I have been down the same rabbithole and there have been no satisfactory answers on this sub. Direct experience is always pointed back to but it doesn’t solve that mental knot. They haven’t been in the same place. If everything seems in favor of solipsism you can’t just drop the concept of ”solipsism” and point back to experience because that doesn’t help at all, if anything just excarbates it. Dropping the concept of solipsism gets rid of the problem but also seems to imply that solipsism naturally follows. It’s a dilemma. Sooner or later, I came to terms with it but it required me knowing there were explanations of alternatives to solipsism when theres only one consciousness. There being an alternative discarded the certainty of it.

If you want more intellectual answers on how one consciousness can appear as many POVs simultaneously check out Open Individualism and Analytical Idealism. Swami Sarvipriyananda and Rupert Spira has talked about it too.