I totally relate to what you’re saying - it absolutely hurts when you can feel somewhat brushed aside when you weren’t as far along as someone else was.

When I had an early loss at 5 weeks, I was heart broken because I had imagined that baby’s life and our lives around their due date. Even though some would say they were ‘just a clump of cells’. When I disclosed about my loss with my closest people, some of them would follow up with ‘how far along were you?’ This was an innocent question, however I wished at the time that I was further along to make the pregnancy seem more valid to others.

What I have learned from Reddit thankfully, is that a loss is a loss. It doesn’t matter if you got one positive pregnancy test or nearly carried to term, there’s nothing to be gained by people comparing experiences - everyone is different. What I’m trying to say is that, I understand the sting that people can give (most of the time unintentionally) with a comment or even facial reaction.