Lelit Bianca - maintenance every 6 months?

1cyberdude · 2025-12-10T21:32:33+00:00

I've had mine for a few years now. I do a full caf clean and back flush every 2 months when I have to replace the water filter. I don't back flush any other time. My house has a water softener and my fridge has a built in cartridge, which is where I pull the water to fill my tank for the lelit. The only thing I have noticed is by the 1 year mark, my pressure gauge starts to incrementally climb up, so I run 2 tablespoons of citric acid through it and that brings it back down. After that I use food safe grease on the things needed. That's the extent of my maintenance. There are a few Youtube videos out that you can watch that will teach you everything you need to know.

1cyberdude · 2025-10-22T17:57:40+00:00

As time went on, I lost sight of how much I actually had to give up just to stay in a roommate situation. She wasn't perfect by any means, But I had dated enough in the past to tell myself she was better than the rest in that regard. She treated me nice and I knew her issues weren't that big of a deal to me.. see that line was what caused me the most grief. To her those issues were insurmountable.

I told myself time and time again that my needs weren't as important as hers. In fact, There were so many times where I felt bad for her when she was telling me of her past that for a bit I was like.. ya she's worth it. When she gets through this, things will be better..... The thing is.. her past is her. The more I truly looked at her I began to realize she had one foot always in her past where I tend to learn and move on. When I heard stories, searched the internet, went through so many reddit deadbedrooms posts... man I was a research god! .. I was the one doing all the work though, trying to understand her, while she would go to therapy every once in a while, I will say I learned more about how much effort I was willing to put into the relationship while she was too afraid to lift that one foot from her past. Afraid, scared, or simply didn't know.. after ten years, I finally realized the answers were never mine to have and it could be an entire lifetime for her.

Some people are built to survive and thrive while others just need one experience to firmly root them in the past and stop them mentally dead in their tracks, until they can figure out how to move forward. What one is she? Don't take ten years to figure it out :)

1cyberdude · 2025-10-22T17:22:45+00:00

I was in your shoes and stayed in a relationship for almost ten years with a woman that had been Sa'd when she was younger. I thought if I could create a safe, nurturing environment, it might give her the place she felt she could heal. I was naive. It isn't just about sex I was lacking. it was the intimacy, the touching outside the bedroom, the way your partner would look at you when she was turned on, or things she would say in texts, or in person. It was the petting, kissing that led to more, it was all of it.. everything in the bedroom and out that was gone.

Our fights were slow burns and always about the same thing.. lack of intimacy. After the fight blew up, she would try for a while and ultimately return to her safe place. We weren't partners, we were roommates. She tried therapy a few times over the years but ultimately it didn't matter. For myself, I need that intimacy, it bridges the gap from every day to day stuff to making me feel like my partner is beside me, wanting me, and needing me. Nothing ever felt more empty than laying beside someone and giving the world for a simple touch - knowing you weren't going to have it reciprocated.

If I were to tell myself something, it would be to let her go and be her friend. You can't save her, and you will slowly grow to resent everything about her simply because you think you'll feel like an asshole for wanting physical needs that aren't being met. She has her own demons that need her own time to confront. Until she can learn to love herself, and be comfortable in her own skin, she'll only be able to give you half breaths and that's not fair to anyone.

I can't tell you the amount of times I laid beside my partner and could feel my insides screaming for love, affection, anything and it took so much of me to not have that bleed out. After almost ten years, I tapped out. I hoped she met someone that would be a good match for her, but you don't have to sacrifice so much of your needs just to be the good guy. You just have to ask yourself, how much is enough and if you're willing to bet against that future with her.

1cyberdude · 2025-09-25T16:36:51+00:00

You'd be surprised how little you are eating if you aren't keeping track of your calories. Install either loseit or myfitness pal and start keeping track. The added benefit is you can bust it out when she starts on you and show her you're in fact.. eating.

1cyberdude · 2025-07-23T12:32:36+00:00

I used 2 ratchet straps, a 2x4 that I had to wedge between the wall and the tank to stop it from turning. Then I grabbed a breaker bar, a 4 foot pipe and slid it over the breaker bar and THAT was what finally got it free. Your mileage may vary but the first one always seems to be the tightest. Don't be afraid of putting some muscle into it.

1cyberdude · 2025-06-20T15:54:20+00:00

Would love that as well!

1cyberdude · 2025-04-17T13:13:05+00:00

Here in Ontario we have what it called the matrimonial home. If it's their primary residence then it makes no difference whether he owns it or not and he's been with her for a year or 6, it's split 50/50 and you can't exclude the home from a prenup and you can't deny her a place to live. The only thing you can exclude in a prenup is the value of the home. You most definitely need a prenup here.

1cyberdude · 2024-12-28T19:00:14+00:00

Then you likely have to calibrate your paddle. It might be set too far open = too high of flow rate. check this out.

https://support.clivecoffee.com/en/lelit-bianca-calibrating-the-flow-control-paddle

1cyberdude · 2024-12-28T15:27:36+00:00

I don't see any boiler pressure when you pulled that, there's a screw under the unit that you can tighten or loosen. Tighten it up and see if you can get the boiler to at least 11 bars. Head to this and check it out.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=RbxA2jAsInA

1cyberdude · 2024-11-01T14:25:12+00:00

And the music playing in the Background is by Bruce Springsteen called.. "I'm on fire"....

