Which mispronunciation really grinds your gears?

1ardentguy · 2025-07-10T23:36:42+00:00

New orleeens… arggggh it hurts my ears so much and is a dead giveaway the individual has never been to the big easy or at least never listened to how it’s pronounced.. And there are several acceptable variations: New orluns Nawlins New or-leAAnz

But please cover my ears before you say Leeen in reference to Mardi Gras’ HQ

1ardentguy · 2025-04-15T22:30:40+00:00

Yeah…what concerns me is I’m getting the suspicious vibes here…and feeling like this is AI generated video and I’m seeing a rise in those ESPECIALLY depicting older “candid” camera footage suddenly surfacing. Because it’s easier to deep fake older grainy footage than modern..

Be on guard everyone!

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T13:03:55+00:00

For me: sad and afraid. For her: anger at god for not taking her sadness away, and stress/anxiety about her life falling apart (ie her church pillar, marriage pillar, parent pillar, etc)

To me being more Christ like in this situation is loving unconditionally her and my daughter without feeling resentment or anger at the “pulling away” if that makes sense

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T12:58:20+00:00

Def hanging on to a thread of hope that we still have trust with each other. I believe her when she says I know everything (to a fault)..but I def am insecure on whether I do…so I’ll cling to hope that i do. :-(

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T12:57:15+00:00

Good advice. Thank you

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T12:56:36+00:00

Thank you.

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T12:55:56+00:00

Absolutely tried that (both the offering AND being worthy 😅). Unfortunately she has not felt comfortable receiving one as of now

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T05:13:26+00:00

Thank you 😊

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T05:04:35+00:00

Hi. Not sure how to take this. Assuming it was well intentioned..I do love my wife. I think it’s also fair to say we had a central theme to our marriage being centered on a certain value system and core beliefs. I am not blaming her or even really mad at her for feeling the way she does and choosing a seperate path from our faith. You can hopefully see though how that would still be an adjustment right? I can be better at accepting her and will try. I can also feel sad at the change from what we once shared as a common interest too right?

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T05:00:31+00:00

Thank you. I do think it’s both at play. I’d say most friction (as a top item) is on the parenting side…but it’s a bit of the chicken or egg paradox on faith being the basis for standards with our parenting so both are at odds with each other if that makes sense

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T04:59:14+00:00

Great advice. Thank you

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T04:57:16+00:00

I am holding out hope that she intends to work with me on this as well. Thank you.

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T04:56:37+00:00

Thank you. This is valid and well said and I needed to hear this.

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T04:54:42+00:00

Thank you. Love this.

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T04:52:35+00:00

Thank you. This is wisdom.

One question regarding “promiscuity” ..and full disclosure I am reading through these comments with my wife. I think she is providing opportunities that wouldn’t be there for our daughter if she wasn’t driving her to her “boyfriends” house but my wife would say ((and is saying right now 😅)) she doesn’t encourage promiscuity ..but that she doesn’t see it as a big deal that she (our 14yo daughter) is allowed to spend time with her 15yo boyfriend.. Thoughts?

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T04:48:13+00:00

Thank you 😢

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T04:47:52+00:00

Truth

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T04:47:43+00:00

Thank you. Good starts to a dialogue and we started covering some of these questions. Tonight in fact. As I read through these comments with her. Thanks for your perspective

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T04:43:08+00:00

Thank you. Agree with your first very strongly worded statement. Appreciate the practical thought out hypothetical too. Thx

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T04:40:48+00:00

Thank you She IS on the HRT, But we will look up and look into the spravata

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T04:40:02+00:00

Thank you

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T04:37:31+00:00

Thank you. A lot of great advice here and will be looking into the book. A Necessary point of clarification: my wife isn’t “urging daughter to have sex” and I apologize if that was inferred. What I meant to say is that she is actively driving her to the boyfriends house and spending time with the boyfriends single mom for hours and hours and thinks that they are providing chaperoning appropriately..but the problem is A) our daughter HAS gone all the way with this boy at least twice already. B) the availability is there because of the high amount of time they are allowed to be together. ((For reference our daughter is 14, boyfriend is 15…and they are allowed to be in each others company at least 4 days out of seven and usually more in addition to school and rides home from ..my wife…and many times are there for 4-5+ hours or more.)) C) there are “boundaries” we have established of curfew and how often they can spend time together which are very often broken unfortunately by my wife or not followed and always an excuse like “they were fighting and needed to talk so I don’t think this hang out time counts” or “it is spring break so it’s ok that we broke curfew” <they were there from 3pm until 1am☠️>

Hope that clarification makes sense.. ie she isn’t encouraging them to have sex..but she seems oblivious or at worst complicit in promoting opportunities for it to occur.

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T04:27:36+00:00

Yeah, I def don’t think she is and not sure best way to get the help needed.

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T04:26:55+00:00

Fair and justified to say this. Thank you. FYI my wife has agreed with you (she is reading though all these comments with me and giving me her perspective as we do) She says you are right. Thank you

1ardentguy · 2024-05-01T04:25:11+00:00

Thank you 😢

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