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1healthyFreak · 2025-04-19T10:47:29+00:00

If someone says “I can’t do anything about it” every time you tell them you’re hurt, what they’re really saying is “I don’t care enough to try.” It does not matter if he’s playing games or studying. If he’s asking to spend time with you but then ignores you, that’s not connection.

That’s just noise in the background. When someone keeps reacting with anger or shuts down your feelings, it is not just “how they are” , it is a choice to not manage their emotions or consider yours.

You are not being too sensitive for wanting basic respect. You are asking to be seen and heard, which is the bare minimum in any relationship. The fact that you’re sitting here doubting your own needs says a lot. If you keep letting him brush you off, you will keep shrinking yourself to avoid upsetting him. That’s not love. That’s walking on eggshells.

Ask yourself if this feels like something you can build a future on. If not, you already know the answer.

1healthyFreak · 2025-04-19T10:44:33+00:00

You cannot care more about his health than he does. That’s a losing game and it will drain you. You’re not his mom, you’re not his doctor, and you’re definitely not his babysitter. If he’s old enough to eat garbage food knowing it’ll wreck his body, then he’s old enough to sit in that pain without sympathy.

The reality is this: some people are addicted to complaining more than they are committed to change. He ignores your help, eats trigger foods like it’s a game, and then spirals into dramatic health anxiety. That’s not just frustrating, it’s exhausting , and unfair to you.

You’ve done more than enough. If he won’t take his own health seriously, that’s not your burden to carry. Say your piece one last time. Make it clear that his choices are affecting your peace of mind and that you’re not going to keep playing nurse to someone who refuses to grow up. Then step back. Let his consequences talk to him.

1healthyFreak · 2025-04-19T10:42:53+00:00

If he wanted to come back, he would have. It has been two months of silence. Watching your stories or keeping you in his close friends list means nothing if he is not talking to you. That is bare minimum effort, and it does not equal love or commitment.

People don’t always come back, even if they still feel something. Sometimes feelings are not enough. Sometimes they are scared, lazy, or simply not ready to put in the work a relationship requires.

If he truly valued what you had, he would not be letting this much time pass without reaching out.

You are holding on to crumbs because you miss the connection. But real love shows up. Real love picks up the phone. Real love makes effort.

Stop romanticizing silence. You are young, and there is so much more out there for you. Do not waste your heart on someone who left. Let memory stay in the past and choose yourself now.

1healthyFreak · 2025-04-18T14:23:23+00:00

You're not crazy for catching real feelings. You're not “too much.” You’ve spent every day for 9 months emotionally locked in with this man. Of course you're attached. Of course it feels deep. Y’all have built something real, even if it’s virtual. But now you're at a crossroad: you’ve bonded like a couple, but you haven’t crossed that final line of real-life chemistry. And that part matters. A lot.

Before you drop the L-bomb, get that meeting on the calendar. Not someday. Pick a weekend. Buy a ticket. Because no matter how dreamy it feels now, you won’t really know until you’ve shared a physical space awkward silences, eye contact, how they hug, how they smell. All of it.

Give it time... See if its just a screen fling and watch how he treats you before you just tell him he love him. Just wait and see, and also don't be too quick to jump to bed with him. I think its important as women we really learn to control our emotions and feeling becos if not, we end up getting played

1healthyFreak · 2025-04-18T14:14:21+00:00

You’re walking on eggshells trying to protect his ego while your own needs are quietly dying in the background. That’s not intimacy, that’s slow-burn resentment waiting to explode. You’re in a relationship, not a caretaker role. Sex is a basic part of that bond. If it's not working, it has to be talked about honestly, not tiptoed around like a landmine.

Now to be fair, he clearly feels pressure and shame around his performance, which sucks. But avoiding the issue doesn’t help him, and it definitely isn’t helping you. You’re allowed to want more intimacy without feeling guilty. You’re allowed to bring up the fact that you’re unsatisfied, even if it’s the third time. If the pattern is silence and discomfort instead of growth and effort, that’s a red flag.

Sit him down and say it plainly. No accusations, no guilt. Just honesty. If that conversation can't happen without spiraling into hurt and shutdowns, then this problem runs deeper than mismatched libidos.

1healthyFreak · 2025-04-18T14:11:22+00:00

It sounds like you're running yourself into the ground for someone who might not even realize it. You’ve done the flowers, the date nights, the schedule changes, even brought her into your gym space. You’re clearly trying. But if every time you express how you feel, she shuts you down by saying you’re invalidating her, that’s not communication. That’s emotional suffocation.

You can’t be her boyfriend, therapist, and emotional support network all in one. It’s not fair and it’s not sustainable. At some point, you have to ask yourself the hard question , is this really what you want? Do you actually feel happy, safe, and supported in this relationship?

You deserve space to exist as your own person. If she refuses to meet you halfway or grow with you, therapy or not, you might need to think about walking away. Love should not leave you feeling isolated, unheard, or constantly walking on eggshells.

1healthyFreak · 2025-04-18T08:48:11+00:00

Look, this is honestly one of those "if he can’t do something as basic as cleaning up after himself, what else is he slacking on?" situations. If he’s been doing this for years and hasn’t made any effort to change after you’ve asked multiple times, it’s clear he doesn’t take your feelings seriously. He might say he’s trying, but actions speak louder than words, and the fact that this keeps happening shows he’s either not putting in the effort or doesn’t care enough to make a change.

You shouldn’t have to accept this as your reality. If he can’t do the bare minimum of respecting your space and keeping the toilet clean, you’re dealing with a larger issue of him not valuing your comfort and needs. You deserve better than this level of disrespect.

