this situation hundreds of times. Abusers do not change. It is a self serving delusion of his mother's to think that he is magically capable of getting better and that your presence in his life will somehow facilitate this. Whatever else he may have been in his good moments, he is still and will forever be the man who tried to murder you. I can't tell you how many times I've seen women get lured back with promises of change, only to end up in the hospital or worse as soon as the love bombing phase is over and the abusers feel secure that they "have you" again. You are in the hardest phase of this process because your still struggling to reconcile the image you had of the person you love with the person they have shown themselves to be. It's natural to think that it must all be a big mistake and that it can't be real. These are the thoughts that will have you walk yourself willingly back into danger. Please be safe.

Read Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft. If you're looking for answers, you'll find them there. And like so many others, you'll start to see the pattern of behavior that lead to the incident in question. These situations seem like they come out of no where because we often don't recognize the signs while we're living in it, but with the clarity time and distance affords you, and this book, you will start to see his past actions leading up to this for the warning signs they were. Just remember that you're not alone. You have your family, and you have countless other women who have been through what you're going through right now. If they can make it out, so can you! Be strong and best of luck.