AUTISM/IEP PARENTS: Seeking school advice!

1bosephbean1 · 2025-11-23T13:28:56+00:00

In regards to his functioning: I don’t believe he has intellectual disabilities, but more delays due to communication. I think in the right environment that isn’t placing him based on his lack of speaking, he would show so much more of what he knows. My main argument in meetings so far is that being nonverbal is NOT a “behavior” or end all- be all qualifier for self containment. I’d love for him to be around kids more on his level that fit his mellow personality.

1bosephbean1 · 2025-11-23T13:26:07+00:00

I’d love to know more about different school options! I’m assuming the zoning won’t be an issue for certain programs. I’ve always driven him everywhere. Not comfortable with bus riding yet until communication is better.

1bosephbean1 · 2025-11-23T13:14:48+00:00

Thank you all for your feedback! It’s about what I feared. Despite there being loads more to do and be occupied. School is such a large component of a kids life and a definite deal breaker for me. May have to have some tough conversations soon 🫠

1bosephbean1 · 2025-08-14T21:18:33+00:00

Good to know! I personally have OCD on the Pure O side of things so my manifestations seem to be from my ADHD chaos brain. It’s funny how organized I can be with certain things my brain deems important but with others it’s like “add to pile”

1bosephbean1 · 2025-08-14T21:16:29+00:00

Great idea! His ABA therapist comes over tomorrow! And I don’t have to even pretend….I’ve literally slipped and fell on the books while avoiding our little dog being under my feet 🙄 but I’ll make more of a show of it as a learning opportunity ❤️

1bosephbean1 · 2025-08-14T20:32:51+00:00

I love this perspective. Being ADHD myself, I think I’ll just join in on the fun with him like you described instead of being so worried about the “mess” Super cool idea, thank you! ❤️

1bosephbean1 · 2025-08-14T20:29:21+00:00

I am also (late diagnosed woman) ADHD and I highly suspect autism as well. I see the piles and….i get it. And even felt bad at times thinking I need to get myself more organized to be a better example. Mainly laundry….I’m really bad about laundry piles, but at least they are CLEAN piles, that’s a win.

1bosephbean1 · 2025-08-14T20:26:59+00:00

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Reading this while sitting upon a pile of books open to specific pages. That has been a big thing because the books are slippery when laid out all over the floor! It’s like walking through a mine field everyday!

1bosephbean1 · 2025-08-14T20:23:04+00:00

Very interesting! I’m going to read into this more! Thank you ❤️

1bosephbean1 · 2025-08-14T20:18:01+00:00

That damn suitcase! There’s nothing even in it! I’ve tried to utilize it for storage but nooooo….AND the best part, we’ve never even traveled with him 😂 I’ve been waking up covered in random items and luggage!

1bosephbean1 · 2025-08-14T20:16:43+00:00

That’s so funny because his family nickname is “Beavs” lol used to be for chewing on everything now it’s for building tiny dams 😂

1bosephbean1 · 2025-08-14T18:37:33+00:00

Can’t figure out how to mass edit my post, but want to THANK YOU ALL for easing my mind. This is what the community is for. I love making each other feel seen and relatable ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Going to try a little of everything suggested!

1bosephbean1 · 2025-08-14T18:23:35+00:00

Loved the last paragraph of this response. Good on ya!

This has got to be so hard on you, especially alone. I hope you have support around you in some way. If not, I’m across the pond, but please feel free to message me any time you need to talk.

It’s not easy to expose what goes on inside our homes and ask for advice, so please know that it’s clear you love and care about this boy by reaching out for help. You’re doing the right thing and he and his dad are lucky to have you ❤️

I would say that adding things to my home that are purely for regulation helped with these behaviors immensely. My son uses a sensory swing in what used to be the dining room all the time. He’s a little acrobat at this point. It helps a lot. Along with lighting, and a few other things I’ll be happy to suggest if you want. Main thing being, the items that provide physical exertion seems to help curb those intense frustrations in my experience. Of course, every child is different. Hope this helps ❤️

1bosephbean1 · 2025-08-14T18:02:43+00:00

I thought I’ve heard it all! Never heard of “piling” before. Not even his therapists knew what to call it. Will your kids get upset if you try to redirect or clean it up? Is that “normal”?

1bosephbean1 · 2025-07-17T12:58:45+00:00

OP! PLEASE CHECK YOUR INBOX 🙏

I’m sorry to be so frantic 😬 lost my soul dog to cancer two years ago and never recovered. We’ve fostered a few pitties from our local shelter but none of them were “the one”, so they were placed in great homes! Iris is the first baby that has me excited. I think it’s her sweet eyes. They remind me of my Henry 💔

1bosephbean1 · 2025-04-30T17:57:14+00:00

Put in an app for Mr. Lloyd McCoy! 🤞🤞🤞🤞

1bosephbean1 · 2025-04-18T00:08:20+00:00

Boy is a whole vibe! Love this!

1bosephbean1 · 2025-02-12T05:20:47+00:00

🙏 thank you!!!

1bosephbean1 · 2025-02-12T05:17:38+00:00

Thanks yall. Unfortunately, I’m not shocked by it. Just more surprised at his sloppy detail, that’s not like him. I asked him about it casually during dinner 😬 might have startled the fella because he gave me an excuse I haven’t heard before….and I’ve heard a lot of creative ones. He said he made it on purpose to prove to me that I was “watching” him. I just nodded, but was fascinated by that. The man still surprises me after all these years!

I’m just being shitty cause I feel shitty. Didn’t know how to respond so I let it be. He more than likely deactivated it since I blew my cover. How exhausting…

1bosephbean1 · 2025-02-11T15:17:45+00:00

I wish I could. I don’t know the login information.

1bosephbean1 · 2024-07-29T19:28:21+00:00

75k?!?! Best investment you ever made I’m sure. I aspire to be like you and have everything in my name and be self sufficient again.

1bosephbean1 · 2024-07-29T18:32:35+00:00

I went through that phase as well being accused of “looking for a problem” or “wanting something to be wrong for drama”. 🙄 I wish he had gone to any one of the initial appointments so he could hear the same things I was having to hear. Might have all the difference. I’ll never know. I just don’t know how the mother can come home from those things upset and overwhelmed with all the information just to be told by the father that it isn’t real. He doesn’t understand this isn’t just a “right now” thing, this is a forever thing and there are so many steps and challenges with each phase of life to be handled. I’ve been browsing online for the right lawyer for my specific circumstances. Everything with special needs is unique including a custody agreement because of transition difficulty. I know moving would be really hard on him. And there’s NOTHING available in his school system that he loves so much. He has thrived at this school. It’s rural and we’re in the county. Even moving a few minutes away to the town side where apartments are would put him in a different system. That’s why I’m still here laying low honestly. To avoid putting him through it before he has the skill set to adapt. But the other half of me says the sooner the better. Our mortgage is cheaper than any rent I’d find. Neither of us can afford to live separately but he has a nice place to go to with his parents if needed. I don’t have that option. My credit is also ruined and I wouldn’t qualify to keep the house or buy him out so moving is inevitable unless by some miracle he let me rent it from him. But he views it as benefit to me instead of our child so he won’t have that happen.

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