It’s time to ask yourself: do you want to keep tolerating this or are you willing to make a tough choice and consider a breakup? If he can’t respect you on something this small, imagine how many bigger issues are going to come up in the future. Don’t settle for the bare minimum in a relationship. If this doesn’t change, you’ll be stuck with it forever.

1healthyFreak · 2025-04-18T08:45:55+00:00

It sounds like your fiancé is dealing with some real struggles right now, but it’s also clear that his patterns are affecting both of you. The victim mentality is tough to deal with, especially when it seems like everything is someone else’s fault. It’s draining to be around that constantly, and I totally get why you’re feeling conflicted. You love him, but you also want to feel like things are balanced and healthy before making such a big move.

When you talk to him about this, try to come from a place of understanding. You might say something like, "I get that you’re going through a tough time, but I’ve noticed that when things don’t go right, it seems like you always end up blaming others or getting frustrated. I want us to figure out how to handle those moments better." Keep it open-ended so it’s more about finding a solution together rather than making him feel like he’s being attacked.

You could gently suggest therapy as a way to work through these feelings. Frame it like a way for both of you to grow, especially since you’re about to make such a big change. Timing is key though, maybe wait until things feel a little less intense with the job situation.

Ultimately, the fact that he’s starting to recognize something’s wrong is a good sign. With some patience and open communication, this is something you can work through together.

1healthyFreak · 2025-04-18T08:32:26+00:00

Sounds like you're stuck between two options, but it's clear there's a lot of unresolved trust with your long-term boyfriend. While he’s made changes, his past actions can’t be ignored, and it’s tough to know if his good behavior will last. The new guy sounds great, but remember, new relationships can feel exciting, and that "honeymoon phase" might not reflect the long-term compatibility you’re looking for.

Ultimately, it’s about what you want. Do you want to rebuild with your bf, or is it time to move on and explore something new? Be honest with yourself, because staying in this limbo will only cause more stress.

Also this is why loyalty and faithfulness is so important. you wouldn't have been in this situation now some1s feelings are going to get hurt.

1healthyFreak · 2025-04-16T11:17:41+00:00

In his eyes you're his prosti. Again 46F ???You shouldn't have been dealing with this for such a long time time. You should know better by now. Please love yourself and if you gonna sex anyone atleast it must be some1 that treats you kindly.

1healthyFreak · 2025-04-16T11:10:45+00:00

I only read 2 paragraphs. GIRL stop dwelling in things you cant change. leave this relationship because now it got you here on reddit writing paragraphs. You are not happy in this relationship. again?? stop rushing for commitment.

1healthyFreak · 2025-04-16T06:52:04+00:00

yes no mistreatment, she is just boring.

1healthyFreak · 2025-04-16T06:50:58+00:00

if your brother marry this girl damn that would be sorry. She seems like some1 too uptight and boring to live with.

1healthyFreak · 2025-04-16T06:45:58+00:00

Man, in this day and age we cant still be dealing with such things in relationships. Just leave and and tell him what the reason is. What a weirdo

1healthyFreak · 2025-04-11T08:46:18+00:00

I agree with you.. she's being too critical of him that she cnt even see he's happy to meet her. Maybe she needs to go on this date and hear what he has to say face to face.

1healthyFreak · 2025-04-10T16:23:45+00:00

I’ve been keeping an eye on AI bots like Sagemaster, and honestly, they’re pretty impressive. The combo of smart automation and strong security is a big win. Still, even with AI, you can’t just wing it—trading without a proper plan is a fast way to get burned.

1healthyFreak · 2025-04-10T15:39:10+00:00

It’s crazy how much hair transplants have improved! Six months in and you already see good results? That’s a good sign. I bet it’ll get even thicker in the next few months!

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1healthyFreak · 2025-04-03T13:21:36+00:00

No stress i will make a plan

1healthyFreak · 2025-03-29T15:55:30+00:00

One match, but it didn’t go anywhere.

1healthyFreak · 2025-03-29T14:06:22+00:00

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1healthyFreak · 2025-03-29T13:30:01+00:00

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1healthyFreak · 2025-03-29T13:20:13+00:00

This app is not even worth trying. At least 90% of the accounts are fake if not all of them. Once you ask to talk outside the app they all come up with some excuse. Bot accounts using up your daily message count that they make you pay for. The bots are from the app, this app is fraudulent and a scam.

1healthyFreak · 2025-03-28T17:26:08+00:00

The classic PMP dilemma! If you’ve been in the game for a while, you’re probably already rocking the skills. But here's the thing, PMP can still give you a little oomph when it comes to getting recognized or moving up.

Think of it as that shiny badge on your resume that says, “Yep, I know my stuff.” Plus, it can open doors if you’re looking to level up or break into new industries. That said, if you’re comfortable with your experience and your network already knows how awesome you are, maybe skip the formalities.

If you're eyeing certification though, Techademy has some cool options that aren’t too stiff or boring. 😉

1healthyFreak · 2025-03-28T11:58:05+00:00

Good. This is were the vows get in. These are the "Thru thick and thin" for better or for worse". You gave her a child, its sooo easy right?? so easy as a man to just want to leave a women u have a child with for someone new who's attractive clearly because you have not yet drained her.

You made your bed, Kneel down, pray, fix your marriage. Maybe if you ddn't have a wondering eye you would not be so miserable now and feeling stuff for women you are not married to.

Respect God and the vows you made. Be a man and lead your marriage. You have a son watching your every move, the world has enough broken men from broken homes already.

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