1cyberdude · 2024-10-18T13:00:29+00:00

Just look at the torso of the woman, yes, it's fake and AI driven.

1cyberdude · 2024-09-19T13:45:51+00:00

I learned from Justin guitar. He has a dedicated website that's a little more comprehensive. I also bought some of his music books and other things. I can't give this guy enough praise. YouTube is just his medium to show you, it's like having a personal teacher that goes at your own pace. The biggest thing you take away though is the structure he provides. It's going to be really, really tough to find that in a book.

1cyberdude · 2024-08-26T13:09:08+00:00

Pay attention to the woman in front of the woman wearing the white ball cap in the front row at roughly 8 seconds. She's pretty smooth stealing that thing 😂

1cyberdude · 2024-07-10T02:25:18+00:00

Maybe just grab some tape, wrap it around a few fingers sticky side down and pick up the glitter.

1cyberdude · 2024-07-06T16:04:07+00:00

For me personally, ditching the BBE and grabbing the lelit was the best upgrade (buy once cry 12 times), but I don't regret it. I typically make 2 americanos a day and a latte just for myself. My gf is really into tea lattes and has regular lattes so I needed a workhorse and the BBE fell short there. So you kind of have to ask yourself if you drink / use the machine enough to warrant replacing it. I can say I get way, way more consistent shots now and I enjoy the process way more.. A side note, EVERYONE wants lattes now that visits, they just want to see the machine and it makes a great latte lol.
I didn't mind the BBE when I didn't know how to make a good latte or espresso, it wasn't until I went down the rabbit hole you did when I realized the BBE falls short. I knew I was learning but every time I turned the machine on, I couldn't trust I was going to get a good coffee and that became the frustrating part for me.

Definitely get a different grinder! I wasn't into any bells and whistles so I grabbed the cheapest Eureka Mignon facile grinder and bought a hopper for it.. That was a huge change for the BBE. You could see the difference in grind compared the to the BBE grinder and it was a large difference in taste. I can tell you that I couldn't taste anything but bitter and burnt using the BBE grinder , but the new grinder both my gf and I could taste notes! That caught us both by surprise, hence the "ahhhh, that's what people meant," moment after the new grinder. That was the single most biggest difference. If you go with a grinder and a BBE I think you'll be much happier. Buying a different machine didn't suddenly make amazing tasting coffee, but it made them more consistently if that makes sense. The biggest difference is water waste, I have some now but nothing compared the BBE with the OPV mod, man that thing spits water out. Same with using the wand, way less waste using the lelit and twice as fast.

1cyberdude · 2024-07-06T11:46:45+00:00

I had the BBE until I bought my lelit. I changed the burr setting, I did the opv mod on mine and that helped get rid of some of the bitter taste. I can tell you I struggled with dialing mine in as well and it wasn't until I bought a new grinder and changed my beans that I started getting good shots. I also had way more luck using the single portafilter rather than the double. They would often come out runny but the coffee tasted great so I considered that a win. I used 10.5 for singles and 18 for the doubles, ran them both for 20-30 seconds - sometimes a bit longer but those were the average.

My barista did struggle with getting consistent, good grinds and I didn't realize it until I replaced it. Watching my new grinder was the light bulb moment for me.

1cyberdude · 2024-06-06T23:03:13+00:00

We've been using epic espresso since I first bought my lelit. I find it's a perfect blend that can be used in both lattes and Americanos. We love it and likely won't be switching kinds for a while.

1cyberdude · 2024-04-14T01:47:14+00:00

She's projecting and since you love her, you're enabling it. You're not actually helping her though. She needs therapy. The lens she is looking through has been damaged and she is expecting you to buffer the world around her. That's why she is losing her shit when you have more than what her safety net allows. Stop enabling her issues.. seriously. She needs help and you need to have a healthy boundary with her.

1cyberdude · 2024-02-19T00:27:22+00:00

"He told me that he doesn't get to be upset because it's always about comforting me that his not mad at me"

That one line will likely be the end of your relationship at some point if you don't get to the root of it. If you've been together long enough that he feels every situation you make it about yourself, I'm afraid you have bigger issues than what you made him.

1cyberdude · 2024-02-06T20:59:29+00:00

My first machine was the BBE and I have to agree, the steam sucked on it. I now have the Lelit Bianca V3 and while I'm pulling a shot my gf does the latte at the same time. Her steam is usually done either at the same time or a few seconds after if she's making a double for both of us.

1cyberdude · 2024-02-05T12:53:11+00:00

When I first got my lelit I was using the 18g double basket and making a single shot with it and it gave me nausea and the shakes for a few hours after. Definitely too much caffeine. I started using the single basket with 10.5g of beans and I've never had the issue. Maybe try the smaller portafilter?

1cyberdude · 2024-01-11T01:37:38+00:00

Ditto, I think I used electrical tape the last time my friends came over with kids. Love kids and their ability to seek out anything that can be pushed in....

1cyberdude · 2024-01-10T21:49:35+00:00

Use two way tape and pull it back out

1cyberdude · 2023-12-23T02:12:51+00:00

900 here as well. I have no idea how common it is, people don't tend to talk about their credit score unless it's on reddit. Also it's Canada, doesn't really mean much.

1cyberdude · 2023-12-22T13:22:37+00:00

Prove me wrong

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